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The document describes a Polish man's project called "Kogdom" where he documents his experience as the primary caregiver for his family and managing household duties while his wife maintains her career. He took on this role out of necessity when he lost his job, but has found great joy and satisfaction in caring for his children full-time. He aims to share his experiences with other fathers who want a more involved role in family life through maintaining a blog. He outlines his daily schedule and responsibilities which include household chores, childcare, educational support, and exploring activities with his children. The project seeks to challenge gender stereotypes by showing the equal opportunities and benefits of a father serving as the homemaker.

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An Idea A woman who takes care about a household is in Poland a commonly called a kura domowa. If one wants to draw a parallel one can call a man who does the same: kur domowy. The English words "housewife or homemaker does not fully reflect Polish idioms, however the main idea of my project is to share my experience as a man whose main occupation is caring for the family, managing household affairs, and doing housework. Let me than call myself the Homemaker - at least until I find more suitable expression. The idea of taking care of home lasts since forever. In the 21st century, the age of the new thinking, new technology and way of life, the man who does so as a full time job is still probably rare. So, the idea of the taking care of the fireside by a man is somehow an innovative way of thinking that breaks stereotypes and shows constant changes in society. Today, does not matter male or female, we all have equal opportunities in every area of life and activity, so looking after a home also should follow the same rules. Such a way of living in my case was a conscious decision, and this is just a one observation which I want to share with the world. I hope that, Ill manage to pass some on my experience, and the very idea of a homemaker will spread and take on a new dimension in the contemporary world, it becomes a kind of signum temporis of the 21st century. That is my dream. The project is dedicated to my children, that I will always love.
For whom The idea of the homemaker is really addressed to both parents. However, I want to share my experience, knowledge and skills mainly with fathers who want to take on this role or who want to become more involved in family life while not giving up their careers. A blog that I prepared is dedicated to small, daily routine which facilitates life, and the experience is to help you look at a lot of things in a different way . I know that sometimes small, usual things can hamper a proactive attitude, so my advice shall make you enjoying the life disregarding those minor obstacles.
Inspirations I have always dreamed to write a book . For a long time it seemed to be very difficult to realize. However, in the twenty-first century we have a great platform for communication and transmission of thoughts and ideas - the internet . Formerly man had to write the book , print , distribute among readers. Today one can do it, so to speak, in stages - through websites, instant messaging and blogs. Printed form is still great, but for the beginner, the Internet provides better opportunities of communication. So, I will use this opportunity to submit my ideas, thoughts and experiences to readers. A few years ago, a global corporation introduced for their employees a program which activated men as fathers. The program envisaged the involvement of men in the role of the father for the benefit of the society. I'm very impressed with this company and their attitude (because the role of the father in the family should be meaningful) and then I came up with the idea to get more involved in this role. Now, after several years of experience in the role the Homemaker, I appreciate the attitude of the company even more. I can also help other men to change their attitude and to start looking at this issue from a different angle.
How it Happened Up to 2006 I was as typical every male in his thirties. That is I was working, I helped my wife at home with shopping, cleaning, childcare, which was actually nothing special. The breaking point was in 2007- when I lost my job and to get a new one I had to make a hard decision: either I leave the town I was living in with my family to search my luck somewhere else or I stay at home looking after our children while my wife will continue her career. Accepting a role of a homemaker when your wife is going to be a breadwinner? One must say, its not the easy one especially for a man raised in traditional Polish family, in which those roles were completely opposite. Although this decision was dictated by many factors, the most important was the welfare of our children and providing them with total care and support 24 hours a day. So here we are. 2015 - and eight years old practice in running the household The man as the head of the family can and should take responsibility for their loved ones at the various levels of life. Homemaking is hard and demanding work, and children the most demanding employers. It does not bring measurable financial benefits, but shows a husband and a father in a different role. One can tell that this is a different perspective on the man. I'd like to see this website as a source of inspiration and advice for families who want to adopt such a model of life. I wish every Father to experience so much joy, satisfaction and great moments, as I have been feeling, what will surely make him sure that he has taken the right decision.
Benefits The Father He is always with the children, plays with them, goes on tours, does shopping, prepares meals, helps in learning, takes care when they are ill. He is available 24 hours a day and does a lot of other things that are even difficult to call. By doing so he can to realize himself as responsible and loving man . Children They have full, 24 hours a day, care in case of any problems (health, school, etc.). They receive a help in all aspects of their life - fun, food, tours, learning about the world, science and many, many others. At any time they can talk to their parent of any, even the smallest, issues and shall receive an answer. They are aware that their parent looks after them all the time, so they can freely play and learn about the world. You can take your them in any place which they dream on - naturally this will depend on your financial possibilities. They always have a something small to eat ice creams, candies, yogurts, fruits and other, on condition that these are harmless to their health. A Marriage The woman can develop her career and perfectly fulfill her ambition, dreams and ideas. She can be fully flexible does not have to worry about the everyday life. She is completely relieved from all these little things connected to raising the children, and has a comfort to devote all her spare time to enjoy her motherhood. At the same time the man can look at many things from another point of view, raise his value as a human being who is open and modern. He can break down stereotypes and realize the idea of equality in everyday life.
