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        Monthly Gathering
            Saturday July 28, 2012



An Introduction to the Enneagram

                     By
       Margaret Rahn, MBA, MA
The Enneagram
-Ennea (Greek meaning 9)
-Gram (Greek meaning figure or drawing)




                                            Circle




                                   Hexadd            Triangle
History of the Enneagram

Sourced in esoteric traditions -- Kabbalah, Sufi
  and Christian: 4th  12th century A.D.
   An early monastery method of study to
    understand personality and spiritual growth
   The symbol dates back ~2,500 years; passed on
    largely by monasteries
History of the Enneagram

- ~1915 Introduced to modern thinking by George
   Gurdjieff; a Greek Armenian (1866-1949).
    Studied in monasteries in Egypt, Afghanistan, Greece,
     Persia, India, & Tibet.
    Taught in Russia, France and the U.S.


- 1950s-1960s Oscar Ichazo of Bolivia studied in
   Buenos Aires, Argentina, Middle East.
    Developed the template used by psychologists today.
     Taught in Africa, Chile.
History of the Enneagram
- 1977 Psychologist Don Riso engaged the
   Enneagram with Perrys work on the human
   emotional/psychological stages of
   development towards adulthood.
 - Continued use and development in
   psychology, education, spiritual direction and
   organization development.
Why study the Enneagram?
It serves as a reflective tool to grow in self awareness
  and understanding, and thus, leads to an enhanced
understanding of ones way of engaging & responding
 in relationships. It is based on how we sense, or take
  in, & respond to our world through three centers of
      intelligence: the heart, the mind & the body.
The Intelligence Centers
  of the Enneagram
Heart
          Intelligence Centered in the Emotions
Type Two           Provider-Giver-Helper
        Feeling based.
        Empathic.
        Driven by instinctual response to help others to ensure relationship
        Need to be needed. Setting personal boundaries can be difficult.
        Instinctively understand/ read/ anticipate the needs of others.
        Tends to lack conscious awareness of own needs
        A give to get manipulation style.

Pooh Character:
Kanga (mother                              Focus of Attention (FOA):
   of Roo)
                                           Will others like me? Am I needed?
Heart
       Intelligence Centered in the Emotions
Type Three Doer-Achiever
    Image of success; will change to project an
       image according to the needs of the group.
    Competitive; goal focused.
    Intolerant of others who allow feelings to get in the way of doing
    Thrive on being busy. Believe that they are loved for doing, not for
     being.
    Motivated to perform by love (Kousnes & Posner;
     recognition/acknowledgement)
    Look to the outside world for validation.
    Concerned that if they stop doing, they might have to feel.
  Pooh
Character:                                     Focus of Attention (FOA):
 Gopher                                        How can I gain the
                                               respect & esteem of others?
Heart
      Intelligence Centered in the Emotions
Type Four      Idealist-Romantic
   Melancholy; depression; strong inner critic;
     compares self to others  grass is always greener
   Motivated by authenticity. Creative. Dislike of the ordinary; wants to
    be extraordinary.
   Special depth of feelings; a sense of longing. Expresses dramatically;
    Delightful! Horrific!
   Sense of being different. Artistic. Appreciation for beauty; art, nature,
    fashion, etc.
   Original Source; values alone time. Growth comes from a balanced
    emotional life.
    Pooh                                       Focus of Attention (FOA):
 Character:
       Can                                     Can I express myself?
   Eeyore
Mind
    Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind
Type Five       Sage-Observer
   Knowledge in depth; knowledge for the
    sake of knowledge
   First reaction is to review an experience mentally. Detached.
   Inwardly focused (vs. outwardly like 2s). Conserves energy.
   Being serious is valued by 5s. Wants to understand all facets of things.
   Avoids emotions. Energy is in the head. Always observing self.
   Has strong feelings but does not express them; takes time & space to
    assess & feelings
   Willing to share info; an information resource center.

