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Resolving Disputes Respectfully
www.CollaborativePractice.com
The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) is
a worldwide nonprofit organization dedicated to transforming the
practice of dispute resolution.
Our mission: to serve our members, lead the collaborative
community and educate the public. We are committed to
fostering professional excellence in conflict resolution through
Collaborative Practice.
We do this by protecting the essentials of Collaborative Practice,
expanding Collaborative Practice worldwide and providing a
central resource for education, networking and standards of
practice.
Collaborative Practice INTRODUCTION
Collaborative Practice is a new way for you to resolve
disputes respectfully—without going to court—while
working with trained professionals who are important
to all areas of your life. The term incorporates all of the
models developed since IACP’s Minnesota lawyer Stu
Webb created Collaborative Law ideas in the 1980s.
The heart of Collaborative Practice is to offer you and
your spouse or partner the support, protection, and
guidance of your own lawyers without going to court.
Additionally, Collaborative Practice allows you the benefit
of child and financial specialists, divorce coaches and
other professionals all working together on your team.
In Collaborative Practice, core elements form your
contractual commitments, which are to:
n Negotiate a mutually acceptable settlement without
having courts decide issues
n Maintain open communication and
information sharing
n Create shared solutions acknowledging the highest
priorities of all
Introduction
Thank you for downloading the 12 page Collaborative
Practice “Knowledge Kit” which contains:
n The “Collaborative Divorce vs. Litigation Divorce”
comparison (pg. 2)
n Case Studies that highlight the flexible, solution-
oriented process of Collaborative Divorce (pg. 3)
n Collaborative Practice overview (pg. 4-12)
If you feel this information would be helpful to a friend or
family member we encourage you to freely distribute it.
If you would like to speak with a Collaborative
Professional in your area, you can use the
Collaborative Professional Locator on our
website at: www.CollaborativePractice.com.
If all divorcing couples
used the Collaborative Practice
process, the world would
be a better place
~ Lauren M., Brooklyn, NY

Collaborative Litigation
Who Controls the Process
You and your spouse control the process
and make final decisions
Judge controls the process and
makes final decisions
Degree of Adversity
You and your spouse pledge mutual respect
and openness
Court process is based on an
adversarial system
Cost
Costs are manageable, usually less
expensive than litigation; team model is
financially efficient in use of experts
Costs are unpredictable and can
escalate rapidly including frequency
of post-judgment litigation
Timetable
You and your spouse create the
timetable
Judge sets the timetable; often
delays given crowded court
Use of Outside Experts
Jointly retained specialists provide
information and guidance helping you and
your spouse develop informed, mutually
beneficial solutions
Separate experts are hired to support
the litigants’ positions, often at great
expense to each
Involvement of Lawyers
Your lawyers work toward a mutually
created settlement
Lawyers fight to win,
but someone loses
Privacy
The process, discussion and
negotiation details are kept private
Dispute becomes a matter of public
record and, sometimes, media attention
Facilitation of Communication
Team of Collaborative Practice specialists
educate and assist you and your spouse on
how to effectively communicate with each
other
No process designed to facilitate
communication
Voluntary vs. Mandatory Voluntary Mandatory if no agreement
Lines of Communication
You and your spouse communicate directly
with the assistance of members of your
team
You and your spouse negotiate
through your lawyers
Court Involvement Outside court Court-based
Divorce: Collaborative vs. Litigation

1. A music executive and his financially dependent wife had a 5-year old daughter. The wife had a new
boyfriend and was pregnant with his child. Collaborative Practice (CP) helped the divorcing couple
agree to a very technical financial arrangement and addressed the daughter’s contact with her mother’s
boyfriend.
2. Years ago, the husband’s first wife disappeared, leaving him with two children. His current wife was the
only mother the children knew. And, she couldn’t have children of her own. A typical court might grant
her no parental rights after the divorce. CP ensured she stayed active in the children’s lives.
3. A husband and wife, both ministers with four kids, lived together in the same house with the husband’s
secret partner. The partner later exposed their relationship. Despite the acute trauma felt by the wife and
children, CP restored the relationship between all three adults and the children.
4. A husband and wife had two children, one a special needs child. During the divorce, this child’s long term
care requirements caused tremendous financial conflict between the parents. CP kept them focused
on the discussion until they reached an agreement. The parents also agreed to work together after the
divorce, assuring both children receive the care and support they needed.
5. Years after a rough legal battle, the divorced couple decided to modify their originally litigated divorce
settlement. CP allowed them to do this so amicably that the ex husband offered to help his former wife
out of a financial rough spot.
6. When the couple’s daughter left for college, the wife announced she wanted a divorce after 30 years
of marriage. The wife never worked outside of the home. She did not want to take advantage of the
husband’s wealth, and wanted the divorce to move quickly to spare her husband further pain. CP helped
her maintain peace and integrity during the process. She felt spiritually liberated by the model’s ability to
separate without regrets.
7. When the couple used CP to end a 16-year marriage, their team included lawyers, a child psychologist
and a financial specialist. Their team guided them to a fair financial arrangement for the children by
helping them keep everyone’s needs in perspective. Years after the divorce, the couple still calls each
other every week to update one another on the children’s past week.
8. A couple who had once been childhood sweethearts could no longer talk to each other without
yelling through fits of anger, especially when discussing living arrangements of their five-year old son.
Through CP, the couple learned to communicate with each other and agreed to shared custody and joint
monitoring of any funds spent on their son.
9. The wife initiated a divorce feeling ignored and misunderstood by the family for years. The CP
team helped establish a less hostile environment to proceed with the divorce. Then they facilitated
communication between the couple. In the end, the couple decided to stay together, working out their
issues through counseling.
Collaborative Divorce Case Study Summaries
Demonstrating flexible solutions… allowing you to control your future

SUPPORTIVE
CONSIDERATE
SENSIBLE
CONSTRUCTIVE
MUTUAL
A different way to divorce.
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R E S P E C T
IF YOU’RE LOOKING FOR
AN ALTERNATIVE TO
DIVORCE AS USUAL,
YOU’RE NOT ALONE.