4. By doing a job of the homemaker you can give pursue your dreams, passion and professional goals as well. The condition is that you are fully committed to your activity and you treat this as professional work. A self-discipline, organization of working time and consistency in achieving your objectives are the keys to success. One should remember that in this sphere the homemaker should keep an eye on all issues, because here you do not have a boss that tells you what to do and motivates you to do the job. In other words you must paddle your own canoe. You are also independent and decision-maker. It is worth remembering.
Duties Economic: Everyday shopping (fresh bread, meat, fruits, vegetables) and weekly (dairy, yogurt, spices, cosmetics and other with a longer expiry date). Preparing meals: breakfast, lunch to school, lunch, afternoon tea, dinner . Caring for a balanced diet rich in all the ingredients necessary for a child's health. Daily cleaning: washing dishes, folding clothes and toys. Weekly cleaning - once or twice a week thorough cleaning of the entire house. The great cleanup - two or three times a year thorough laying in closets, cleaning all surfaces, replacement of clothing (children quickly grow out of clothes, so you want to have in cabinets current size), replacement of textbooks and exercise books. Health and Education Help in studying - suggesting how to do a homework, supervise a study time and organization of school time. Assistance in checking the knowledge and skills before the test or class work. Participation in all school celebrations upon invitation and in performances at school and beyond. Driving children to kindergarten, school and extracurricular activities. Motivating to learn and develop their abilities. Following the events at school. Full care in case of illness of a child - doctors visits, watch timely dosage of medication. Adjustment of diet in case of health problems after consulting the doctor . Regular visits to rehabilitation clinics or specialists if necessary.
Rehabilitation exercises at home under the guidance of a doctor. Other resulting from the child's needs. Exploring the world: Visit to the playground. Family tours in the city and surrounding area. Reading books. Playing together at home: blocks, puzzles, dolls, teddies, puzzles and other invented by children. Watching television and surfing the Internet. Visits to art galleries, museums, cultural centers, etc. Other resulting from the needs of the moment, for example: concerts, celebrations, festivals, etc . Paying attention, where they want to go and meet their expectations.
Schedule of the day Schedule of the day makes all the duties are arranged in rhythm. One can execute them efficiently and easily, and daily repeatability gives a sense of stability. A sample of daily schedule: 6.00-6.30. - Wake-up. Getting ready for the day; 6.30-7.00. - Morning shopping: fresh bread, ham; 7.00-7.30. - Preparing breakfast for the family and second breakfast to school; 7.30-8.30. Driving/walking children to kindergarten/school; 8.30-9.00 - Breakfast for myself 9.00-10.00 - More shopping - products for lunch (vegetables, fruit, household chemicals, school supplies); 10.00-13.00 - Free time; 13.00-15.00 - Preparing lunch; 15.00-16.00 Pick-up children after school; 16.00-17.00 - Lunch, cleaning up after dinner (living room, kitchen); 17.00-19.00 - Help with homework, extracurricular activities or time to play with children; 19.00-20.30 - Supper; 20.30-21.30 - Time spent with the children; 21.30-22.00 - Preparing to sleep (evening toilet, pajamas, evening activities); 22.00 - Children go to bed. The Homemaker has a time to fall asleep in front of the TV.
This schedule is just an example of arranging average day in the rhythm of executing the tasks. One need to keep in mind the huge self-discipline that everything worked smoothly. For a few months at the beginning of this work it is difficult to sort things out, but after six months this rhythm becomes a habit, and life becomes easier. Additionally, this a schedule for weekdays. On weekends and holidays, I suggest to take meal times as a reference point and can carry out day in accordance to them. The most important element though, no matter what the duties are is to maintain stability of the day. One should be reasonably flexible , because there are always new things to deal. In this case, it is worth stick to meal times. The essence of the schedule should be constant repetition of activities for children. After a while they will begin insisting to repeat the routine.
VERY IMPORTANT My wife supports my work very much and without her devotion and financial support I wouldnt be successful in my role. I acknowledge this and I appreciate the burden she bears in our life. Acknowledgments, I thank my wonderful children - son and daughter for their presence. I thank my wife for daily efforts. And finally thanks to R., my friend for his support.
