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Dear	
 Fabio	
 and	
 Annalina,	
 
	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 	
 Firstly	
 Barbara	
 and	
 Myself	
 would	
 like	
 to	
 humbly	
 apologise	
 
for	
 leaving	
 the	
 oven	
 on	
 it	
 was	
 my	
 fault	
 entirely	
 and	
 I	
 am	
 deeply	
 sorry	
 that	
 I	
 am	
 
not	
 as	
 perfect	
 as	
 the	
 two	
 of	
 you	
 and	
 unlike	
 yourselves	
 I	
 do	
 sometimes	
 make	
 
mistakes.	
 	
 
It	
 must	
 be	
 so	
 difficult	
 for	
 two	
 people	
 who	
 are	
 totally	
 perfect	
 in	
 every	
 facet	
 of	
 
their	
 being	
 to	
 have	
 to	
 live	
 with	
 mere	
 mortal	
 types	
 like	
 ourselves.	
 As	
 people	
 we	
 
have	
 defects	
 and	
 these	
 can	
 often	
 manifest	
 themselves	
 as	
 careless	
 mistakes.	
 I	
 am	
 
grateful	
 to	
 you	
 for	
 pointing	
 this	
 mistake	
 out,	
 as	
 it	
 is	
 obviously	
 a	
 safety	
 issue.	
 We	
 
are	
 saddened	
 however	
 that	
 you	
 feel	
 you	
 must	
 insist	
 on	
 writing	
 condescending,	
 
arrogant	
 and	
 pretentious	
 notes	
 and	
 then	
 placing	
 them	
 on	
 the	
 fridge	
 and	
 thereby	
 
putting	
 them	
 into	
 the	
 public	
 domain.	
 
So	
 let	
 us	
 just	
 point	
 out	
 a	
 few	
 things	
 to	
 you,	
 which	
 are	
 sure	
 you	
 will	
 in	
 due	
 course	
 
ignore,	
 make	
 excuses	
 for	
 or	
 just	
 scapegoat	
 someone	
 so	
 you	
 don’t	
 have	
 to	
 face	
 
your	
 own	
 shortcomings.	
 So	
 what	
 is	
 the	
 point	
 in	
 highlighting	
 these	
 things?	
 I	
 hear	
 
you	
 ask.	
 Well,	
 since	
 a	
 president	
 has	
 been	
 set	
 for	
 pointing	
 out	
 other	
 people’s	
 
failings	
 and	
 then	
 placing	
 them	
 on	
 the	
 fridge	
 like	
 some	
 sort	
 of	
 self	
 appointed	
 town	
 
clerk,	
 I	
 feel	
 it	
 is	
 my	
 constitutional	
 duty.	
 	
 
	
 
                     • On	
 many	
 occasions	
 we	
 have	
 found	
 the	
 front	
 door	
 open	
 with	
 the	
 catch	
 
                                                 down	
 and	
 the	
 middle	
 door	
 open.	
 This	
 can	
 be	
 very	
 dangerous	
 as	
 people	
 can	
 
                                                 get	
 into	
 the	
 house	
 and	
 steel	
 all	
 our	
 possessions.	
 
                     • The	
 light	
 downstairs	
 is	
 frequently	
 left	
 on	
 despite	
 the	
 fact	
 we	
 have	
 no	
 
                                                 switch	
 for	
 it	
 upstairs.	
 
                     • Almost	
 ever	
 day	
 when	
 we	
 come	
 home	
 from	
 work	
 the	
 kitchen	
 surfaces	
 are	
 
                                                 filthy	
 and	
 covered	
 in	
 breadcrumbs	
 or	
 chocolate	
 sprinkles	
 which	
 we	
 never	
 
                                                 use.	
 This	
 is	
 only	
 if	
 the	
 surfaces	
 are	
 not	
 being	
 used	
 like	
 a	
 garage	
 or	
 a	
 
                                                 workshop	
 presumably	
 because	
 the	
 basement,	
 the	
 shed	
 and	
 the	
 lounge	
 
                                                 aren’t	
 enough	
 room	
 for	
 you	
 to	
 work.	
 Crumbs	
 in	
 the	
 kitchen	
 leads	
 to	
 mice	
 
                                                 getting	
 in	
 and	
 we	
 all	
 know	
 how	
 severe	
 an	
 issue	
 this	
 is	
 in	
 the	
 house	
 (see	
 
