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More free content: https://www.lovelifesolved.com/ Becoming a more interesting person is a wish that many of us share but dont know how to achieve. In this ultimate-guide type presentation, Julian lays out the process of going from average joe to true original. You cant miss out on this one!

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H O W T O B E C O M E M O R E by Julian Reisinger
Hey! Nice to meet you, I'm Julian.
this guy
I am a co-founder, branding expert, and lifestyle strategist at Reconnected.
I dont know about you, but I always wanted to be the most interesting guy in the room.
Even as a child. (yes, that cutie is me)
I wanted to be the one others gathered around to listen to.
How To Become A More Interesting Person
I wanted beautiful women to become fascinated by me.
How To Become A More Interesting Person
And, of course, I wanted to become interesting in order to climb the career ladder and become known by the rich, powerful and famous.
How To Become A More Interesting Person
My motivation to become interesting was clearly fueled by my ego.
Yours might be, too. But thats ok.
Because your ego is a great place to start.
It can provide the initial motivation towards long-term positive change.
Because to become more interesting you need to live an interesting life.
A life that YOU find interesting, to be precise.
And that aint easy.
See, every one of us is constantly communicating.
PAUL WATZLAWICK One cannot not communicate.
And what you communicate to the world is how it perceives you.
Ill give you an example.
What impression could someone get from the woman on the next slide?
How To Become A More Interesting Person
Designer shades She probably has money. Well-kept hair Hygiene, fashion, styling is important to her. Seems fi t She probably works out a couple of times a week. Perfect makeup Maybe shes a bit super fi cial.
You see, even if you dont say a word, others get a lot of clues from just looking at you.
Of course, which clues they get depends on their character, upbringing, prior experiences
Another person could perceive the woman from the image before completely differently:
Fake designer shades, She probably cant a ff ord the real ones. Bad hair color I dont think hazel suits her. Too much makeup What is she hiding under there? Strange blouse Id never wear this. She has no fashion sense whatsoever.
Where one person sees a wealthy model, another sees a girl without any fashion sense.
That brings me to my first key lesson.
INTERESTING TO WHOM? You have to accept that you can't be interesting to everyone. Some folks will always think you are a bore no matter how hard you try.
So never try to convince these naysayers otherwise. Instead, focus on yourself and what you fi nd interesting. INTERESTING TO WHOM?
L E S S O N Try to appeal to everyone and youll end up appealing to no one.
Ok, now that weve covered the basics, lets dive right in and talk about 8 ways to become more interesting.
How To Become A More Interesting Person
Some of them may be more your style than others and thats perfectly normal.
Just pick the ones that seem to fit your personality well.
Lets get started with the first one.
1. CONTRAST Contrast is a mismatch between how you expect a person to be and what they present to you. There are numerous ways to apply contrast.
For example, imagine a nerdy and strict math teacher who, one day, reveals a huge back tattoo and makes you wonder, What other surprises does she have in store?
Let's apply the principle of Contrast to another example.
Humans are full of stereotypes.
E.g., most peopled expect an investment banker to be male, wear a suit, live in a modern downtown apartment, work long hours, and dine at exclusive restaurants. Most people would expect an investment banker to be male, wear a suit, live in a modern downtown apartment, work long hours, and dine at exclusive restaurants.
Contrast is created whenever you can challenge a stereotype.
Now, what could challenge the stereotype of the wealthy, calculating banker in our example?
Here comes text over image text that looks really sexy. How about a banker who takes his clients and colleagues on home-made picnics instead of stiff dinners?
Here comes text over image text that looks really sexy. Or how about one who refuses to carry a smartphone?
The reaction you want to aim for is, "Maybe he's not like the others."
The reaction you want to aim for is, "Maybe he's not like the others." CURIOSITY/MYSTERY BRE AKI NG TH E MOL D + = CON TRAST = INTE RE ST ING
L E S S O N Make people misjudge you and you'll be perceived as interesting.
2. EXTRAORDINARY EXPERIENCES Whenever you do something that others won't do or are unable to do, like sing in front of a crowd, you win their respect and their interest.
For example, a friend of mine spent the last two years traveling from Austria to India over the land route, all by himself.