PHOTO GALLERY Im a very proud father. Proud of my little ones. Id like to share all the photos of them which I've made more than 25,000 for the last 8 years. However, in this gallery there are just the sketches, so the each parent can see in these pictures his own kid. By doing so I hope every parent will have a chance to imagine his family similar situations.
Project kogdom for english 1
Project kogdom for english 1

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  • 2. An Idea A woman who takes care about a household is in Poland a commonly called a kura domowa. If one wants to draw a parallel one can call a man who does the same: kur domowy. The English words "housewife or homemaker does not fully reflect Polish idioms, however the main idea of my project is to share my experience as a man whose main occupation is caring for the family, managing household affairs, and doing housework. Let me than call myself the Homemaker - at least until I find more suitable expression. The idea of taking care of home lasts since forever. In the 21st century, the age of the new thinking, new technology and way of life, the man who does so as a full time job is still probably rare. So, the idea of the taking care of the fireside by a man is somehow an innovative way of thinking that breaks stereotypes and shows constant changes in society. Today, does not matter male or female, we all have equal opportunities in every area of life and activity, so looking after a home also should follow the same rules. Such a way of living in my case was a conscious decision, and this is just a one observation which I want to share with the world. I hope that, Ill manage to pass some on my experience, and the very idea of a homemaker will spread and take on a new dimension in the contemporary world, it becomes a kind of signum temporis of the 21st century. That is my dream. The project is dedicated to my children, that I will always love.
  • 3. For whom The idea of the homemaker is really addressed to both parents. However, I want to share my experience, knowledge and skills mainly with fathers who want to take on this role or who want to become more involved in family life while not giving up their careers. A blog that I prepared is dedicated to small, daily routine which facilitates life, and the experience is to help you look at a lot of things in a different way . I know that sometimes small, usual things can hamper a proactive attitude, so my advice shall make you enjoying the life disregarding those minor obstacles.
  • 4. Inspirations I have always dreamed to write a book . For a long time it seemed to be very difficult to realize. However, in the twenty-first century we have a great platform for communication and transmission of thoughts and ideas - the internet . Formerly man had to write the book , print , distribute among readers. Today one can do it, so to speak, in stages - through websites, instant messaging and blogs. Printed form is still great, but for the beginner, the Internet provides better opportunities of communication. So, I will use this opportunity to submit my ideas, thoughts and experiences to readers. A few years ago, a global corporation introduced for their employees a program which activated men as fathers. The program envisaged the involvement of men in the role of the father for the benefit of the society. I'm very impressed with this company and their attitude (because the role of the father in the family should be meaningful) and then I came up with the idea to get more involved in this role. Now, after several years of experience in the role the Homemaker, I appreciate the attitude of the company even more. I can also help other men to change their attitude and to start looking at this issue from a different angle.
  • 5. How it Happened Up to 2006 I was as typical every male in his thirties. That is I was working, I helped my wife at home with shopping, cleaning, childcare, which was actually nothing special. The breaking point was in 2007- when I lost my job and to get a new one I had to make a hard decision: either I leave the town I was living in with my family to search my luck somewhere else or I stay at home looking after our children while my wife will continue her career. Accepting a role of a homemaker when your wife is going to be a breadwinner? One must say, its not the easy one especially for a man raised in traditional Polish family, in which those roles were completely opposite. Although this decision was dictated by many factors, the most important was the welfare of our children and providing them with total care and support 24 hours a day. So here we are. 2015 - and eight years old practice in running the household The man as the head of the family can and should take responsibility for their loved ones at the various levels of life. Homemaking is hard and demanding work, and children the most demanding employers. It does not bring measurable financial benefits, but shows a husband and a father in a different role. One can tell that this is a different perspective on the man. I'd like to see this website as a source of inspiration and advice for families who want to adopt such a model of life. I wish every Father to experience so much joy, satisfaction and great moments, as I have been feeling, what will surely make him sure that he has taken the right decision.
  • 6. Benefits The Father He is always with the children, plays with them, goes on tours, does shopping, prepares meals, helps in learning, takes care when they are ill. He is available 24 hours a day and does a lot of other things that are even difficult to call. By doing so he can to realize himself as responsible and loving man . Children They have full, 24 hours a day, care in case of any problems (health, school, etc.). They receive a help in all aspects of their life - fun, food, tours, learning about the world, science and many, many others. At any time they can talk to their parent of any, even the smallest, issues and shall receive an answer. They are aware that their parent looks after them all the time, so they can freely play and learn about the world. You can take your them in any place which they dream on - naturally this will depend on your financial possibilities. They always have a something small to eat ice creams, candies, yogurts, fruits and other, on condition that these are harmless to their health. A Marriage The woman can develop her career and perfectly fulfill her ambition, dreams and ideas. She can be fully flexible does not have to worry about the everyday life. She is completely relieved from all these little things connected to raising the children, and has a comfort to devote all her spare time to enjoy her motherhood. At the same time the man can look at many things from another point of view, raise his value as a human being who is open and modern. He can break down stereotypes and realize the idea of equality in everyday life.
