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This document discusses emotional intelligence and its importance. It defines emotional intelligence as having four components: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. These allow one to recognize and understand emotions in oneself and others, manage behaviors and relationships effectively. The document provides information on developing each skill, noting self-awareness involves understanding one's emotions and tendencies, while relationship management uses awareness of emotions to ensure clear communication and conflict resolution. It suggests emotional intelligence is crucial to individual and organizational performance, stakeholder engagement, motivation, trust and teamwork within organizations.
Emotional_Intelligence_Presentation.pptx
- 2. Emotional Intelligence (EI) Defined Ability to recognize and understand emotions Using this awareness to manage yourself and relationships with others
- 3. Johnny Mac Emotionally Intelligent? http://youtu.be/C8Nyc9jzSDg
- 4. Aristotle says, Anybody can become angry that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way that is not within everybodys power and is not easy.
- 5. Science Behind EI Brain Pathways Spinal Chord (enters brain here) Limbic System (I feel here) I think rationally (way over here) EQ affected by our ability to form & keep well-traveled connections here
- 6. 4 Skills of Emotional Intelligence Self-Awareness Self-Management Social Awareness Relationship Management Emotional Intelligence WHAT I SEE WHAT I DO PERSONAL COMPETEN CE SOCIAL COMPETEN CE
- 7. EQ Quiz Instructions Read each question and select 1-5, based on your immediate response to the item. 1 = Strongly Disagree 2 = Disagree 3 = Neither Agree or Disagree 4 = Agree 5 = Strongly Agree
- 8. EQ Quiz Scoring Add up your score to determine where you stand on Emotional Intelligence 119 or higher = Above Average EI 98 118 = Moderate EI 97 or lower = Low EI
- 9. EQ vs. Job Title Supervisor Manager Director Executive C-Suite Often promote based on intellect instead of EQ
- 10. EI Starts with Self-Awareness Self-Awareness Ability to accurately perceive your own emotions Stay aware of your emotions as they happen Keep on top of how you tend to respond to specific situations and people The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none Thomas Carlyle
- 11. Improving Self-Awareness Know Thyself See yourself for who you are (what do you think and feel) Watch your emotions like a hawk (even physiological signs) Track & backtrack your emotions in a difficult conversation or meeting learn your tendencies in emotionally arousing situations Use paired sharing (peer or supervisor) Own your actions take full responsibility for what you say and do http://youtu.be/1bYO- mm_MvM
- 12. Use Awareness to Self-Manage Self-Management Ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior Managing your emotional reactions to all situations and people The first and best victory is to conquer self Plato
- 13. Emotional Triggers What are the triggers that make you want to blow an emotional gasket? http://youtu.be/mC_97F2Zn9k
- 14. Emotional Red Flags & Breakdowns
- 15. Becoming Socially Aware Social Awareness Ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people Understand what is really going on Understanding what other people are thinking and feeling even if you dont feel the same way Resolve to be tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant with the weak and wrong. Sometime in your life, you will have been all of these. Gautama Buddha http://youtu.be/S2XvxDaIwCw
- 16. Social Awareness Requires Empathy Empathy is the ability to see the world from anothers point of view and to identify and understand anothers situation, feelings and motives
- 17. Improving Social Awareness Spend extra time observing, asking & listening Maintain eye contact Give the speaker your full attention Playback and summarize Try on their shoes Suspend your judgment Read body language Decipher emotions in speech tone
- 18. Use Awareness to Manage Relationships Relationship Management Ability to use awareness of your emotions and emotions of others to manage interactions successfully Ensure clear communication and effective handling of conflict http://youtu.be/5SnSzo4AbRI People arent either wicked or noble. Theyre like chef salads with good things and bad things chopped up and mixed together in a vinaigrette of confusion and conflict. Lemony Snicket
- 19. Improving Relationship Management Seek to build high quality, high trust relationships Try to discover what role emotions are playing in your interactions with others If you sense tension or other emotional reactions in a persons body language or speech, ask questions to seek to understand Be quick to settle disputes, differences of opinion and misunderstandings
- 20. What does EI have to do with ECP? Self-Management Ability to use awareness of your emotions to stay flexible and positively direct your behavior Managing your emotional reactions to all situations and people Social Awareness Ability to accurately pick up on emotions in other people Understand what is really going on Understanding what other people are thinking and feeling even if you dont feel the same way Self-Awareness Ability to accurately perceive your own emotions Stay aware of your emotions as they happen Keep on top of how you tend to respond to specific situations and people Relationship Management Ability to use awareness of your emotions and emotions of others to manage interactions successfully Ensure clear communication and effective handling of conflict PERSONAL COMPETEN CE SOCIAL COMPETEN CE WHAT I SEE WHAT I DO
- 21. What does EI have to do with ECP? Individual & Organizational Performance
- 22. What does EI have to do with ECP? Organizational Engagement Vital Signs Trust: People have a sense of safety & assurance to share and go beyond their comfort zones Motivation: People feel energized and committed to doing more than the minimum Change: Employees and institutions are adaptable and innovative Teamwork: People collaborate and communicate to take on challenges Fariselli, L., Freedman, J., & Ghini, M. (2013). White Paper: Linking bottom line performance to emotional intelligence and organizational climate. Retrieved September 18, 2014 from 6seconds.org.
- 23. What does EI have to do with ECP? Stakeholder Engagement CI Manageme nt Regulator Contracto rs Execs Direct Reports
- 24. Final Thoughts If your emotional abilities arent in hand, if you dont have self- awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you cant have empathy and have effective relationships, than no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.
- 25. EI Resources Websites Talentsmart.com Eiconsortium.org Eisource.com 6seconds.org Books / Articles Goleman Emotional Intelligence (1995) Working with emotional intelligence (1998) Bradberry & Greaves: Emotional Intelligence Quick Book Anthony Mersino: Emotional Intelligence for Project Managers Emily Sterrett: Managers Pocket Guide to Emotional Intelligence
Editor's Notes
- #6: Our brains are wired to make us emotional creatures. We experience the emotional response to an event before it reaches the part of the brain that thinks rationally and reacts to the emotion. The more we think about what we are feeling and do something productive with that feeling the more developed this pathway becomes. The more traffic in both directions the better. This means if I typically yell when Im feeling angry, I have to learn to choose an alternative reaction. I must practice this new reaction many times before it will replace my urge to yell.
- #12: Physiological Signs: thoughts speed up, mind goes blank, feeling hot, feeling numb, heart beats increase, muscle tension, tunnel vision, tightness in throat, tingling, trembling or shaking
- #14: What are your emotional triggers? What are some of the emotional triggers of CIs? Do you know the emotional triggers of your stakeholders?
- #18: Anthropologists make their living watching others in their natural state without letting their own thoughts and feelings disturb the observation. This is social awareness in its purest form. Reading body language emotional wheel
- #21: Go box by box Importance of empathy Relationship management What is fundamental to any relationship, which low EI could compromise: Trust Do you think low EI in supervisors, managers or others could be correlated to employee concerns? (many of the issues we receive are because of what someone said or did and how it was perceived)