He made many detours and stops in Armenia, Turkey, Laos, and Iran. He hardly brought any money and only got by with jobs he discovered on the road.
Personally, I'd never do what he did. I'd be so scared. Thats why Im one of the many people who hang on to his every word when he talks about his adventures.
L E S S O N Do things that are too hard or scary for most people and youll be interesting. Period.
3. RARE OR UNUSUAL In our world, rare is good. Just as the rarest metals are the most valuable, rare achievements, traits, and possessions spark everyone's interest.
So what do I mean by rare? Here are some examples:
Being the star in a movie is rare. So is owning a Yacht. So is looking like a model. And so is being able to play the guitar like Santana.
Rare can also relate to eccentric hobbies. A friend of mine owns 18 terrariums and hosts bird spiders in them. They are on display in his living room. THATS AN ACTUAL PHOTO OF HIS TERRARIUMS
Most people who he talks to think the spiders are gross and theyd never want any in their home.
But everyone, without exception, fi nds the spiders fascinating and asks question after question about them.
They even relate emotionally with questions like, Arent you afraid they will escape and bite you in your sleep?
L E S S O N Do you have something that most people don't have? Show it. Talk about it. Embody it.
4. LEADING INSTEAD OF FOLLOWING Most people hate decision making and taking on responsibility. That's why following is so much easier than leading.
Truly interesting people, however, are only concerned with doing what they fi nd interesting, no matter if someone's joining them or not. Woohoo!!! Why did I ever think I need others to have fun?
What's funny is that humans usually fi nd what others do more interesting than what they themselves do. You can see this all the time with children.
L E S S O N Do things alone and have fun. Soon youll become irresistibly interesting to others who will want to join in.
5. NOVELTY I remember vividly when the fi rst iPhone came out in Austria and I bought one pretty early. It was the fi rst smartphone in my circle of friends.
Believe me, for a while, everyone wanted to hold my phone, touch it, play with it, or just watch me use it.
It was something magical that no one had ever seen before. Whenever the screen lit up so did the eyes of everyone around.
Interestingly, even remixes of old stu ff and vintage items are perceived as novel. Just think of the record player hype or the rise of Electro Swing, a new music genre.
(Completely o ff topic, but if youve never listened to Electro Swing, make sure to check out the awesome band Parov Stelar)
So how can you apply novelty practically?
Got a drone? Tell people who have never fl own one what it feels like. Or better yet, let them fl y it.
Ever tried a VR headset? Tell VR virgins what it was like.
Ever fl ew in an A380? Most people would love to, some day, but in the meantime they want to hear all about it.
L E S S O N If you have something that's brand new or vintage, let others know about it. Novel is interesting.
6. BREAKING OUT OF YOUR ROUTINE Surrounding yourself with the same people and places day in and day out makes you boring.
Why is that?
Because, over time, you learned everything there was to learn about these people and places and now there is nothing left that's new or surprising to you.
Every story is already known, every activity repeated time and again. You start boring yourself just talking about it. (and thus wont talk in an interesting and engaging fashion)
If you know this feeling, then it's time for a little break.
By far the most popular way to break out of your usual environment is travel. It forces you to leave your comfort zone, make new experiences, and meet new people, especially when you travel alone.
But not everyone is a huge fan of venturing out on their own.
Fortunately, there are other ways to refresh your lifestyle.
One of my favorites is changing the routes in your life.
You probably take the same route to work or school every day because it's the fastest way.
On your route, I bet you pass all kinds of interesting things.
But you might not see them if you just try to get from point A to point B as fast as possible.
When you miss out on seeing those new things, you dont have as many interesting things to share.
So, tomorrow, how about you figure out a new route to work? Who knows who or what youll meet on your way.
L E S S O N Don't live your life on autopilot. You'll gain more experiences that will provide you with interesting stories.
7. AUTHENTICITY People who are unapologetically themselves are interesting. We even have a term for them: true originals.
A great example of a true original that everyone knows is my fellow Austrian, Mr. Universe as well as Mr. Olympia, Terminator, and former Governor of California, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
Back when he was starting out as an actor, Schwarzenegger thought of his German accent as a hindrance to his career. So he started to take accent removal classes. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
However, he soon found out that his accent was one of the things that made him stand out. What he thought was his biggest disadvantage was actually a major di ff erentiator. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
ARNOLD SCHWARZENEG GER Th e things that the agent said will be a detriment and will be impossible for me to get a job, all of a sudden became an asset for me.