    Pooh                                       Focus of Attention (FOA):
      
  Character:                                   Will my resources, time,
     Owl                                         & energy be demanded?
Mind
  Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind
 Type Six Questioner-Loyal Skeptic
    Goes to worst case scenario in problem situations.
    Instinctively scans for information in all situations.
    First instinct is to not trust. Fear based.
    Often are not in touch with their feelings.
    Question everything; Shore up the ship; Contingency planner.
    Two types: the phobic who retreats, or, the counter phobic who
       moves against.
    Organized & Delivers the goods.

   Pooh
 Character:
   Piglet                                Focus of Attention (FOA):
                                         What could go wrong here?
                                          Whom can I trust?
                                         Am I making the best decisions?
Mind
 Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind
Type Seven        Adventurer-Epicure
     Energetic. Optimistic; there is always a positive scenario.
     Options. Adventure. Never bored.
     Pleasure; positive; happy, exuberant.
     Intellectual; active mind.
     In project management she is a creative, innovative imagineer & fully
      invested at start up. By mid-project she has already moved onto the
      next adventure.

   Pooh
 Character:
  Tigger
                                                   Focus of Attention (FOA):
                                                    What is exciting?
                                                    Do I feel constrained?
                                                    Can I avoid pain?
Body
  Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses
 Type Eight               Protector-Defender
    Justice/fairness. Will take on a fight.
    Action w/o regard of consequences. I just have to take action.
    Courageous. Having known vulnerability, will move to offense as the
     best defense.
    Persistent. Voracious appetite. Passionate.
    Direct/authoritative. Like to do it their way.
    Intense. Their strength and aggression can be daunting.
    Challenge is to combine assertion & control with interdependency &
     cooperation.
   Pooh                                      Focus of Attention (FOA):
 Character:                                  Is everything under control in an
  Gorilla                                      effective & just way?
Body
   Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses
 Type NineMediator-Moderator
    Gateway to heaven; sees all points of view.
    Harmony; focus on keeping the peace and maintaining
     calm/equilibrium
    Merging; core issue is self worth. Self-forgetting.
    Inertia; has to be coaxed to give to self. Energy is in the body. Energy is
     slow & deliberate.
    Avoids conflict passive aggressive; stubborn.
    Strong awareness of the environment, people and places.
  Pooh
Character:                                            Focus of Attention (FOA):
  Pooh
                                                     Is everyone being heard?
                                                         Including me?
Body
  Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses

 Type One Judge-Perfectionist
   Black & white thinking. Comparing mind.
   Critical voice; self critical; deeply rooted internal critic. Anger. Self
    judging.
   Perfection; precise; high standards. Procrastination because working
    so hard to make it right.
   Focus on whats wrong &, at all costs avoids being wrong. Perfect is
    not enough.
   Conscientious; responsible; detail oriented.
   Caring. Passionate.
   Pooh
                                                     Focus of Attention (FOA):
 Character:
  Rabbit                                              What is right or wrong,
                                                        correct or incorrect?
The Intelligence Centers
  of the Enneagram
You and Your Personality Style
                      via the Enneagram
                    Enneagram Typing Cards
To help you identify your Ennegram type:
 1.   Read the side of the card with the image & the identifying phrases.
 2.    Divide the cards into three piles that best describe you as:
          a) Yes.
          b) No.
          c)    Maybe.
 3.   Turn the cards over. Read the key characteristics and brief description of
      each type.
 4.   Divide the cards into two piles:
          a) Yes.
          b)     No.
 5.   Discard the No. pile.
 6.   From the Yes pile, pick the top three cards that best describe you and
      place in an order from Most to Least.
The Intelligence Centers
  of the Enneagram
The Enneagram
                  So what?
 The Goal = To Grow in Awareness of Our
             Habits of Personality