                                                 photos)
BS
•   The	
 gangway	
 to	
 the	
 front	
 door	
 is	
 constantly	
 blocked	
 by	
 your	
 stuff	
 and	
 there	
 
    is	
 very	
 little	
 room	
 for	
 access,	
 which	
 can	
 be	
 difficult	
 if	
 someone	
 has	
 a	
 big	
 bag	
 
    or	
 something	
 to	
 get	
 out	
 or	
 in	
 the	
 front	
 door	
 and	
 if	
 they	
 come	
 in	
 late	
 this	
 can	
 
    be	
 very	
 disturbing	
 for	
 those	
 trying	
 to	
 sleep.	
 This	
 is	
 also	
 a	
 major	
 safety	
 issue	
 
    as	
 if	
 there	
 was	
 a	
 fire	
 in	
 the	
 house	
 then	
 we	
 all	
 be	
 tripping	
 over	
 your	
 things	
 to	
 
    escape.	
 
•   Your	
 possessions	
 occupy	
 the	
 majority	
 of	
 the	
 communal	
 space	
 yet	
 you	
 pay	
 
    the	
 minority	
 of	
 the	
 rent	
 in	
 the	
 house.	
 (See	
 diagram)

                                            Usage	
 of	
 Comunal	
 Space	
 



                                                                                                                                       Fabio	
 and	
 
                                                                                                                                       Annalina	
 
                                                                                                                                       Andy	
 

                                                                                                                                       Barbara	
 

                                                                                                                                       Claudio	
 




                                                                        Rent	
 



                                                                                                                                         Fabio	
 	
 
                                                                                                                                         Annalina	
 
                                                                                                                                         Barbara	
 
                                                                                                                                         Andy	
 
                                                                                                                                         Claudio

              	
 
      • You	
 make	
 conscious	
 decisions	
 on	
 issues	
 that	
 involve	
 the	
 whole	
 house	
 
              without	
 letting	
 us	
 know	
 anything	
 about	
 it.	
 
      • You	
 make	
 our	
 guests	
 feel	
 un-­‐welcome	
 and	
 they	
 are	
 seldom	
 allowed	
 any	
 
              space	
 to	
 eat	
 or	
 commune	
 pleasantly.	
 	
 
      • On	
 several	
 occasions	
 guests	
 have	
 pointed	
 out	
 that	
 there	
 is	
 hair	
 on	
 the	
 table	
 
              in	
 the	
 lounge,	
 this	
 is	
 neither	
 Barbara’s	
 hair	
 nor	
 mine.	
 This	
 is	
 particularly	
 
              embarrassing	
 when	
 we	
 are	
 forced	
 to	
 feed	
 our	
 guest	
 in	
 the	
 lounge	
 due	
 to	
 
              fact	
 that	
 you	
 insist	
 on	
 setting	
 a	
 table	
 to	
 eat	
 a	
 substantial	
 time	
 before	
 you	
 
              actually	
 do	
 eat.	
 
      • You	
 decided	
 to	
 stop	
 paying	
 towards	
 the	
 communal	
 money	
 (without	
 telling	
 
              us).	
 This	
 lead	
 to	
 me	
 using	
 change	
 from	
 the	
 rent	
 to	
 buy	
 toilet	
 paper	
 and	
 
              kitchen	
 role,	
 I	
 have	
 one	
 receipt	
 that	
 accounts	
 for	
 £6.71(see	
 enclosed)	
 of	
 the	
 
              money	
 but	
 I	
 am	
 afraid	
 to	
 say	
 that	
 I	
 do	
 not	
 have	
 the	
 other.	
 I	
 do	
 not	
 feel	
 this	
 
              should	
 lead	
 to	
 accusations	
 of	
 theft	
 and	
 it	
 saddens	
 me	
 to	
 think	
 that	
 you	
 
              could	
 believe	
 that	
 someone	
 you	
 live	
 with	
 could	
 be	
 trying	
 to	
 short	
 change	
 
              you.	
 On	
 a	
 personal	
 level	
 I	
 do	
 feel	
 deeply	
 insulted	
 by	
 this	
 action.	
 This	
 is	
 
              especially	
 as	
 that	
 month	
 I	
 paid	
 the	
 rent;	
 I	
 paid	
 the	
 Council	
 Tax	
 and	
 I	
 Paid	
 
              the	
 electricity	
 all	
 of	
 which	
 befitted	
 you	
 in	
 some	
 way.	
 Then	
 I	
 come	
 home	
 
              find	
 you	
 are	
 accusing	
 me	
 of	
 theft	
 and	
 telling	
 me	
 they	
 don’t	
 feel	
 appreciated	
 
              and	
 don’t	
 want	
 to	
 contribute	
 on	
 a	
 communal	
 fund	
 which	
 we	
 all	
 agreed	
 on,	
 
              well	
 thanks	
 a	
 lot!	
 