No matter what your opinion of Arnold is, he certainly did a great job of becoming interesting to lots of people.
L E S S O N The things you are ashamed of and try to hide are usually the things that make you unique. And others are interested in unique.
8. REMOVING THE FILTER Many of us prevent every chance of being interesting by running what we want to say through a fi lter that makes sure it's appropriate.
Id love to tell her how nervous I was before I came here but I dont want her to think Im insecure.
This is a sure fi re way to fi lter out everything that's interesting about you. Even worse, you prevent others from becoming curious about you.
But all this worry is misplaced because its always better to say something stupid and apologize afterwards than to censor yourself.
Thats because humans are drawn to emotion.
This is how the emotional wave of your conversational partner looks like when you filter yourself: I work as a senior consultant in a multi-national fi rm. Mostly, I help family-owned SMEs to delegate management responsibility.
And this is what it looks like when you just say what comes to mind: Frankly, most of my job is telling others what to do. I lo v e it because even as a child I was a small dictator among my peers.
L E S S O N Speak your mind more often and youll be perceived as interesting more often.
Ok. Thats all for today. I hope you found some of my tips helpful and can apply them in your own life.
And never forget:
Th e most interesting people dont try to be interesting to others. Instead, they focus on leading a life thats interesting to them.
See you around and take care!

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How To Become A More Interesting Person

  • 1. H O W T O B E C O M E M O R E by Julian Reisinger
  • 2. Hey! Nice to meet you, I'm Julian.
  • 4. I am a co-founder, branding expert, and lifestyle strategist at Reconnected.
  • 5. I dont know about you, but I always wanted to be the most interesting guy in the room.
  • 6. Even as a child. (yes, that cutie is me)
  • 7. I wanted to be the one others gathered around to listen to.
  • 9. I wanted beautiful women to become fascinated by me.
  • 11. And, of course, I wanted to become interesting in order to climb the career ladder and become known by the rich, powerful and famous.
  • 13. My motivation to become interesting was clearly fueled by my ego.
  • 14. Yours might be, too. But thats ok.
  • 15. Because your ego is a great place to start.
  • 16. It can provide the initial motivation towards long-term positive change.
  • 17. Because to become more interesting you need to live an interesting life.
  • 18. A life that YOU find interesting, to be precise.
  • 19. And that aint easy.
  • 20. See, every one of us is constantly communicating.
  • 21. PAUL WATZLAWICK One cannot not communicate.
  • 22. And what you communicate to the world is how it perceives you.
  • 23. Ill give you an example.
  • 24. What impression could someone get from the woman on the next slide?
  • 26. Designer shades She probably has money. Well-kept hair Hygiene, fashion, styling is important to her. Seems fi t She probably works out a couple of times a week. Perfect makeup Maybe shes a bit super fi cial.
  • 27. You see, even if you dont say a word, others get a lot of clues from just looking at you.
  • 28. Of course, which clues they get depends on their character, upbringing, prior experiences
  • 29. Another person could perceive the woman from the image before completely differently:
  • 30. Fake designer shades, She probably cant a ff ord the real ones. Bad hair color I dont think hazel suits her. Too much makeup What is she hiding under there? Strange blouse Id never wear this. She has no fashion sense whatsoever.
  • 31. Where one person sees a wealthy model, another sees a girl without any fashion sense.
  • 32. That brings me to my first key lesson.
  • 33. INTERESTING TO WHOM? You have to accept that you can't be interesting to everyone. Some folks will always think you are a bore no matter how hard you try.
  • 34. So never try to convince these naysayers otherwise. Instead, focus on yourself and what you fi nd interesting. INTERESTING TO WHOM?
  • 35. L E S S O N Try to appeal to everyone and youll end up appealing to no one.
  • 36. Ok, now that weve covered the basics, lets dive right in and talk about 8 ways to become more interesting.
  • 38. Some of them may be more your style than others and thats perfectly normal.