  • 7. 4. By doing a job of the homemaker you can give pursue your dreams, passion and professional goals as well. The condition is that you are fully committed to your activity and you treat this as professional work. A self-discipline, organization of working time and consistency in achieving your objectives are the keys to success. One should remember that in this sphere the homemaker should keep an eye on all issues, because here you do not have a boss that tells you what to do and motivates you to do the job. In other words you must paddle your own canoe. You are also independent and decision-maker. It is worth remembering.
  • 8. Duties Economic: Everyday shopping (fresh bread, meat, fruits, vegetables) and weekly (dairy, yogurt, spices, cosmetics and other with a longer expiry date). Preparing meals: breakfast, lunch to school, lunch, afternoon tea, dinner . Caring for a balanced diet rich in all the ingredients necessary for a child's health. Daily cleaning: washing dishes, folding clothes and toys. Weekly cleaning - once or twice a week thorough cleaning of the entire house. The great cleanup - two or three times a year thorough laying in closets, cleaning all surfaces, replacement of clothing (children quickly grow out of clothes, so you want to have in cabinets current size), replacement of textbooks and exercise books. Health and Education Help in studying - suggesting how to do a homework, supervise a study time and organization of school time. Assistance in checking the knowledge and skills before the test or class work. Participation in all school celebrations upon invitation and in performances at school and beyond. Driving children to kindergarten, school and extracurricular activities. Motivating to learn and develop their abilities. Following the events at school. Full care in case of illness of a child - doctors visits, watch timely dosage of medication. Adjustment of diet in case of health problems after consulting the doctor . Regular visits to rehabilitation clinics or specialists if necessary.
  • 9. Rehabilitation exercises at home under the guidance of a doctor. Other resulting from the child's needs. Exploring the world: Visit to the playground. Family tours in the city and surrounding area. Reading books. Playing together at home: blocks, puzzles, dolls, teddies, puzzles and other invented by children. Watching television and surfing the Internet. Visits to art galleries, museums, cultural centers, etc. Other resulting from the needs of the moment, for example: concerts, celebrations, festivals, etc . Paying attention, where they want to go and meet their expectations.
  • 10. Schedule of the day Schedule of the day makes all the duties are arranged in rhythm. One can execute them efficiently and easily, and daily repeatability gives a sense of stability. A sample of daily schedule: 6.00-6.30. - Wake-up. Getting ready for the day; 6.30-7.00. - Morning shopping: fresh bread, ham; 7.00-7.30. - Preparing breakfast for the family and second breakfast to school; 7.30-8.30. Driving/walking children to kindergarten/school; 8.30-9.00 - Breakfast for myself 9.00-10.00 - More shopping - products for lunch (vegetables, fruit, household chemicals, school supplies); 10.00-13.00 - Free time; 13.00-15.00 - Preparing lunch; 15.00-16.00 Pick-up children after school; 16.00-17.00 - Lunch, cleaning up after dinner (living room, kitchen); 17.00-19.00 - Help with homework, extracurricular activities or time to play with children; 19.00-20.30 - Supper; 20.30-21.30 - Time spent with the children; 21.30-22.00 - Preparing to sleep (evening toilet, pajamas, evening activities); 22.00 - Children go to bed. The Homemaker has a time to fall asleep in front of the TV.
  • 11. This schedule is just an example of arranging average day in the rhythm of executing the tasks. One need to keep in mind the huge self-discipline that everything worked smoothly. For a few months at the beginning of this work it is difficult to sort things out, but after six months this rhythm becomes a habit, and life becomes easier. Additionally, this a schedule for weekdays. On weekends and holidays, I suggest to take meal times as a reference point and can carry out day in accordance to them. The most important element though, no matter what the duties are is to maintain stability of the day. One should be reasonably flexible , because there are always new things to deal. In this case, it is worth stick to meal times. The essence of the schedule should be constant repetition of activities for children. After a while they will begin insisting to repeat the routine.
  • 12. VERY IMPORTANT My wife supports my work very much and without her devotion and financial support I wouldnt be successful in my role. I acknowledge this and I appreciate the burden she bears in our life. Acknowledgments, I thank my wonderful children - son and daughter for their presence. I thank my wife for daily efforts. And finally thanks to R., my friend for his support.
  • 13. PHOTO GALLERY Im a very proud father. Proud of my little ones. Id like to share all the photos of them which I've made more than 25,000 for the last 8 years. However, in this gallery there are just the sketches, so the each parent can see in these pictures his own kid. By doing so I hope every parent will have a chance to imagine his family similar situations.