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7. Importance of communicationImportance of communication
? Lesson from Pushpak story
? No communication No
world
? Know communication Know
world
? Goals of communication
? Subordinates Motivation
? Superiors Persuasion
? Peers Acceptance
Relationship
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8. Interpersonal Communication
?Interpersonal communication refers to
communication between individuals
usually in face-to-face private settings
(means not in groups).
?It is the primary way relationships are
created, maintained, and changed.
?It is the utmost form of communication
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9. Interpersonal Communication
? Along with words, every thing is exchanged
–Body language
–Gestures
–Feelings, etc.
? Hence you cannot ‘pretend or bluff or mislead
or hide or cheat or do whatever you want’. All
you can do is to be ‘honest & sincere & open &
do whatever best you can’
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10. “People will judge you and
your ideas based on your
ability to communicate - 7/93
% Rule”
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11. Tips for effective interpersonal communication
? Yes but technique……
? Sandwich technique
? Funnel technique
? Mirroring technique (If anybody is spiritual,
speak in his language)
Ex: A : By the grace of God we achieved it.
B : God is great, we worked hard on that.
? Conversation Generosity: Giving the opposite
person to reveal his/her feelings, opinions,
criticisms, etc. Means listening to people with
patience
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23. Always ask yourself
whether you are
making valid
assumptions about
others
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24. Voice
? Voice modulation –
I NEVER SAID THAT YOU STOLE THE MONEY
? Speak S L O W L Y.….
55% Body Language
7% Content
38% Voice
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25. Tips
? Don’t Apologise (always)
? Speak loudly & clearly
? Call by names. Remember people and
situations earlier you met them
? Don’t just speak, Express-be emotional
? No -ve words: But, If, Can’t, Sorry, etc.
? KISS – Keep It Short & Simple
? More talking doesn’t mean more
communication
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26. SIGNALS OF EMOTIONS
1. FEAR
2. INSULT
3. DISSATISFACTION
4. ANGER
5. DISINTEREST
6. DISAPPOINTMENT
7. GUILT
8. JEALOUSY
9. STRESS
10. LONELINESS
11. SUSPICION
12. ANXIETY
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27. NEGATIVE FACTORS
1. Selfishness.
2. Lack of courtesy.
3. Rude behaviour.
4. Lack of Honesty.
5. Self-centeredness.
6. Arrogance.
7. Conceit.
8. Suspicious nature.
9. Lack of respect for
Moral Values.
10. Impatience.
11. Escapist Behaviour.
12. Unwillingness to
accept the Truth.
13. Greed.
14. Leg pulling Nature.
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28. PERSONAL MAGNETISMPERSONAL MAGNETISM
? Outer personality is in touch with theOuter personality is in touch with the
environment.environment.
? Making personMaking person attractive in terms ofattractive in terms of
posture,posture, gestures, speech.gestures, speech.
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29. Self esteemSelf esteem
? You can't touch it, but it affects how youYou can't touch it, but it affects how you
feel.feel.
? You can't see it, but it's there when youYou can't see it, but it's there when you
look at yourself in the mirror.look at yourself in the mirror.
? You can't hear it, but it's there every timeYou can't hear it, but it's there every time
you talk about yourself.you talk about yourself.
? What is this important but mysteriousWhat is this important but mysterious
thing?thing?
? It's your self-esteem!It's your self-esteem!
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30. SELF ESTEEM
? It's how much you
value yourself.
? How important you
think you are.
? It's how you see
yourself.
? How you feel
about yourself .
? Keep up a sense of
high self esteem
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31. EXAMPLESEXAMPLES
?Some of the best music was composed bySome of the best music was composed by
Beethoven- He was deaf.Beethoven- He was deaf.
?Some of the best poetry written onSome of the best poetry written on
nature was written by Milton. He wasnature was written by Milton. He was
blind.blind.
?One of the greatest world leaders was USOne of the greatest world leaders was US
president Franklin. He served from thepresident Franklin. He served from the
wheel chair.wheel chair.
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32. BUILDING A POSITIVE SELF-
ESTEEM
? Do something for others who cannot repay
you in cash or kind.
? Learn to give and receive compliments.
? Accept responsibility.
? Become Internally Driven, Not Externally
Driven.
? Give yourself positive Auto-Suggestions.
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33. JOHARI WINDOW
A
Arena or public
window (Ideal)
B
Blind window
(Lack of comm.)
C
Crossed or
private window
(Lack of comm.)
D
Dark window
(Ignorance)
know Don’t knowknowDon’tknow
You
I
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35. Complementary transactions
Where the ego state responding is complimentary to the
ego state offering the stimulus... when drawn the vectors
indicating the transaction are parallel.
Communication will continue if the transactions are
complementary
A A
BB
C C
TA
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36. When the ego state addressed is different for the
one responding the communication ceases.
Communication distortion thus breaking
relations.
Crossed Transactions
A A
B
B
C
C
TA
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38. ? CP (Critical Parent)-Protective, setting limits, defining
values (ok); In the process, can become, Critical,
punishing (not ok).
? NP (Nurturing Parent)-Warm, loving, comfort, caring
(ok); Can become, over protective, rescuing (not ok).
? A (Adult)-Makes appraisal of the situation, matured,
believes in capability and equal opportunity.
? NC (Natural Child)-Creative, spontaneous and
intuition. Doesn’t like to be tied up by the rules.
? LP (Little Professor)-Creativity, anticipation, intuition,
guess, fear.
? AC (Adapted Child)-one who modifies his behaviour
under parental influence. He behaves as his boss
wanted him to be. Goes by book.
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