 The How = Self Observation

 The Call = Balance of the Intelligence Centers
             of Heart, Mind, and Body
The Intelligence Centers
  of the Enneagram
 The goal is to grow in awareness of our habits. In our
  interpersonal exchanges we engage with habitual responses.
  Effective communication though, requires a large repertoire in
  order to provide for the varying needs of different situations.
  The more ambidextrous we become or the more fluid in skill
  in all the personality styles, the more fully we will be able to
  express our true selves in our personal and professional
  relationships.
 So, always, observe yourself. Grow your awareness of your
  ways of being in relationships. If you are not observing
  yourself you are operating in automatic. Choice is created by
  simply taking a pause, observing yourself and asking, Is my
  normal way of reacting going to help in this situation? Or,
  given choice, how might I better choose to respond?
 Often we fall into a habit of responding from only one
  emotional center and we find ourselves being driven by the
  reeling obsessive thoughts of the mind, the emotional leaps
  and plummets of our heart, or our immediate primal gut
  responses of fight or flight.
 The call is to always strive for balance. How do we achieve
  balance? By self observation and asking, Whats going on in
  the mind? Whats going on in the heart? and, Whats
  going on in the body? The invitation is to notice where you
  are; if your response is only analytical, in the mind, and the
  situation and relationship requires sensitivity, be intentional in
  that moment to consider how your heart and body
  intelligence can inform this exchange. If your heart has taken
  over your engagement with extreme emotion, take a break
  and re-gather yourself by incorporating body and mind
  intelligence. If body wants to haul off and hit someone, first,
  breathe. Then, breathe again so to purposefully create a
  moment where you can re-member your heart and mind.
 By growing towards a balanced response that involves all
  intelligence centers we reorient ourselves to respond more
  fully from a harmony of heart, mind and body. Thats what is
  wanted from others, our full presence. Being fully present to
  others in relationship, professional and personal, is the
  essence, form and the fulcrum of relationship.
 Awareness of ones habits, self observation, and an
  intentional practice of choice in the ways we express
  ourselves, is the invitation of the Enneagram. Thank you for
  spending this time with me to pause and look at ourselves
  through the lens of the Enneagram.

                                      All Good,
                                       Margaret
Sources for learning more about the
               Enneagram
 Personal Coaching:
   Margaret Rahn, MBA, MA; Certified Enneagram
    Coach 513-600-1037 mmrahn@yahoo.com



   Deanna Martin, MA; Certified Enneagram Coach
    www.goconscious.com/home/staff/deanna_martin.html
Sources for learning more about the
                 Enneagram
Books:
 Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self-
   Discovery Guide -- Revised & Updated by David Daniels and Virginia
   Price (May 26, 2009).
 The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and
   Business Relationships by Helen Palmer(Dec 15, 1995)
 The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr and
   Andreas Ebbert(Sep 1, 2001)
 The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to
   Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by
   Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson(Jun 15, 1999)
Teachers and authors: David Burke, Thomas Condon, David Daniels,
   Andreas Ebert, Russ Hudson, Andrea Issacs, Claudio Naranjo,
   Deborah Ooten, Helen Palmer, Don Riso, Richard Rohr, Terry
   Seracino and Mario Sikora.
Sources for learning more about the
                Enneagram
Sites:
 Conscious Living Center:
  www.goconscious.com/home/consciousness_ascending.html
 The International Enneagram Association:
  www.internationalenneagram.org
 The Enneagram Institute: www.enneagraminstitute.com
 Enneagram & Winnie the Pooh Characters:
  http://blog.theenneagraminbusiness.com/2009/12/fun-pooh-and-
  enneagram.html
Sources for learning more about the
                   Enneagram
Local Events:
 Enneagram Panel Day in the Narrative Tradition.
                    Moderated by Deborah Ooten, PhD
   For beginners who may not be sure of their type, & for long
   standing practitioners; all levels of experience are invited.
          Saturday, Sept 15. 10:00a.m.-4:00p.m.
Location:                                        Type 3   10-10:30
William Howard Taft National Historic Site       Type 6   10:35-11:05
      2038 Auburn Ave.                           Type 9   11:10-11:40
                                                 Lunch    11:45-12:15
    Cincinnati,OH 45219                          Type 1   12:20-12:50
                                                 Type 4   12:55-1:25
                                                 Type 2    1:30-2:00
For more info:      Beth Ohara
                                                 Type 8    2:05-2:35
                   513.621.3600                  Type 5    2:40-3:10
             beth.ohara@goconscious.com          Type 7    3:15-3:45
Sources for learning more about the
                      Enneagram
Conference:
       The Enneagram & Grace: Nine Journeys to Divine Presence
                    Date(s): September 29-30, 2012
               Led by Richard Rohr, OFM & Russ Hudson
             Location: Northern Kentucky Convention Center
                         Time: 10:00 am-5:30 pm
 Co-Sponsored by Consciousness in Action, The Enneagram Institute of Central Ohio and
                        The Enneagram Institute of Colorado

