Are You In Love With a Female Friend?
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More free content: https://www.lovelifesolved.com/ In this presentation, dating coach Kristina Kirilova is going to shed light on: - What you should do when you fall in love with a close female friend of yours. - How to avoid getting into a situation where its either lovers or nothing. - What to do if she has no romantic feelings for you and is unlikely to develop any in the future.
Are You In Love With a Female Friend?
- 1. In Love With a Close Female Friend? by Lovelifesolved.com
- 2. Hey there!
- 3. Nice to meet you, Im Kristina Kirilova.
- 4. Being in love with a friend can be painful and awkward.
- 5. Many questions come to mind in a situation like that.
- 6. Am I going to ruin the friendship if I tell her the truth? Does she feel the same?
- 7. But being in love with your best friend doesnt have to end in losing her or suffering in the friend zone while she dates around and tells you about her latest conquests.
- 8. However, to avoid these undesirable consequences you need to let her know that you have feelings for her.
- 9. More precisely, you have to tell her with spoken words!
- 10. Many men want to avoid this uncomfortable conversation by showing her they are into her.
- 11. And so they look at her intensely, hold her hand longer, buy drinks, write poems, invite her to romantic movies,
- 12. Bad idea!
- 13. Why?
- 14. Because she wont get it.
- 15. Youre her best friend. She wont interpret your attention as a sign of attraction.
- 16. On the contrary:
- 17. She will continue to talk about other guys with you not knowing shes hurting you.
- 18. She will continue to cuddle and hug you, not knowing all you want is the cuddling to lead to more.
- 19. She will continue to tell you that you are cute and any woman would be lucky to have you, not knowing you want her to be that woman.
- 20. L E S S O N # 1 The only way to make the pain stop is by telling her about your feelings.
- 21. How can you tell her?
- 22. Pick up the phone and invite her to something you both usually do when you hang out together.
- 23. Before you go and talk to her, here are some rules that you should follow:
- 24. Dont Mention Why You Want to See Her When, all of a sudden, you want to talk and act all weird it blows the situation out of proportion and makes her feel uncomfortable.
- 25. No Flowers or Other Presents You arent lovers (yet), and no gift could convince her otherwise. So rather save your money because its only going to make everything worse.
- 26. No Big Romantic Gestures Before She Knows How You Feel When a friend suddenly changes his usual behaviour and starts treating her as his girlfriend, is quite unexpected and shocking. It will make it feel uncomfortable
- 27. Dont Expect Anything to Happen Dont pressure her even more by expecting an answer right then and there.
- 28. L E S S O N # 2 Any gesture that shows her that you are madly in love pressures her immensely.
- 29. Now that you know how to tell her, lets get more speci fi c and talk about what you should say.
- 30. The best thing you to say is, as usual, the honest truth.
- 31. No games, no pretending, no coolness. Just your sincere thoughts and feelings.
- 32. Here is an example of how one could do just that:
- 33. I wanted to talk to you about something. Ive been feeling attracted to you for the last few months. Youre my best friend and youre the most amazing person Ive ever met. I just wanted to tell you how I feel, so please dont feel awkward about this.
- 34. I enjoy our friendship and I dont want to pressure you but Id be really happy if you felt something for me too. But if not, everything is going to stay the way it is now. I just wanted you to know how I feel because it hurts so bad when you tell me about other guys.
- 35. She might be shocked because up to this point you were just a friend and now everything is different.
- 36. So let some time pass.
- 37. Its her turn now.
- 38. Your job is done, you cant force anyone to fall in love with you. Give her some space to get clear on her feelings and focus on other things.
- 39. What if she doesnt reciprocate your feelings immediately?
- 40. Dont act crazy now! Your emotions are gonna try to force you to do something dumb, like sending her a compilation video with all your best pics together, so be extra careful.
- 41. Dont avoid her. Dont act weird when shes around. Dont call her more often than usual. Dont give her extra attention. Stay normal.
- 42. An either well get together or our friendship is over situation is the last thing you want.
- 43. You dont have to lose a friend just because you have fallen in love with her.
- 44. The less you pressure her, the more likely she will feel attracted to you.
- 45. She has never thought of you as a potential lover before.
- 46. Now is the first time she can think of you as more than a friend and explore whether or not shes excited in being romantically involved with you.
- 47. Rational vs. irrational hope
- 48. If youve let some time pass and she hasnt made any steps towards you then you should start thinking about distancing yourself from her.
- 49. Seeing her with other guys and listening to her stories will hurt you deeply and might cause severe emotional damage.
- 50. There comes a point when it becomes clear that she just doesnt feel the same.
- 51. Do everything you can to make it happen, but know when to stop.
- 52. What are some indicators you have reached that point?
- 53. Youve let some time pass (few weeks or more) and she is still acting weird Shes still talking to you about other guys and acts as if nothing has happened She is dating someone else She avoids spending time alone with you She is tries to set you up with someone else
- 54. You cant hope forever shell change her mind.
- 55. At some point, you have to move on and meet other women. And there are countless great ones out there!
- 56. Give yourself a chance to fall in love with someone who is excited to be with you.
- 57. Thats it for today. Thank you so much for reading!