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Performance Objectives
Identify the elements of effective
interpersonal communication.
Define Communication.
Understand your Communication style.
Identify Barriers to effective
communication.
Identify negative examples of non-verbal
communication.
Identify Strategies for dealing with difficult
people.
Identify examples of difficult people.
Identify difficult coworkers. How poor
communication contributes to a negative
workplace.
Identify techniques to de-escalate a verbal
confrontation while remaining
professional.
Identify the importance of self-evaluation
Tactical thinking when dealing with
difficult people.
Define Active listening.
Identify factors that develop a negative
public response.
Identify effective ways to comfort an
emotionally upset individual.
Identify how gender issues contribute to
perceptions of the others behavior.
Identify techniques to handle generational
issues.
Identify how personal motivation affects
human behavior.
Officer communication skills. Questioning
and listening techniques
Interpersonal Communication
Robert Bolton
Eighty percent of people who fail at
work do so for one reason.
They do not relate (communicate)
well with others.
Communication Defined
The exchange of: ___________ ,
____________, or _______________;
By _________, ________, ________, or by
___________
Interpersonal Rapport
thoughts
messages information
speech signals writing
behavior
What is your Communication Style?
Communication Style Self-Assessment
It is important to be aware of your
communication style and also the
communication style of those that you
are speaking to.
7
Roadblocks  What Gets in the Way
Roadblocks can become strengths if we
increase our awareness of our own tendencies,
and acknowledge their impact on all our
interactions
3/6/2023 9
The primary responsibility of
effective interpersonal
communication lies with:
_______________________
The Communicator/ Sender
Group Resume
To lead a group of people from many
different countries and cultures
from around the world, into
unchartered territory in the
wilderness to see if it is habitable for
humans.
IPC IS IRREVERSIBLE
Once the words are said
Non-verbal cue sent
You cannot take it back
Interpersonal Communication
3/6/2023 12
Body Language
Understanding Gestures in Context
3/6/2023 13
Examples of Body Language
3/6/2023 14
Body Language
Hands on hips
Known as confrontational
A non-verbal challenge
Body Language
Looking away
Ignoring you
Looking for escape route
Preparing to fight or run
Body Language
Rolling shirt sleeves up
High stress or anxiety
Getting ready to fight
Body Language
Face and Head
Face conveys emotion
Head conveys attitude
Body Language
Foot direction
Often indicates where the
person wants to be
One of the hardest to disguise
Body Language & Officer Safety
Head angle indicates fight or flight
Dropped or raise chin  fight
Confirming gesture of fight fixed stare
Watch area around neck (muscle tightening)
possible attack
Happy Feet
Short, choppy gestures/verbal threat is real
Palms out, can indicate emotion
Watch out for deadly hands
Multiple gestures and deadly gaze
Knuckle-popping, flexing means trouble
Red face
Raised eyebrows
Setting of hands
Hands on hips
Fixed dilated stare
Watch the one not talking
Flared nostrils, setting of jaw
Mouth tense, lips down at corners
Eyes wider during periods of intense
emotions
4 Pillars of Non-Verbal
Communication
Difficult People
Who are they?
The most difficult person you have to
contend with is ______________
Why are people difficult?
_________________________________
yourself
angry, upset, having a bad day
Dealing with Co-Workers
Student Manual
The Aggressor
The Unresponsive
The Underminer
The Egotist
5 Ways to Deal with Difficult
Co-Workers
1. Be prepared for conflict
2. Do not fuel the fire
3. Lend a helping hand
4. Get a third party involved
5. Move on
Managed Conflict
 Strengthens relationships
and builds teamwork
 Encourages open
communication and
cooperative problem solving
 Quickly resolves
disagreements and increases
productivity
 Deals with real issues &
concentrates on win-win
resolution
Unmanaged Conflict
 Damages relationships and
discourages cooperation
 Results in defensiveness
and hidden agendas
 Wastes time, money and
human resources
 Focuses on blaming and
fault finding
Managed Conflict
 Makes allies and defuses
anger
Airs all sides of an issue
in positive supportive
environment
Is orderly, calm and
focused
Unmanaged Conflict
 Creates enemies and
hard feelings
Is frustrating, stress-
producing and
energy-draining
Is often loud, hostile and
out of control
Peace is not found avoiding conflict
Peace is attained by learning to live with
and successfully manage conflict
Advantages of Conflict
Conflict presents many positive aspects.
It can be an opportunity for __________
_________
personal
growth
In a Conflict Situation
Before you attempt to control others,
you must first maintain control of
yourself (mentally, emotionally, and
physically)
Losing control of self can result in:
 Over-reaction, loss of situational awareness,
escalation of violence, lawsuits and
personnel complaints.