  • 39. Just pick the ones that seem to fit your personality well.
  • 40. Lets get started with the first one.
  • 41. 1. CONTRAST Contrast is a mismatch between how you expect a person to be and what they present to you. There are numerous ways to apply contrast.
  • 42. For example, imagine a nerdy and strict math teacher who, one day, reveals a huge back tattoo and makes you wonder, What other surprises does she have in store?
  • 43. Let's apply the principle of Contrast to another example.
  • 44. Humans are full of stereotypes.
  • 45. E.g., most peopled expect an investment banker to be male, wear a suit, live in a modern downtown apartment, work long hours, and dine at exclusive restaurants. Most people would expect an investment banker to be male, wear a suit, live in a modern downtown apartment, work long hours, and dine at exclusive restaurants.
  • 46. Contrast is created whenever you can challenge a stereotype.
  • 47. Now, what could challenge the stereotype of the wealthy, calculating banker in our example?
  • 48. Here comes text over image text that looks really sexy. How about a banker who takes his clients and colleagues on home-made picnics instead of stiff dinners?
  • 49. Here comes text over image text that looks really sexy. Or how about one who refuses to carry a smartphone?
  • 50. The reaction you want to aim for is, "Maybe he's not like the others."
  • 51. The reaction you want to aim for is, "Maybe he's not like the others." CURIOSITY/MYSTERY BRE AKI NG TH E MOL D + = CON TRAST = INTE RE ST ING
  • 52. L E S S O N Make people misjudge you and you'll be perceived as interesting.
  • 53. 2. EXTRAORDINARY EXPERIENCES Whenever you do something that others won't do or are unable to do, like sing in front of a crowd, you win their respect and their interest.
  • 54. For example, a friend of mine spent the last two years traveling from Austria to India over the land route, all by himself.
  • 55. He made many detours and stops in Armenia, Turkey, Laos, and Iran. He hardly brought any money and only got by with jobs he discovered on the road.
  • 56. Personally, I'd never do what he did. I'd be so scared. Thats why Im one of the many people who hang on to his every word when he talks about his adventures.
  • 57. L E S S O N Do things that are too hard or scary for most people and youll be interesting. Period.
  • 58. 3. RARE OR UNUSUAL In our world, rare is good. Just as the rarest metals are the most valuable, rare achievements, traits, and possessions spark everyone's interest.
  • 59. So what do I mean by rare? Here are some examples:
  • 60. Being the star in a movie is rare. So is owning a Yacht. So is looking like a model. And so is being able to play the guitar like Santana.
  • 61. Rare can also relate to eccentric hobbies. A friend of mine owns 18 terrariums and hosts bird spiders in them. They are on display in his living room. THATS AN ACTUAL PHOTO OF HIS TERRARIUMS
  • 62. Most people who he talks to think the spiders are gross and theyd never want any in their home.
  • 63. But everyone, without exception, fi nds the spiders fascinating and asks question after question about them.
  • 64. They even relate emotionally with questions like, Arent you afraid they will escape and bite you in your sleep?
  • 65. L E S S O N Do you have something that most people don't have? Show it. Talk about it. Embody it.
  • 66. 4. LEADING INSTEAD OF FOLLOWING Most people hate decision making and taking on responsibility. That's why following is so much easier than leading.
  • 67. Truly interesting people, however, are only concerned with doing what they fi nd interesting, no matter if someone's joining them or not. Woohoo!!! Why did I ever think I need others to have fun?
  • 68. What's funny is that humans usually fi nd what others do more interesting than what they themselves do. You can see this all the time with children.
  • 69. L E S S O N Do things alone and have fun. Soon youll become irresistibly interesting to others who will want to join in.
  • 70. 5. NOVELTY I remember vividly when the fi rst iPhone came out in Austria and I bought one pretty early. It was the fi rst smartphone in my circle of friends.
  • 71. Believe me, for a while, everyone wanted to hold my phone, touch it, play with it, or just watch me use it.
  • 72. It was something magical that no one had ever seen before. Whenever the screen lit up so did the eyes of everyone around.
  • 73. Interestingly, even remixes of old stu ff and vintage items are perceived as novel. Just think of the record player hype or the rise of Electro Swing, a new music genre.