      • When	
 we	
 did	
 communally	
 buy	
 toilet	
 paper	
 the	
 toilet	
 role	
 was	
 never	
 
              changed	
 and	
 for	
 a	
 long	
 time	
 I	
 believed	
 no	
 one	
 else	
 knew	
 how	
 to	
 change	
 a	
 
              toilet	
 roll.	
 
      • I	
 arranged	
 a	
 meeting	
 to	
 discuss	
 the	
 renewing	
 of	
 the	
 contract	
 and	
 other	
 
              communal	
 house	
 matters	
 that	
 we	
 all	
 agreed	
 should	
 take	
 place	
 on	
 Sunday	
 
              early	
 evening	
 as	
 we	
 agreed	
 it	
 was	
 the	
 best	
 time	
 for	
 everyone.	
 We	
 were	
 at	
 
              home	
 at	
 1630	
 and	
 were	
 available,	
 as	
 were	
 you	
 as	
 we	
 were	
 all	
 in	
 the	
 
              kitchen	
 so	
 you	
 had	
 ample	
 opportunity	
 to	
 discuss	
 any	
 issues	
 the	
 two	
 of	
 you	
 
              had	
 between	
 the	
 two	
 of	
 us	
 without	
 having	
 to	
 involve	
 other	
 people	
 in	
 
              matters	
 relating	
 to	
 the	
 four	
 of	
 us.	
 
              	
 
             It	
 is	
 with	
 deep	
 regret	
 that	
 you	
 have	
 forced	
 us	
 into	
 having	
 to	
 write	
 this	
 letter	
 
as	
 it	
 is	
 not	
 usually	
 the	
 level	
 of	
 communication	
 we	
 would	
 lower	
 ourselves	
 to.	
 
When	
 you	
 share	
 a	
 house	
 with	
 other	
 people	
 it	
 is	
 important	
 that	
 people	
 can	
 
compromise.	
 I	
 do	
 not	
 feel	
 that	
 you	
 understand	
 the	
 concept	
 of	
 this.	
 In	
 the	
 past	
 
your	
 notion	
 of	
 coming	
 to	
 a	
 compromise	
 has	
 consisted	
 of	
 repeating	
 something	
 
over	
 and	
 over	
 again	
 until	
 everybody	
 agrees	
 with	
 it.	
 This	
 is	
 not	
 how	
 compromise	
 
works.	
 	
 
             Most	
 grievances	
 and	
 minor	
 quibbles	
 which	
 inevitably	
 exist	
 when	
 more	
 than	
 
one	
 body	
 occupy	
 a	
 space	
 are	
 left	
 unsaid	
 in	
 order	
 to	
 benefit	
 the	
 many	
 rather	
 than	
 
the	
 few.	
 If	
 this	
 equilibrium	
 is	
 not	
 sustained	
 then	
 it	
 leads	
 to	
 anonymity	
 and	
 a	
 lack	
 
of	
 understanding.
In	
 order	
 to	
 highlight	
 some	
 of	
 the	
 contemptible	
 behaviour	
 displayed	
 by	
 the	
 
two	
 of	
 you	
 unfortunately	
 we	
 also	
 seem	
 to	
 have	
 been	
 forced	
 into	
 having	
 to	
 behave	
 
in	
 the	
 same	
 way	
 so	
 you	
 appreciate	
 how	
 utterly	
 deplorable	
 these	
 things	
 can	
 get.	
 
Judging	
 by	
 you	
 sarcastic,	
 patronising,	
 miss-­‐spelled,	
 badly	
 punctuated	
 and	
 
downright	
 rude	
 messages	
 I	
 guess	
 you	
 might	
 see	
 the	
 point.	
 If	
 you	
 don’t	
 then	
 we	
 
will	
 be	
 happy	
 for	
 you	
 to	
 delude	
 yourselves	
 into	
 believing	
 this	
 is	
 all	
 our	
 fault	
 after	
 
all,	
 this	
 seems	
 to	
 be	
 what	
 is	
 most	
 likely	
 to	
 happen.	
 
I	
 just	
 hope	
 that	
 if	
 you	
 live	
 together	
 on	
 your	
 own	
 you	
 may	
 learn	
 that	
 sometimes	
 
you	
 have	
 to	
 be	
 responsible	
 for	
 your	
 own	
 actions	
 and	
 admit	
 that	
 you	
 are	
 wrong.