You must remain:
Professional Under Pressure
Elements of Public Safety
Professionalism
Peace Officers enjoy ________________
_________
________ is never out for a
________________
Required to adhere to a set of policies
and procedures, a _______ ___ ________
True professionals honor this
responsibility and do not misuse their
______________
celebrity
status
School
professional
Code of Ethics
authority
Remaining Professional Under
Pressure
1. Personalize your service
2. Be a L.E.O. (__________________)
3. Treat people with dignity and respect
4. See the other persons point-of-view
Leave Ego Out
5. Use active listening
6. Stretch your flash point
7. Give people a way out that looks good
to them
8. Agree, then turn it around
9. Focus on your professional objective;
sidestep insults
10. Role model what you want
11. Give before you get
12. Use positive self talk
13. Life is a marathon, not a 100-yard
dash
14. Project professionalism. Use
professional voice and body language
to strengthen credibility
15. Be reasonable and rational
What Are Your Tools?
You can gain or lose control by your:
 _________________
 _______ _____________
Confrontation vs. cooperation  decide
what you want.
Remember, _____ of law enforcement is
done by verbalization.
verbalization
body language
98%
Tactical Thinking
Gaining and maintaining control of
situations means control of people.
Controlling yourself comes first
Controlling your thought process, how
you talk to yourself, is the key to
______________
Self Control
Problems that Inhibit
Professionalism
Negative mind set = a bad attitude
Negative self-talk
Lacking a positive belief of self
Failure to take responsibility
Lack of self-discipline
Performing less than our best
No goals
Failure to be open to learn
Only seeing our own view
Being dishonest
Avoiding Conflict
Lacking self-confidence
Lacking self-respect
Treating others disrespectfully
If under duress, you cannot
perform well
Performance
100%
0% 100%
Tension / Stress
Professional
Zone
Cycle of Behavior
Consequences
Reinforcement
Self Talk
Beliefs
Self Talk
(Thinking)
Emotions
Behavior
How to Stop the Cycle
_____ _____
Challenge long-standing limiting beliefs
Improve from your past
Practice, study, learn
Positive self-talk can break the cycle of
unproductive behavior
Self Talk
Expectations vs. Reality
EXPECTATIONS
REALITY
STRESS
The larger the gap the higher your stress level.
General Mind Set
To successfully and effectively
communicate, have honest ____________,
and an _____________, __________
_________
Be a L.E.O. (________ _____ _____)
Great Leaders are Great Communicators
Great Communicators are Great Listeners
concern
empathetic caring
attitude
Leave Ego Out
Active Listening vs. Listening
________ __________ = understanding
or comprehending the intended message.
Speaker feels respected.
___________ = hearing  not necessarily
understanding or communicating the
intended message.
Active Listening
Listening
Active Listening
Gives them what they need and calms
them down because it makes them
feel ___________
It also empties their angry cup
Active listening is ______ ______
You learn a lot
By listening you __________ them to
listen
respected
Hard Work
motivate
People speak 100-175 words per minute
We listen at about 300400 words per
minute
Here is how your message is received:
 What: ____% verbal (words you use)
 How:_____% is your voice (tone, intonation)
 Seen:_____% is body language
7
38
55
Active Listening
Three responsibilities for the listener:
___________ __________ ___________
(non-verbal) (verbal) (feedback)
(confirming)
Attending Following Reflecting
Listening with Purpose
(Mental Discipline)
Listen to more than words  how does
the person feel
Listen with your eyes
What are they saying and how is it said
Law of Reciprocity
Physical Discipline
Deep Listening
Speaking:
Projecting Professionalism
What we say vs. How we say it
Audience will only get ___% from ______
38% by your _____ ___ ______
55% is what they pick up _________
Only ___% is delivered by words you use.
_____% by how you say what you say.
7 verbal
tone of voice
visually
7
93
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Factors That Develop a Negative
Public Response
Condescending
Dishonest/ deceptive
Manipulative
Threatening/ confrontational
Inattentive
Insincerity
Lack of follow-through
Lack of preparation
Assumptions, bias, prejudice
How to Deal with Insults,
Challenges & Verbal Hostility
Remain professional in how you project
yourself
Remain professional while taking verbal
flak
Maintain your self control (Do not allow
anyone to push your buttons)
Be a _____________ not a thermometer
_______ _____ ______ ______
thermostat
Never play their game
Six Steps to Manage Verbal
Hostility
1. Use _________ _____ ______
2. Ignore, deflect insults
3. Use a process comment
4. Use active listening
5. Make an agreement comment
6. State what you need.
Positive self talk
Upset, Difficult, Dangerous
______ ____________: projects an
example of what you want to accomplish.