  • 74. (Completely o ff topic, but if youve never listened to Electro Swing, make sure to check out the awesome band Parov Stelar)
  • 75. So how can you apply novelty practically?
  • 76. Got a drone? Tell people who have never fl own one what it feels like. Or better yet, let them fl y it.
  • 77. Ever tried a VR headset? Tell VR virgins what it was like.
  • 78. Ever fl ew in an A380? Most people would love to, some day, but in the meantime they want to hear all about it.
  • 79. L E S S O N If you have something that's brand new or vintage, let others know about it. Novel is interesting.
  • 80. 6. BREAKING OUT OF YOUR ROUTINE Surrounding yourself with the same people and places day in and day out makes you boring.
  • 82. Because, over time, you learned everything there was to learn about these people and places and now there is nothing left that's new or surprising to you.
  • 83. Every story is already known, every activity repeated time and again. You start boring yourself just talking about it. (and thus wont talk in an interesting and engaging fashion)
  • 84. If you know this feeling, then it's time for a little break.
  • 85. By far the most popular way to break out of your usual environment is travel. It forces you to leave your comfort zone, make new experiences, and meet new people, especially when you travel alone.
  • 86. But not everyone is a huge fan of venturing out on their own.
  • 87. Fortunately, there are other ways to refresh your lifestyle.
  • 88. One of my favorites is changing the routes in your life.
  • 89. You probably take the same route to work or school every day because it's the fastest way.
  • 90. On your route, I bet you pass all kinds of interesting things.
  • 91. But you might not see them if you just try to get from point A to point B as fast as possible.
  • 92. When you miss out on seeing those new things, you dont have as many interesting things to share.
  • 93. So, tomorrow, how about you figure out a new route to work? Who knows who or what youll meet on your way.
  • 94. L E S S O N Don't live your life on autopilot. You'll gain more experiences that will provide you with interesting stories.
  • 95. 7. AUTHENTICITY People who are unapologetically themselves are interesting. We even have a term for them: true originals.
  • 96. A great example of a true original that everyone knows is my fellow Austrian, Mr. Universe as well as Mr. Olympia, Terminator, and former Governor of California, Arnold Schwarzenegger. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
  • 97. Back when he was starting out as an actor, Schwarzenegger thought of his German accent as a hindrance to his career. So he started to take accent removal classes. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
  • 98. However, he soon found out that his accent was one of the things that made him stand out. What he thought was his biggest disadvantage was actually a major di ff erentiator. Attribution: Gage Skidmore / CC BY-SA (https:// creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)
  • 99. ARNOLD SCHWARZENEG GER Th e things that the agent said will be a detriment and will be impossible for me to get a job, all of a sudden became an asset for me.
  • 100. No matter what your opinion of Arnold is, he certainly did a great job of becoming interesting to lots of people.
  • 101. L E S S O N The things you are ashamed of and try to hide are usually the things that make you unique. And others are interested in unique.
  • 102. 8. REMOVING THE FILTER Many of us prevent every chance of being interesting by running what we want to say through a fi lter that makes sure it's appropriate.
  • 103. Id love to tell her how nervous I was before I came here but I dont want her to think Im insecure.
  • 104. This is a sure fi re way to fi lter out everything that's interesting about you. Even worse, you prevent others from becoming curious about you.
  • 105. But all this worry is misplaced because its always better to say something stupid and apologize afterwards than to censor yourself.
  • 106. Thats because humans are drawn to emotion.
  • 107. This is how the emotional wave of your conversational partner looks like when you filter yourself: I work as a senior consultant in a multi-national fi rm. Mostly, I help family-owned SMEs to delegate management responsibility.
  • 108. And this is what it looks like when you just say what comes to mind: Frankly, most of my job is telling others what to do. I lo v e it because even as a child I was a small dictator among my peers.
  • 109. L E S S O N Speak your mind more often and youll be perceived as interesting more often.
  • 110. Ok. Thats all for today. I hope you found some of my tips helpful and can apply them in your own life.
  • 112. Th e most interesting people dont try to be interesting to others. Instead, they focus on leading a life thats interesting to them.
  • 113. See you around and take care!