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Talking To Your Partner About Marriage Counseling

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This document discusses talking to your partner about marriage counseling. It notes that divorce rates are high due to life stresses, and that counseling is now more accepted. It advises bringing up counseling when both partners are relaxed and positive, and explains the potential outcomes - they may agree to counseling or the asking partner may go alone initially. It also provides tips for setting goals and focusing on positives when preparing for and attending counseling sessions. Counseling can help couples improve communication and work through various relationship issues to strengthen their marriage.

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It is sad to notice that the divorce rate between couples is climbing at an alarming speed. Although each couple may have different reasons for separating, it is a fact that life is stressful due to high prices, low or non- existing incomes and the pressures of society in general. These factors do have a negative influence on marriages. In the past marriage counseling was viewed as a last and embarrassing resort, but now it has become an accepted process that can do wonders for a relationship.
It is often the case that one person within the relationship has to make the suggestion to go and see a counselor. This needs to be bought up in the proper way so that the other partner agrees and does not feel threatened by the idea. If you are the one who has to do this, then most importantly ensure that you have good timing.
Make sure that you bring up the topic when you are both feeling relaxed, and when there is no one else around. It is a private matter between the two of you and it should not be discussed with anyone else. Try to talk when you know that your partner is not overly stressed from work or other matters, so that it can be a conversation rather than an argument. Talk about it in a positive way, and in a way that your partner won't feel as if he or she is going to be negatively viewed.
There can only be two outcomes when you speak to your spouse. Either he or she agrees to come with you, or he or she declines the offer. If your spouse refuses, then you can consider going on your own. You can learn some skills to improve your relationship, and when your partner takes note of this, then he or she may be more willing to participate.
It is wonderful if you can come to an agreement to start seeing a counselor. It will surely be a step in the right direction. To help the process along, you can do a few things before your first session, or during the time you are visiting the counselor. It is helpful to be clear upon the goals you would like to achieve, therefore, write down what you and your spouse hope to gain from the sessions.
While you are noting your goals, make a few additional points as well. These will be the things that you feel need work. The types of things that you feel are a problem within your relationship. They can be brought forth to the counselor.
Don't forget to focus on the good things about your marriage as well. Developing a positive attitude towards each other goes a long way when trying to improve a relationship. Write down the good things, and try to stay focused on them, rather than on the negative aspects.
Marriage counseling is not a quick-fix solution to a relationship, but it can provide couples with the necessary skills to start moving forward. It is also not just for couples on the verge of divorce, but for new couples who want to ensure the survival of their relationship. A counselor can help with a wide range of problems, including substance abuse and the death of a loved one.
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Talking To Your Partner About Marriage Counseling

  • 1. Talking To Your Partner About Marriage Counseling
  • 2. It is sad to notice that the divorce rate between couples is climbing at an alarming speed. Although each couple may have different reasons for separating, it is a fact that life is stressful due to high prices, low or non- existing incomes and the pressures of society in general. These factors do have a negative influence on marriages. In the past marriage counseling was viewed as a last and embarrassing resort, but now it has become an accepted process that can do wonders for a relationship.
  • 3. It is often the case that one person within the relationship has to make the suggestion to go and see a counselor. This needs to be bought up in the proper way so that the other partner agrees and does not feel threatened by the idea. If you are the one who has to do this, then most importantly ensure that you have good timing.
  • 4. Make sure that you bring up the topic when you are both feeling relaxed, and when there is no one else around. It is a private matter between the two of you and it should not be discussed with anyone else. Try to talk when you know that your partner is not overly stressed from work or other matters, so that it can be a conversation rather than an argument. Talk about it in a positive way, and in a way that your partner won't feel as if he or she is going to be negatively viewed.
  • 5. There can only be two outcomes when you speak to your spouse. Either he or she agrees to come with you, or he or she declines the offer. If your spouse refuses, then you can consider going on your own. You can learn some skills to improve your relationship, and when your partner takes note of this, then he or she may be more willing to participate.
  • 6. It is wonderful if you can come to an agreement to start seeing a counselor. It will surely be a step in the right direction. To help the process along, you can do a few things before your first session, or during the time you are visiting the counselor. It is helpful to be clear upon the goals you would like to achieve, therefore, write down what you and your spouse hope to gain from the sessions.
  • 7. While you are noting your goals, make a few additional points as well. These will be the things that you feel need work. The types of things that you feel are a problem within your relationship. They can be brought forth to the counselor.
  • 8. Don't forget to focus on the good things about your marriage as well. Developing a positive attitude towards each other goes a long way when trying to improve a relationship. Write down the good things, and try to stay focused on them, rather than on the negative aspects.
  • 9. Marriage counseling is not a quick-fix solution to a relationship, but it can provide couples with the necessary skills to start moving forward. It is also not just for couples on the verge of divorce, but for new couples who want to ensure the survival of their relationship. A counselor can help with a wide range of problems, including substance abuse and the death of a loved one.