Presenting yourself in a calm, professional,
peaceful image does not add to the tension
Seek cooperation
Role Modeling
7 Steps in Gaining Cooperation
1. Use __________ ______-_______
2. Project _________________
3. ____ - for what you want
4. __________
5. ___________ (good vs. bad)
6. Clarify cooperation vs. resistance
7. Time to repeat and reinforce the
negotiation points or escalate to force
Positive Self Talk
Professionalism
Ask
Explain
Negotiate
Practical Solutions to Real
Problems
1. Provide clear information
2. It is OK to tell the person you are sorry
for their pain
3. If experiencing confusing emotions,
explain that it is normal
4. Avoid interrupting
5. Help people focus on short-term goals
6. Be willing to accept people for who they
are
7. Be tolerant
8. Do not be afraid to say I do not know
Emotionally/Mentally
Disturbed People
1. Size can be deceiving
2. Perceptions may differ considerably
3. Pace the contact
4. Patience can be priceless
5. Maintain tactical vigilance
6. Get as much information as possible
prior to contact
Police and ASD
1. Autistic Disorder
2. Aspergers Disorder
3. Retts Syndrome
4. Childhood Disintegrative Disorder
5. Pervasive Developmental Disorder
28 Principles to Guide You
When Dealing with ASD
1. First be safe
2. Persons with ASD are diverse
3. Manage your back-up
4. Do not interfere with self-stimming
5. Move
6. Allow for acclimation
7. Do not expect eye contact
8. Do not equate inability to speak with
deafness or illiteracy
9. Do not read meaning into words alone
10.Use a normal volume of voice
11.Keep your tone of voice soft
12.Use an economy of words
13.Give them extra time to answer (11 sec)
14.Dispel their fear
15.Say good job: to kids and adults
16.Use unthreatening body language
17. Model the behaviors you want to see
18. Personal space is relative
19. Look for a cause
20. Striking out is communication
21.Tell them the rules
22.Quiet hands and feet
23.Biting is a common defensive behavior
Gender Issues
 Men  final solution oriented
 Use fewer words to express themselves
 Go straight to the bottom line and back fill only if
necessary
 Tend to finish one topic before going to another topic
 Does not nod head unless agreeing during conversation
Women  Talk all points of the issue
 Use more words to make a point
 Want to discuss the issue or problem to come up with
a solution
 Often change topic in middle of conversation
 Nods head as a person speaks (not agreement)
Generational Possibilities
Veteran BB GenX GenY
1925-1945 1946-1964 1965-1979 1980-2000
Outlook Practical Optimistic Skeptical Optimistic
Work Ethic Dedicated Driven Balanced Need
Guidance
View of
Authority
Respectful Love/Hate Un-
impressed
Un-
impressed
Leadership
by
Hierarchy Consensus Competence Flexibility
Relation-
ships
Personal
sacrifice
Personal
gratification
Reluctant to
commit
Personal
gratification
Perspective Civic Team Self Self
5-Star Treatment
You must give before you get respect
___-_____ _____________ cost you
nothing but it pays big dividends.
5 Star Treatment
How to Maintain Self Control
Energy, effort and self-discipline
Strengthen your self-confidence and self-
discipline
Turn Weakness into Strength
Plato had a speech impediment so he put
pebbles in his mouth and practiced trying
to speak clearly.
Wilma Rudolph was in leg braces at age
11 due to polio. At 16, she won a silver
medal for sprinting at the Olympics. At
age 20, she won 4 gold medals at the
Olympics.
Spud Webb N.C. Hornets  NBA slam
dunk champ. He is 59
Demsey, NFL football place kicker only
has 遜 a foot
All four of these people:
Took __________ _________________
for their short comings
Had or ___________ a __________
_________ in themselves
Developed a high frustration tolerance
(_____-____________)
Developed and maintained tremendous
self-control.
Personal Responsibility
developed positive
attitude
Self Discipline
Officer Communication
Interview Skills
Information Questions
 How, Who, What, Where, When, Why
Precision Questions
 What exactly? When exactly? Who exactly?
How Much?
Powerful Questions
 What is stopping you? What are you afraid
might happen if you.?
Reflective Questions
 So you are saying that..
Probing Questions
Clarifying  Are you saying that ?
Understanding  Could you explain
further?
Offering Ideas/Insights  Have you
thought of.?
Digging Deeper  What else happened?
Unpeeling Layers  And then what
happened?