http://www.goconscious.com/home/events/parms/1/event/the_enneagram_grace_nine_journeys_to_divine_presence.html


                                  Questions? Call 513-554-3070

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  • 1. U.C. Back 2 Business Alumni Monthly Gathering Saturday July 28, 2012 An Introduction to the Enneagram By Margaret Rahn, MBA, MA
  • 2. The Enneagram -Ennea (Greek meaning 9) -Gram (Greek meaning figure or drawing) Circle Hexadd Triangle
  • 3. History of the Enneagram Sourced in esoteric traditions -- Kabbalah, Sufi and Christian: 4th 12th century A.D. An early monastery method of study to understand personality and spiritual growth The symbol dates back ~2,500 years; passed on largely by monasteries
  • 4. History of the Enneagram - ~1915 Introduced to modern thinking by George Gurdjieff; a Greek Armenian (1866-1949). Studied in monasteries in Egypt, Afghanistan, Greece, Persia, India, & Tibet. Taught in Russia, France and the U.S. - 1950s-1960s Oscar Ichazo of Bolivia studied in Buenos Aires, Argentina, Middle East. Developed the template used by psychologists today. Taught in Africa, Chile.
  • 5. History of the Enneagram - 1977 Psychologist Don Riso engaged the Enneagram with Perrys work on the human emotional/psychological stages of development towards adulthood. - Continued use and development in psychology, education, spiritual direction and organization development.
  • 6. Why study the Enneagram? It serves as a reflective tool to grow in self awareness and understanding, and thus, leads to an enhanced understanding of ones way of engaging & responding in relationships. It is based on how we sense, or take in, & respond to our world through three centers of intelligence: the heart, the mind & the body.
  • 7. The Intelligence Centers of the Enneagram
  • 8. Heart Intelligence Centered in the Emotions Type Two Provider-Giver-Helper Feeling based. Empathic. Driven by instinctual response to help others to ensure relationship Need to be needed. Setting personal boundaries can be difficult. Instinctively understand/ read/ anticipate the needs of others. Tends to lack conscious awareness of own needs A give to get manipulation style. Pooh Character: Kanga (mother Focus of Attention (FOA): of Roo) Will others like me? Am I needed?
  • 9. Heart Intelligence Centered in the Emotions Type Three Doer-Achiever Image of success; will change to project an image according to the needs of the group. Competitive; goal focused. Intolerant of others who allow feelings to get in the way of doing Thrive on being busy. Believe that they are loved for doing, not for being. Motivated to perform by love (Kousnes & Posner; recognition/acknowledgement) Look to the outside world for validation. Concerned that if they stop doing, they might have to feel. Pooh Character: Focus of Attention (FOA): Gopher How can I gain the respect & esteem of others?
  • 10. Heart Intelligence Centered in the Emotions Type Four Idealist-Romantic Melancholy; depression; strong inner critic; compares self to others grass is always greener Motivated by authenticity. Creative. Dislike of the ordinary; wants to be extraordinary. Special depth of feelings; a sense of longing. Expresses dramatically; Delightful! Horrific! Sense of being different. Artistic. Appreciation for beauty; art, nature, fashion, etc. Original Source; values alone time. Growth comes from a balanced emotional life. Pooh Focus of Attention (FOA): Character: Can Can I express myself? Eeyore
  • 11. Mind Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind Type Five Sage-Observer Knowledge in depth; knowledge for the sake of knowledge First reaction is to review an experience mentally. Detached. Inwardly focused (vs. outwardly like 2s). Conserves energy. Being serious is valued by 5s. Wants to understand all facets of things. Avoids emotions. Energy is in the head. Always observing self. Has strong feelings but does not express them; takes time & space to assess & feelings Willing to share info; an information resource center. Pooh Focus of Attention (FOA): Character: Will my resources, time, Owl & energy be demanded?