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BS

  • 1. Dear Fabio and Annalina, Firstly Barbara and Myself would like to humbly apologise for leaving the oven on it was my fault entirely and I am deeply sorry that I am not as perfect as the two of you and unlike yourselves I do sometimes make mistakes. It must be so difficult for two people who are totally perfect in every facet of their being to have to live with mere mortal types like ourselves. As people we have defects and these can often manifest themselves as careless mistakes. I am grateful to you for pointing this mistake out, as it is obviously a safety issue. We are saddened however that you feel you must insist on writing condescending, arrogant and pretentious notes and then placing them on the fridge and thereby putting them into the public domain. So let us just point out a few things to you, which are sure you will in due course ignore, make excuses for or just scapegoat someone so you don’t have to face your own shortcomings. So what is the point in highlighting these things? I hear you ask. Well, since a president has been set for pointing out other people’s failings and then placing them on the fridge like some sort of self appointed town clerk, I feel it is my constitutional duty. • On many occasions we have found the front door open with the catch down and the middle door open. This can be very dangerous as people can get into the house and steel all our possessions. • The light downstairs is frequently left on despite the fact we have no switch for it upstairs. • Almost ever day when we come home from work the kitchen surfaces are filthy and covered in breadcrumbs or chocolate sprinkles which we never use. This is only if the surfaces are not being used like a garage or a workshop presumably because the basement, the shed and the lounge aren’t enough room for you to work. Crumbs in the kitchen leads to mice getting in and we all know how severe an issue this is in the house (see photos)
  • 3.
  • 4. The gangway to the front door is constantly blocked by your stuff and there is very little room for access, which can be difficult if someone has a big bag or something to get out or in the front door and if they come in late this can be very disturbing for those trying to sleep. This is also a major safety issue as if there was a fire in the house then we all be tripping over your things to escape. • Your possessions occupy the majority of the communal space yet you pay the minority of the rent in the house. (See diagram) Usage of Comunal Space Fabio and Annalina Andy Barbara Claudio Rent Fabio Annalina Barbara Andy Claudio
  • 5. • You make conscious decisions on issues that involve the whole house without letting us know anything about it. • You make our guests feel un-­‐welcome and they are seldom allowed any space to eat or commune pleasantly. • On several occasions guests have pointed out that there is hair on the table in the lounge, this is neither Barbara’s hair nor mine. This is particularly embarrassing when we are forced to feed our guest in the lounge due to fact that you insist on setting a table to eat a substantial time before you actually do eat. • You decided to stop paying towards the communal money (without telling us). This lead to me using change from the rent to buy toilet paper and kitchen role, I have one receipt that accounts for £6.71(see enclosed) of the money but I am afraid to say that I do not have the other. I do not feel this should lead to accusations of theft and it saddens me to think that you could believe that someone you live with could be trying to short change you. On a personal level I do feel deeply insulted by this action. This is especially as that month I paid the rent; I paid the Council Tax and I Paid the electricity all of which befitted you in some way. Then I come home find you are accusing me of theft and telling me they don’t feel appreciated and don’t want to contribute on a communal fund which we all agreed on, well thanks a lot! • When we did communally buy toilet paper the toilet role was never changed and for a long time I believed no one else knew how to change a toilet roll. • I arranged a meeting to discuss the renewing of the contract and other communal house matters that we all agreed should take place on Sunday early evening as we agreed it was the best time for everyone. We were at home at 1630 and were available, as were you as we were all in the kitchen so you had ample opportunity to discuss any issues the two of you had between the two of us without having to involve other people in matters relating to the four of us. It is with deep regret that you have forced us into having to write this letter as it is not usually the level of communication we would lower ourselves to. When you share a house with other people it is important that people can compromise. I do not feel that you understand the concept of this. In the past your notion of coming to a compromise has consisted of repeating something over and over again until everybody agrees with it. This is not how compromise works. Most grievances and minor quibbles which inevitably exist when more than one body occupy a space are left unsaid in order to benefit the many rather than the few. If this equilibrium is not sustained then it leads to anonymity and a lack of understanding.
  • 6. In order to highlight some of the contemptible behaviour displayed by the two of you unfortunately we also seem to have been forced into having to behave in the same way so you appreciate how utterly deplorable these things can get. Judging by you sarcastic, patronising, miss-­‐spelled, badly punctuated and downright rude messages I guess you might see the point. If you don’t then we will be happy for you to delude yourselves into believing this is all our fault after all, this seems to be what is most likely to happen. I just hope that if you live together on your own you may learn that sometimes you have to be responsible for your own actions and admit that you are wrong.