Use Open-Ended Questions
Make no suggestions
Invite witnesses or victims to talk in
their own words
Act as a memory prompt
Get people talking
Encourage full answers
Help to get accurate information
Examples
What can I do to help? (open-ended)
Can I help you? (closed- ended)
Can you explain to me how you feel?(open)
Are you upset? (closed)
Avoid Closed-End Questions
Courts may consider them as leading
Do not suggest an idea to the witness or
victim
Do not lead the witness or victim to
repeat what YOU said
Avoid one word answer questions.
Example: Does the suspect have a beard?
How To Get Information
Let the witness or victim talk 80% of the
time
Use their words when you ask subsequent
questions
Do not interrupt a statement
Ask victim to confirm points
Examples of Powerful
Questions
What can I do for you?
What do you think the problem is?
What is your role in this situation?
What is preventing you from.?
Tell me more about that?
Explain to me how you are feeling?
Emergency/Death Message
_____ ____ ______ _____
Be sure of your victims ID and status
Choose location
Keep objectivity
Keep information release minimal
Discreet radio traffic
Bring support
Be prepared for different reactions
Leave contact information
Be kind, considerate and professional
Follow Your Agency Policy
Media
Know your agency policy
What can happen if released improperly
If you have to give out information
 Keep it to a minimum
 Never say No Comment
 Refer them to person who can assist or give
a time when information can be released
The media are paid to get the story, do
not let it be _____ who gave them the
information that compromises an
investigation, embarrasses the
department or who is charged with a
policy or law violation.
you
How to Meet and Greet
Professionally
1. Set the tone
2. I.D. yourself and your organization
3. State the reason for the contact
4. Their reason for behavior
5. Make request
6. Inform them of your actions
7. Professional close
P = ____________ belief in yourself
R = _______________ for who you are
O= _______ to the reality of life
F = _____ for life: mentally, emotionally,
E = ___________: concern for others
S = _______________: build high tolerance
S = __________________
I = ______________: maintain expertise
O= __________: Good time management
N = ________: high moral character
A = ___________: take control
L = _______: yourself, others, your work
Positive
Responsible
Open
Fit
Empathy
Self Discipline
Self Confidence
Intelligence
On Time
Noble
Assertive
Love
Questions, Comments,
Concerns

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Interpersonal Communication Powerpoint - NDOC.ppt

  • 1. Performance Objectives Identify the elements of effective interpersonal communication. Define Communication. Understand your Communication style. Identify Barriers to effective communication. Identify negative examples of non-verbal communication.
  • 2. Identify Strategies for dealing with difficult people. Identify examples of difficult people. Identify difficult coworkers. How poor communication contributes to a negative workplace. Identify techniques to de-escalate a verbal confrontation while remaining professional. Identify the importance of self-evaluation Tactical thinking when dealing with difficult people. Define Active listening.
  • 3. Identify factors that develop a negative public response. Identify effective ways to comfort an emotionally upset individual. Identify how gender issues contribute to perceptions of the others behavior. Identify techniques to handle generational issues. Identify how personal motivation affects human behavior. Officer communication skills. Questioning and listening techniques
  • 5. Robert Bolton Eighty percent of people who fail at work do so for one reason. They do not relate (communicate) well with others.
  • 6. Communication Defined The exchange of: ___________ , ____________, or _______________; By _________, ________, ________, or by ___________ Interpersonal Rapport thoughts messages information speech signals writing behavior
  • 7. What is your Communication Style? Communication Style Self-Assessment It is important to be aware of your communication style and also the communication style of those that you are speaking to. 7
  • 8. Roadblocks What Gets in the Way Roadblocks can become strengths if we increase our awareness of our own tendencies, and acknowledge their impact on all our interactions
  • 9. 3/6/2023 9 The primary responsibility of effective interpersonal communication lies with: _______________________ The Communicator/ Sender
  • 10. Group Resume To lead a group of people from many different countries and cultures from around the world, into unchartered territory in the wilderness to see if it is habitable for humans.