  • 12. Mind Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind Type Six Questioner-Loyal Skeptic Goes to worst case scenario in problem situations. Instinctively scans for information in all situations. First instinct is to not trust. Fear based. Often are not in touch with their feelings. Question everything; Shore up the ship; Contingency planner. Two types: the phobic who retreats, or, the counter phobic who moves against. Organized & Delivers the goods. Pooh Character: Piglet Focus of Attention (FOA): What could go wrong here? Whom can I trust? Am I making the best decisions?
  • 13. Mind Intelligence Centered in the Analytical Mind Type Seven Adventurer-Epicure Energetic. Optimistic; there is always a positive scenario. Options. Adventure. Never bored. Pleasure; positive; happy, exuberant. Intellectual; active mind. In project management she is a creative, innovative imagineer & fully invested at start up. By mid-project she has already moved onto the next adventure. Pooh Character: Tigger Focus of Attention (FOA): What is exciting? Do I feel constrained? Can I avoid pain?
  • 14. Body Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses Type Eight Protector-Defender Justice/fairness. Will take on a fight. Action w/o regard of consequences. I just have to take action. Courageous. Having known vulnerability, will move to offense as the best defense. Persistent. Voracious appetite. Passionate. Direct/authoritative. Like to do it their way. Intense. Their strength and aggression can be daunting. Challenge is to combine assertion & control with interdependency & cooperation. Pooh Focus of Attention (FOA): Character: Is everything under control in an Gorilla effective & just way?
  • 15. Body Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses Type NineMediator-Moderator Gateway to heaven; sees all points of view. Harmony; focus on keeping the peace and maintaining calm/equilibrium Merging; core issue is self worth. Self-forgetting. Inertia; has to be coaxed to give to self. Energy is in the body. Energy is slow & deliberate. Avoids conflict passive aggressive; stubborn. Strong awareness of the environment, people and places. Pooh Character: Focus of Attention (FOA): Pooh Is everyone being heard? Including me?
  • 16. Body Intelligence Centered in the Gut Responses Type One Judge-Perfectionist Black & white thinking. Comparing mind. Critical voice; self critical; deeply rooted internal critic. Anger. Self judging. Perfection; precise; high standards. Procrastination because working so hard to make it right. Focus on whats wrong &, at all costs avoids being wrong. Perfect is not enough. Conscientious; responsible; detail oriented. Caring. Passionate. Pooh Focus of Attention (FOA): Character: Rabbit What is right or wrong, correct or incorrect?
  • 17. The Intelligence Centers of the Enneagram
  • 18. You and Your Personality Style via the Enneagram Enneagram Typing Cards To help you identify your Ennegram type: 1. Read the side of the card with the image & the identifying phrases. 2. Divide the cards into three piles that best describe you as: a) Yes. b) No. c) Maybe. 3. Turn the cards over. Read the key characteristics and brief description of each type. 4. Divide the cards into two piles: a) Yes. b) No. 5. Discard the No. pile. 6. From the Yes pile, pick the top three cards that best describe you and place in an order from Most to Least.
  • 19. The Intelligence Centers of the Enneagram
  • 20. The Enneagram So what? The Goal = To Grow in Awareness of Our Habits of Personality The How = Self Observation The Call = Balance of the Intelligence Centers of Heart, Mind, and Body
  • 21. The Intelligence Centers of the Enneagram
  • 22. The goal is to grow in awareness of our habits. In our interpersonal exchanges we engage with habitual responses. Effective communication though, requires a large repertoire in order to provide for the varying needs of different situations. The more ambidextrous we become or the more fluid in skill in all the personality styles, the more fully we will be able to express our true selves in our personal and professional relationships. So, always, observe yourself. Grow your awareness of your ways of being in relationships. If you are not observing yourself you are operating in automatic. Choice is created by simply taking a pause, observing yourself and asking, Is my normal way of reacting going to help in this situation? Or, given choice, how might I better choose to respond?
