Being perceived in a false light
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The document discusses how people in wheelchairs are often subject to false assumptions about their personality and abilities. It provides examples of common assumptions, such as being lazy, being a drain on resources, or not deserving priority parking. It then lists facts about the author's own accomplishments and capabilities to counter these assumptions. The document suggests strategies for dealing with assumptions, such as listing accomplishments, controlling emotional reactions, focusing on one's strengths and purpose, asking clarifying questions, and allowing facts rather than assumptions to define one's identity.
Being perceived in a false light
- 1. Being Perceived in a False Light & What To Do
- 2. You Might Have Noticed: Im in a wheelchair. B/C of this Assumptions of My Personality & Abilities Are Tied To Assumption #1: Im lazy. Assumption #2: Im a drain on the system. Assumption #3: I get a great parking space, and its not fair nor did I earn it. I probably dont even need; I look perfectly healthy sitting in a car. Assumptions or Even Facts of Other Wheelchair Users Assumption #1: He or she is lazy. Assumption #2: He or she is a drain on the system. Assumption #3: He or she gets a great parking space, and its not fair nor did he/she earn it. He or she probably dont even need it. Expressing anger/writing in a Bens Friends community is considered helpful. On the other hand, one option for dealing with anger is to suppress it; however, suppressing such anger can lead to many difficulties including the disruption of relationships and the negative impact on the ability to think. Clearly, venting the anger is preferred over suppressing the anger. 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- 3. Facts Are Sometimes Ignored & Assumptions Are Embraced FACTS I have a Bachelors and a Masters Degree I have over 10 years in MarCom. I designed my own website. Im publishing a chapter in a business- related book later this quarter. I completed certifications in Interior Design, Meditation and Mindfulness. I switched careers and took a much lower salary to pursue my passion and to be true to myself. I use a W/C to not fall & to avoid further injuring myself and hike up everyones insurance rates. I can utilize my brain for my other goals that are important to me rather than consuming it all on doing something to walk & make others happy ASSUMPTION I use a W/C because Im lazy, & Im not willing to walk. Walking doesnt take that much energy or brain power. Im ignorant.
- 4. Your Examples Can you relate? Can you share some examples of how a person is lumped into assumptions?
- 5. Your Example Possibilities of Facts XXX XXX XXX XXX Possible Assumptions XXX XXX XXX XXX
- 6. Facts VS. Assumptions Champion Fighter FABULOUS FACTS Doormat Noodle ASSANINE ASSUMPTIONS
- 7. WHO WILL WIN? a clue: facts always win.
- 8. Transfer these Assumptions to the Workplace What do you get When we assume things are alike simply because they look alike?
- 9. Imagine How Assumptions Can Affect Productive Functioning in the Workplace Based on the Previous Example
- 10. Solutions & Strategies Identified the Problems with Assumptions NOW, we can focus on what to do
- 11. Strategy #1: List your accomplishments ::Refer to your fact list
- 12. Strategy #2: 2 Deep Breaths & Choose How You Want To React Even before youre in the situation.
- 13. Strategy #3: Use & Maximize what you have and what you can douse and share youre given talent and passion no excuses.
- 14. Share your strength. What makes you different or weird thats your strength. Meryl Streep
- 15. Improve life with your talent & strength.
- 16. Strategy #4: Do your best As long as you do the best that you can, thats all you can do.
- 17. Strategy #5: Remember: the assumptions a person makes belong to that person; the assumptions might hurt for awhile, but FACTS are the only things that identify who you are & what you can do.
- 18. JUST THE FACTS, MAM. An older television show used the line:
- 19. Strategy #6: Ask questions and expect others to ask clarifying questions to you.
- 20. Strategy 7: Forgive others who assume For YOU, NOT for them.
- 21. Strategy 8: Be THE better person.
- 22. Strategy 9: Focus on your purpose & your potential.
- 23. Strategy 10: Allow facts, your accomplishments, your passion & your strengths to drive your lifeNOT fear & assumptions.
- 24. Strategy 11: Align with happiness and things you enjoy.