This document discusses different strategies for resolving conflicts: giving in, walking away, doing nothing, fighting dirty, and constructive problem solving. Constructive problem solving is presented as the most effective strategy, where the parties work to find a mutually agreeable solution through compromise. This approach keeps the problem solved long-term but requires time, effort, and both sides willingness to compromise. Fighting dirty or doing nothing are not recommended as they can worsen the conflict or resentment over time without resolving the underlying issues.
5. Give In
• Example: Tommy gives his lunch money to
Joey every day. In return he does not get
beat up.
• + saves time
• + allows for bargaining
• - person may feel cheated
• - may lead to bullying
6. Walk Away
• Example: Jill tries to start a fight with Jody
and Jody just walks away from the fight.
• + allows time for cooling off
• + Avoids physical violence
• - conflict still not solved
• - problem may worsen
7. Do Nothing
• Example: Someone cuts in front of you at the
checkout counter during school lunch.
• + Time will solve the problem
• + Avoids conflict or violence
• - Hostility may grow/ resentment builds
• - Problem may get worse
8. Fighting Dirty
• Example: Karen cries to her boyfriend so she
can manipulate him and get what she wants.
• + NO positives
• - worsens the conflict
• - clouds the issue.
9. Constructive Problem Solving
• Example: Tom wants to go to a movie and Jill
wants to go out to dinner. Solution they
agree to have dinner and a movie at home.
• + Problem stays solved
• + Everyone gets something
• - Takes time and effort
• - Everyone needs to compromise
10. Constructive Problem Solving
• Example: Tom wants to go to a movie and Jill
wants to go out to dinner. Solution they
agree to have dinner and a movie at home.
• + Problem stays solved
• + Everyone gets something
• - Takes time and effort
• - Everyone needs to compromise