Life is only the mirror into which a man gazes not in order that he may get a reflection of himself, but that he may come to understand himself by that reflection; that he may see what it is that the mirror shows."
no matter how painful the truth may be, the truth in words is of great value and I normally withhold that from anyone - especially if I believe it will help that person in the long run. Someone has to be the messenger when nobody else can stand up and do the job.