We are more a sum total of the experiences we choose than the ones we don't, but we blame the later so we can claim the victim.
All I can do is get up everyday, try to be the best versions of myself I can. Recognize the improvements and hold myself accountable for the set backs. So at the end of the day I can have confidence that I will have the respect of those that matter and the ones that don't.... well you know :0)