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Healthy relationships 1242013

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Marcus Cage
Marcus Cage

This document discusses removing emotional wounds from the past in order to heal and move forward. It states that wounds cannot heal until the "stinger" or cause is removed, and encourages readers to identify the specific events that caused their hurt in order to forgive the past. Examples of emotionally wounded behaviors are provided, such as oversensitivity, irritability, and defensiveness. Readers are instructed to use the 5Ws (who, what, why, when, where) to understand what happened to them so they can take responsibility for healing from the past. The overall message is that past hurts must be addressed and forgiven before true healing and wholeness can begin.

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HealthyHealthy RelationshipsRelationships January 24, 20 1 3January 24, 20 1 3 Em o tio nalEm o tio nal Wo unds Pt. 2Wo unds Pt. 2
PURPOSEPURPOSE Divorcingthepast to advanceinto the future.
Have you ever been stung by a bee? Until the stinger is removed the wound cannot and will not heal.
LET US REMOVE THE STINGER OF THE PAST TODAY! The stingeris the past. Ourproblems are connected to an event orseries of events. Question: What event(s) is ourhurt tied to? Purpose is attempting to pull us away from the past, but instead we choose to hold on.
A solution is A LIQUID, and the answer that settles overdrawn accounts. WE CANNOT DRAWFROMOVERDRAWN ACCOUNTS BECAUSE THERE IS NO VALUE PRESENT.
We do not need to forget the past, we need to FOR- GIVE the past, and the people, places and things connected to it. FOR- GIVE - NESS IS A RELEASING, A LETTING GO OF THE PAST.
Everything heals fromthe inside out. All deep cleanings hurt. We CHOOSE to sleepwalk(Mentally and Physically) because we don't want to feel anything. We don't want to be hurt. We have become insensitive to ouractions because these were norms that were established in ourlives fromprevious (DYSFUNCTIONAL) environments.
Skit # 1 I AMSORRY.
I AMSORRY SORRY (Adjective describing a noun.) I is the noun being describing which is YOU.
I APOLOGIZE. Apologize is a verb that denotes the action we are taking. It is not who we ARE, it is the action and position we are taking. Taking responsibility forouractions.
Word of Wisdom#1: If we refuse to address ourheart issues when the money cometh we will be broke (in $) because of a broken heart that has not be made WHOLE. A broken-fragmented heart equals a broken- fragmented life, and paints a picture of inconsistency and instability.
"Brokenness"in terms of humility allows us to become whole (stable and consistent) when handling money.
Skit#2 BUT
Indicators of someone who is emotionally wounded Over-Sensitivity - "You hurt my feelings." Irresponsibility (Unrealistic Expectations) - "You do it." Irritability - "You get on my nerves." Timidness (Shyness) - "I don't want to stand up and speak." Anger(Isolation) - "Leave me alone!" Defensive (Unwillingness to accept supervision) - "No, I don't want to do it." Unforgiveness - "I want to breakup." Pride - "Me... Me... Me... What about me?" Envy - "Lookat what they got." Jealously - "She thinks she's all that." The Blame Game - "It's yourfault. You always do
Remember: Ourproblems are connected to an event orseries of events. Let's use the 5Ws Who did this to me? What did they do to me? Why did they do this to me? When did they do this to me? Where did this take place? The hurt orpain we endured was not ourfault. We did not deserve this abuse. We NOWhave to take the RESPON-siblity to make the decision to get healed.
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Healthy relationships 1242013

  • 1. HealthyHealthy RelationshipsRelationships January 24, 20 1 3January 24, 20 1 3 Em o tio nalEm o tio nal Wo unds Pt. 2Wo unds Pt. 2
  • 3. Have you ever been stung by a bee? Until the stinger is removed the wound cannot and will not heal.
  • 4. LET US REMOVE THE STINGER OF THE PAST TODAY! The stingeris the past. Ourproblems are connected to an event orseries of events. Question: What event(s) is ourhurt tied to? Purpose is attempting to pull us away from the past, but instead we choose to hold on.
  • 5. A solution is A LIQUID, and the answer that settles overdrawn accounts. WE CANNOT DRAWFROMOVERDRAWN ACCOUNTS BECAUSE THERE IS NO VALUE PRESENT.
  • 6. We do not need to forget the past, we need to FOR- GIVE the past, and the people, places and things connected to it. FOR- GIVE - NESS IS A RELEASING, A LETTING GO OF THE PAST.
  • 7. Everything heals fromthe inside out. All deep cleanings hurt. We CHOOSE to sleepwalk(Mentally and Physically) because we don't want to feel anything. We don't want to be hurt. We have become insensitive to ouractions because these were norms that were established in ourlives fromprevious (DYSFUNCTIONAL) environments.
  • 8. Skit # 1 I AMSORRY.
  • 9. I AMSORRY SORRY (Adjective describing a noun.) I is the noun being describing which is YOU.
  • 10. I APOLOGIZE. Apologize is a verb that denotes the action we are taking. It is not who we ARE, it is the action and position we are taking. Taking responsibility forouractions.
  • 11. Word of Wisdom#1: If we refuse to address ourheart issues when the money cometh we will be broke (in $) because of a broken heart that has not be made WHOLE. A broken-fragmented heart equals a broken- fragmented life, and paints a picture of inconsistency and instability.
  • 12. "Brokenness"in terms of humility allows us to become whole (stable and consistent) when handling money.
  • 14. Indicators of someone who is emotionally wounded Over-Sensitivity - "You hurt my feelings." Irresponsibility (Unrealistic Expectations) - "You do it." Irritability - "You get on my nerves." Timidness (Shyness) - "I don't want to stand up and speak." Anger(Isolation) - "Leave me alone!" Defensive (Unwillingness to accept supervision) - "No, I don't want to do it." Unforgiveness - "I want to breakup." Pride - "Me... Me... Me... What about me?" Envy - "Lookat what they got." Jealously - "She thinks she's all that." The Blame Game - "It's yourfault. You always do
  • 15. Remember: Ourproblems are connected to an event orseries of events. Let's use the 5Ws Who did this to me? What did they do to me? Why did they do this to me? When did they do this to me? Where did this take place? The hurt orpain we endured was not ourfault. We did not deserve this abuse. We NOWhave to take the RESPON-siblity to make the decision to get healed.

Editor's Notes

  1. What are the feelings that result from the stinger?
  2. Tug of War; We are naturally defensive; we spend more time focusing on pulling (going in the direction we want to do).
  3. All deep cleanings hurt