  • 23. Often we fall into a habit of responding from only one emotional center and we find ourselves being driven by the reeling obsessive thoughts of the mind, the emotional leaps and plummets of our heart, or our immediate primal gut responses of fight or flight. The call is to always strive for balance. How do we achieve balance? By self observation and asking, Whats going on in the mind? Whats going on in the heart? and, Whats going on in the body? The invitation is to notice where you are; if your response is only analytical, in the mind, and the situation and relationship requires sensitivity, be intentional in that moment to consider how your heart and body intelligence can inform this exchange. If your heart has taken over your engagement with extreme emotion, take a break and re-gather yourself by incorporating body and mind intelligence. If body wants to haul off and hit someone, first, breathe. Then, breathe again so to purposefully create a moment where you can re-member your heart and mind.
  • 24. By growing towards a balanced response that involves all intelligence centers we reorient ourselves to respond more fully from a harmony of heart, mind and body. Thats what is wanted from others, our full presence. Being fully present to others in relationship, professional and personal, is the essence, form and the fulcrum of relationship. Awareness of ones habits, self observation, and an intentional practice of choice in the ways we express ourselves, is the invitation of the Enneagram. Thank you for spending this time with me to pause and look at ourselves through the lens of the Enneagram. All Good, Margaret
  • 25. Sources for learning more about the Enneagram Personal Coaching: Margaret Rahn, MBA, MA; Certified Enneagram Coach 513-600-1037 mmrahn@yahoo.com Deanna Martin, MA; Certified Enneagram Coach www.goconscious.com/home/staff/deanna_martin.html
  • 26. Sources for learning more about the Enneagram Books: Essential Enneagram: The Definitive Personality Test and Self- Discovery Guide -- Revised & Updated by David Daniels and Virginia Price (May 26, 2009). The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships by Helen Palmer(Dec 15, 1995) The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr and Andreas Ebbert(Sep 1, 2001) The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson(Jun 15, 1999) Teachers and authors: David Burke, Thomas Condon, David Daniels, Andreas Ebert, Russ Hudson, Andrea Issacs, Claudio Naranjo, Deborah Ooten, Helen Palmer, Don Riso, Richard Rohr, Terry Seracino and Mario Sikora.
  • 27. Sources for learning more about the Enneagram Sites: Conscious Living Center: www.goconscious.com/home/consciousness_ascending.html The International Enneagram Association: www.internationalenneagram.org The Enneagram Institute: www.enneagraminstitute.com Enneagram & Winnie the Pooh Characters: http://blog.theenneagraminbusiness.com/2009/12/fun-pooh-and- enneagram.html
  • 28. Sources for learning more about the Enneagram Local Events: Enneagram Panel Day in the Narrative Tradition. Moderated by Deborah Ooten, PhD For beginners who may not be sure of their type, & for long standing practitioners; all levels of experience are invited. Saturday, Sept 15. 10:00a.m.-4:00p.m. Location: Type 3 10-10:30 William Howard Taft National Historic Site Type 6 10:35-11:05 2038 Auburn Ave. Type 9 11:10-11:40 Lunch 11:45-12:15 Cincinnati,OH 45219 Type 1 12:20-12:50 Type 4 12:55-1:25 Type 2 1:30-2:00 For more info: Beth Ohara Type 8 2:05-2:35 513.621.3600 Type 5 2:40-3:10 beth.ohara@goconscious.com Type 7 3:15-3:45
  • 29. Sources for learning more about the Enneagram Conference: The Enneagram & Grace: Nine Journeys to Divine Presence Date(s): September 29-30, 2012 Led by Richard Rohr, OFM & Russ Hudson Location: Northern Kentucky Convention Center Time: 10:00 am-5:30 pm Co-Sponsored by Consciousness in Action, The Enneagram Institute of Central Ohio and The Enneagram Institute of Colorado http://www.goconscious.com/home/events/parms/1/event/the_enneagram_grace_nine_journeys_to_divine_presence.html Questions? Call 513-554-3070