Collaborative Practice. It begins with something
you both can agree on: self-respect.
The end of a marriage or relationship can be tragic enough. Often, the process of
divorcing only adds to the pain. You and your spouse or partner may come to see each
other as adversaries and the divorce as a battleground. You may experience feelings of
confusion, anger, loss and conflict. Under such circumstances, you might find it difficult to
see an end to divorce, much less imagine a hopeful future afterwards.
But it doesn't have to be this way. A growing number of parting couples, along with
other professionals such as lawyers, mental health professionals and financial specialists,
have been seeking a more constructive alternative. These professionals have developed the
Collaborative Practice model.
Collaborative Practice is a reasonable approach to divorce based on three principles:
• A pledge not to go to court
• An honest exchange of information by both spouses
• A solution that takes into account the highest priorities of both adults and their children.
Mutual respect is fundamental to the collaborative way. You may cease being spouses,
but you don't cease being worthy human beings. When respect is given and received, discussions
are likely to be more productive and an agreement reached more easily.
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C O L L A B O R AT E
A CLIENT-CENTERED
APPROACH.

A PLEDGE TO COLLABORATE.
The key difference between Collaborative Practice and conventional divorce is the
pledge to reach an agreement before going to court. You and your spouse keep control of
the decisions yourselves, rather than giving it up to a judge. In order to accomplish that, all of
the parties consent in writing to be part of a respectful process that leads to an out-of-court
resolution. With Collaborative Practice, the goal is to develop effective relationships, solve
problems jointly, and prevent a court battle.
OPEN COMMUNICATION.
Even under the best of circumstances, communication can be strained as a relationship is
ending. Yet keeping the lines of communication open is essential for reaching an agreement.
Collaborative Practice provides for face-to-face meetings with you, your spouse, your
respective lawyers and your team as needed. These sessions are intended to produce
an honest exchange of information and expression of needs and expectations. When the
issues are openly discussed, problem solving can be direct and solutions-oriented.

COLLABORATIVE PRACTICE AT A GLANCE:
• Encourages mutual respect.
• Emphasizes the needs of children.
• Avoids going to court.
• Keeps control of the process with the individuals.
• Provides for open communication.
• Utilizes a problem-solving approach.
• Identifies and addresses interests and concerns of all.
• Prepares individuals for new lives.

Going through divorce or separation can make you feel isolated and alone, unsure of
where to turn for support and advice. Unlike conventional legal process, Collaborative
Practice offers you a team of skilled and compassionate professionals. Each expert in their
own fields, the team members help you manage the many aspects of divorce—the legal
issues, the emotional turmoil, the concerns for children and the financial and property
questions. With such support you'll feel more in control of the process itself,
and better equipped to begin a new life afterwards.
As you review the roles of your various team members, be sure to choose team members
with special training in Collaborative Practice.
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THE COLLABORATIVE TEAM.
CENTERED AROUND YOU.

COLLABORATIVE LAWYER
Though Collaborative Practice seeks to avoid going to court, the settlement is still a legal agreement.
Therefore, it is essential that a lawyer be involved to advise you on all matters of law, from child
custody and support to maintenance agreements to financial settlements and property distribution.
Collaborative lawyers have made a commitment to the unique practice of the collaborative model.
DIVORCE COACH
Divorce is a major life transition; while it marks the end of one part of your life, it is also the beginning
of another. A mental health professional helps you manage the pain and strain of changing relationships,
while focusing on goals for the present and the future. Working with you to make the most of your strengths,
your mental health professional assists you in being at your best during the divorce process, then
taking positive steps to a new life.
FINANCIAL SPECIALIST
The divorce settlement will in part determine your financial well-being for many years to come. It is
critical that it be soundly structured, especially if your spouse assumed more responsibility for your
family's finances. The guidance of a financial specialist will help protect your interests. Reviewing
all assets and incomes, the financial specialist will assist you in analyzing viable financial options
for your future. Evaluating the choices, you and your lawyer can then construct a comprehensive
plan for the next stage of your life.
CHILD SPECIALIST
Children may suffer most from divorce, and be least able to understand or express their feelings.
Their world is being turned upside down in ways that they cannot begin to comprehend. Communication
with parents may be difficult, if not impossible. A goal of Collaborative Practice is to assure that
children are a priority, not a casualty. The child specialist, an individual skilled in understanding
children, will meet with your children privately, assisting them in expressing their feelings and
concerns about the divorce. Encouraging children to think creatively about the future, the child specialist
then communicates their feelings, concerns and hopes to the team to consider when planning for
the children's lives.
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