The document provides 20 things that people need to let go of in order to achieve happiness. Some of the key things mentioned include the approval of others, anger, negative body image, the idea of a perfect partner or life, excuses, past mistakes, and expectations. It encourages the reader to accept themselves, appreciate what they have, focus on personal growth and happiness rather than judging others, and to let go of unnecessary limitations and baggage that are holding them back.
4. The biggest factor holding us back
from achieving our dreams is,
simply and sadly, our own selves.
We put limitations on ourselves
everyday, whether intentionally or
unintentionally. There are so many
ways we can alleviate these
restraints.
5. Remember, life can either be
something you embrace or
something you hide from.
Stop making things complicated
and just live your life. It would be
so much simpler and more
enjoyable if we learned to just
release certain limitations.
6. 1. The Approval Of Others
Who gives a sh*t what other people think? If
you are happy with the decisions you have
made, then whose business is that but your
own? Think of how much you could achieve
if you stopped letting other peoples
opinions dictate the way you live your life.
Do you, and engage in whatever actions you
think might better your life.
7. 2. Anger/Resentment
Anger will eat at you from the inside.
Learn how to make peace with those who
have wronged you. This isnt about letting
the other person off the hook; its about
alleviating the pain that resonates within
you. Keep in mind that he who angers
you, controls you.
Life becomes easier when you learn to
accept an apology you never got.
8. 3. Negative Body Image
There is only one persons opinion you
should be concerned with when it comes
to your body and that is you. No one
person determines what the correct body
type is. If you are comfortable in your own
skin, and you are healthy, then that should
be the only thing that matters. Do not let
others tell you that youre not beautiful
because if you believe you are, then you
are.
9. 4. Idea Of A Perfect Partner
There is no such thing as a perfect partner, so
throw your checklist out the window. In
life, what prevents us from moving forward is
looking at the perfect image of a partner we
create in our minds. Find the right person for
you: one that you can love with all your
heart, one you feel comfortable with and one
that accepts you for the person you are. The
sooner you realize there isnt one perfect
person out there for you, the better off you
will be.
10. Hes not perfect. You arent either, and the two of
you will never be perfect. But if he can make you
laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and
if he admits to being human and making
mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you
can. He isnt going to quote poetry, hes not
thinking about you every moment, but he will give
you a part of him that he knows you could break.
Dont hurt him, dont change him, and dont expect
for more than he can give. Dont analyze. Smile
when he makes you happy, yell when he makes
you mad, and miss him when hes not there. Love
hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect
guys dont exist, but theres always one guy that is
perfect for you. Bob Marley
11. 5. Perfect Life
Just like there is no perfect partner, there is
also not a perfect life. Life is what you put
into it, so if you are not willing to work hard
and put forth effort, you will most likely
end up miserable. The choices you make
will directly reflect the life you lead. It is up
to you to create the best possible world for
yourself.
12. 6. Youre Going To Be Rich
Too many people live their lives with the
thought that they will be millionaires.
While this can be a realistic goal for
some, it is not something that can be
achieved without hard work and
dedication. Stop letting money be your
sole motivator; find a career you are
passionate about and immerse yourself in
it completely.
13. 7. The Idea That Good Fortune
Will Arrive At Your Doorstep
You need to go out into the world and
actively look for fulfillment. You cannot
take a backseat in life and expect things to
happen for you. Appreciate the life you
live, and be grateful for what you have.
Value each minute of every day. Live like
theres no tomorrow, and make the most
out of any situation.
14. 8. Excuses
Make no time for excuses. You want to
work out, but you dont have the time?
Wake up early and get your gym on.
Excuses are only rationalizations that
make you feel better about yourself for not
doing something you want/need to be
doing. You desire results? Stop bitching,
and start doing.
16. 9. Thoughts Of Your Ex
This person is your ex for a reason. If you
are going to think of him or her at all, try
and think only about the lessons the
experience taught you. Do not linger on
any old feelings, as this will only prevent
you from being happy with someone else
in the future.
17. 10. Stubbornness
I know its hard to admit, but sometimes
you are just wrong. Other people have just
as much capability as you do in providing
the correct answer, so stop being stubborn
and just embrace it. The less stubborn you
act, the more open you are to learning new
things. Think of all you could be exposed
to if you stopped believing in opinions
other than your own.
18. 11. Procrastination
Stop thinking you will finally get to
whatever task is at hand tomorrow. Live in
the present, and get your sh*t done when
it needs to be done. Maximize your time to
the best of your ability. Complete each task
you need to as soon as you can. This allows
you to feel free from worry and stress by
getting things out of the way as soon as
possible. You also allow yourself more free
time to enjoy the things you love.
19. 12. Your Baggage
We have all been hurt one time or another
by someone we loved, or we thought we
loved. Carrying negative feelings into
future relationships will only prove to be
disastrous. No two people are the same, so
its unfair to hold a future partner to a
standard set by an ex. Try to begin each
new relationship with a clean slate.
20. 13. Negativity
What you put out into the universe will
come back to you, so change the way you
think, immediately. Stop thinking of life as
a glass half empty, but rather, half full.
You have so much to be grateful for, if only
you took a moment to appreciate it.
Anything is possible in the mind of a
positive thinker.
21. 14. Judgmental Thoughts
Why do people feel the need to constantly
worry about what is going on in other
peoples lives? If we spent as much time
worrying about our own behaviors as we
do worrying about those of others, our
lives would be a whole lot more
meaningful. You have no idea what is
going on in another persons life, so who
are you to pass judgment on the way they
act?
22. 15. Jealousy
Happiness is not having what you want;
its wanting what you have. Stop envying
others and learn to appreciate what you
have. Everyones life is unique; you have
certain things to offer that others cannot.
When we act in a jealous manner, all we
do is bring negative feelings into our lives.
There is absolutely nothing to gain from
behaving this way.
23. 16. Insecurity
Happy people tend to have extremely high
levels of self-esteem. They accept who they
are and work it everyday of their lives.
They radiate confidence, flaunt their pride
and give off positive vibes. There is no
reason to be insecure in life. If there are
things you are self-conscious about, go out
into the world and seek to change them.
Only you have the ability to create the best
version of yourself.
24. 17. Depending On Others For
Happiness
At the end of the day, the only person you can
count on 100 percent of the time is yourself.
Do not make the unfortunate mistake many
people do and put your happiness in the
hands of others. A relationship is not going to
fulfill the void if you cant even make yourself
happy. You need to achieve happiness on
your own before you can find someone else to
share it with. This creates a detrimental
dependency that will prevent you from
becoming self-sufficient.
25. 18. The Past
Stop living in the past! There is virtually
nothing you can gain if you wallow in
mistakes you have previously made. Take
past mistakes as lessons learned, and
move forward. You cannot wholeheartedly
move on to a better future if you are
constantly looking behind you. Things
happened, and thats that. Take them with
a grain of salt and move on.
26. 19. The Need For Control
Sometimes you just need to let life happen
the way it is meant to. You cannot spend
your life stressing about things that are
outside of your control. Try to relax, and
let things play out naturally. Embrace the
unknown, as this is where you will be
surprised the most. Let yourself be
whisked into unforeseen endeavors, and
relish in the excitement they bring.
27. 20. Expectations
Managing your expectations is the key to
happiness. If you let go of expectations, you
will never be disappointed. Often, we tend to
believe that the way we treat others will be
the way we are treated in return.
Unfortunately, this does not always happen.
Do not expect a certain result from any given
situations. Go into an experience with an
open mind. This will allow you to fully
immerse yourself, without the pressure of
living up to preconceived notions.