Editor's Notes

  • #2: Overview:What is the Enneagram? Brief HistoryHow do I sense, take in and respond to my world?What is my preferred personality style?So what?I. Intro to MargaretII. Preliminary ExerciseA. Initial Reflection Questions:Take a moment. Take a deep breath. Write down first responses to these questionsβ1. What are 3-5 adjectives that best describe you?2. What 3-5 adjectives would someone, who knows you well, use to describe you?3. What do you consider to be your greatest liability?4. What do you consider to be your greatest strength?
  • #6: Teachers and authors include David Burke, Thomas Condon, David Daniels, Andreas Ebert, Rus Hudson, Andrea Issacs, Claudio Naranjo, Deborah Ooten, Helen Palmer, Don Riso, Richard Rohr, Terry Seracino and Mario Sikora.
  • #7: HeartFirst responses usually heart sourced. Often, overly sensitive.Moves towards others; concerned with being for others; relationship oriented.Somewhat less access to own feelings & a high empathic response for others. Often social & often devoted to needs of others; compassionate.Ruled by what others think about them; concerned with prestige & image.Often imagine they are able to anticipate needs of others; manipulative.Appear self confident, happy; while inwardly feeling sad, incapable.MindThe brain is the first responder; first reaction is to take a step back to think.A sense for order & duty. Insightful due to analytic approach.Objective; often appears to be detached.Feelings are hidden behind objectivity.Often appear clear & clever; while inwardly feeling isolated & confused.Can move to analysis-paralysis.BodyFirst responses are found in the gut; instinctive reactions.Often high concern for power, justice & control.Often aggressive; movement to anger.Often an appearance of high self confidence & strong presence; with little access to anxiety & fear. Makes invisible any internal self doubt & blaming; must protect the child inside.Instinctual. Action oriented. Gut knowing.
  • #19: Break ???????Exemplar Videos
  • #21: The goal is to grow in awareness of our habits. In our interpersonal exchanges we engage with habitual responses. Effective communication though, requires a large repertoire in order to provide for the varying needs of different situations. The more ambidextrous we become or the more fluid in skill in all the personality styles, the more fully we will be able to express our true selves in our personal and professional relationships. So, always, observe yourself. Grow your awareness of your ways of being in relationships. If you are not observing yourself you are operating in automatic. Choice is created by simply taking a pause, observing yourself and asking, Is my normal way of reacting going to help in this situation? Or, given choice, how might I better choose to respond? Often we fall into a habit of responding from only one emotional center and we find ourselves being driven by the reeling obsessive thoughts of the mind, the emotional leaps and plummets of our heart, or our immediate primal gut responses of fight or flight. The call is to always strive for balance. How do we achieve balance? By self observation and asking, Whats going on in the mind? Whats going on in the heart? and, Whats going on in the body? The invitation is to notice where you are; if your response is only analytical, in the mind, and the situation and relationship requires sensitivity, be intentional in that moment to consider how your heart and body intelligence can inform this exchange. If your heart has taken over your engagement with extreme emotion, take a break and re-gather yourself by incorporating body and mind intelligence. If body wants to haul off and hit someone, first, breathe. Then, breathe again so to purposefully create a moment where you can re-member your heart and mind.By growing towards a balanced response that involves all intelligence centers we reorient ourselves to respond more fully from a harmony of heart, mind and body. Thats what is wanted from others, our full presence. Being fully present to others in relationship, professional and personal, is the essence, form and the fulcrum of relationship. Awareness of ones habits, self observation, and an intentional practice of choice in the ways we express ourselves, is the invitation of the Enneagram. Thank you spending this time with me to pause and look at ourselves through the lens of the Enneagram.