  • 11. IPC IS IRREVERSIBLE Once the words are said Non-verbal cue sent You cannot take it back
  • 13. Body Language Understanding Gestures in Context 3/6/2023 13
  • 14. Examples of Body Language 3/6/2023 14
  • 15. Body Language Hands on hips Known as confrontational A non-verbal challenge
  • 16. Body Language Looking away Ignoring you Looking for escape route Preparing to fight or run
  • 17. Body Language Rolling shirt sleeves up High stress or anxiety Getting ready to fight
  • 18. Body Language Face and Head Face conveys emotion Head conveys attitude
  • 19. Body Language Foot direction Often indicates where the person wants to be One of the hardest to disguise
  • 20. Body Language & Officer Safety Head angle indicates fight or flight Dropped or raise chin fight Confirming gesture of fight fixed stare Watch area around neck (muscle tightening) possible attack Happy Feet Short, choppy gestures/verbal threat is real
  • 21. Palms out, can indicate emotion Watch out for deadly hands Multiple gestures and deadly gaze Knuckle-popping, flexing means trouble Red face Raised eyebrows Setting of hands Hands on hips
  • 22. Fixed dilated stare Watch the one not talking Flared nostrils, setting of jaw Mouth tense, lips down at corners Eyes wider during periods of intense emotions
  • 23. 4 Pillars of Non-Verbal Communication
  • 24. Difficult People Who are they? The most difficult person you have to contend with is ______________ Why are people difficult? _________________________________ yourself angry, upset, having a bad day
  • 25. Dealing with Co-Workers Student Manual The Aggressor The Unresponsive The Underminer The Egotist
  • 26. 5 Ways to Deal with Difficult Co-Workers 1. Be prepared for conflict 2. Do not fuel the fire 3. Lend a helping hand 4. Get a third party involved 5. Move on
  • 27. Managed Conflict Strengthens relationships and builds teamwork Encourages open communication and cooperative problem solving Quickly resolves disagreements and increases productivity Deals with real issues & concentrates on win-win resolution Unmanaged Conflict Damages relationships and discourages cooperation Results in defensiveness and hidden agendas Wastes time, money and human resources Focuses on blaming and fault finding
  • 28. Managed Conflict Makes allies and defuses anger Airs all sides of an issue in positive supportive environment Is orderly, calm and focused Unmanaged Conflict Creates enemies and hard feelings Is frustrating, stress- producing and energy-draining Is often loud, hostile and out of control
  • 29. Peace is not found avoiding conflict Peace is attained by learning to live with and successfully manage conflict
  • 30. Advantages of Conflict Conflict presents many positive aspects. It can be an opportunity for __________ _________ personal growth
  • 31. In a Conflict Situation Before you attempt to control others, you must first maintain control of yourself (mentally, emotionally, and physically) Losing control of self can result in: Over-reaction, loss of situational awareness, escalation of violence, lawsuits and personnel complaints. You must remain: Professional Under Pressure
  • 32. Elements of Public Safety Professionalism Peace Officers enjoy ________________ _________ ________ is never out for a ________________ Required to adhere to a set of policies and procedures, a _______ ___ ________ True professionals honor this responsibility and do not misuse their ______________ celebrity status School professional Code of Ethics authority
  • 33. Remaining Professional Under Pressure 1. Personalize your service 2. Be a L.E.O. (__________________) 3. Treat people with dignity and respect 4. See the other persons point-of-view Leave Ego Out
  • 34. 5. Use active listening 6. Stretch your flash point 7. Give people a way out that looks good to them 8. Agree, then turn it around 9. Focus on your professional objective; sidestep insults 10. Role model what you want
  • 35. 11. Give before you get 12. Use positive self talk 13. Life is a marathon, not a 100-yard dash 14. Project professionalism. Use professional voice and body language to strengthen credibility 15. Be reasonable and rational
  • 36. What Are Your Tools? You can gain or lose control by your: _________________ _______ _____________ Confrontation vs. cooperation decide what you want. Remember, _____ of law enforcement is done by verbalization. verbalization body language 98%
  • 37. Tactical Thinking Gaining and maintaining control of situations means control of people. Controlling yourself comes first Controlling your thought process, how you talk to yourself, is the key to ______________ Self Control
  • 38. Problems that Inhibit Professionalism Negative mind set = a bad attitude Negative self-talk Lacking a positive belief of self Failure to take responsibility Lack of self-discipline Performing less than our best
  • 39. No goals Failure to be open to learn Only seeing our own view Being dishonest Avoiding Conflict Lacking self-confidence Lacking self-respect Treating others disrespectfully
  • 40. If under duress, you cannot perform well Performance 100% 0% 100% Tension / Stress Professional Zone
  • 41. Cycle of Behavior Consequences Reinforcement Self Talk Beliefs Self Talk (Thinking) Emotions Behavior
  • 42. How to Stop the Cycle _____ _____ Challenge long-standing limiting beliefs Improve from your past Practice, study, learn Positive self-talk can break the cycle of unproductive behavior Self Talk
  • 43. Expectations vs. Reality EXPECTATIONS REALITY STRESS The larger the gap the higher your stress level.
  • 44. General Mind Set To successfully and effectively communicate, have honest ____________, and an _____________, __________ _________ Be a L.E.O. (________ _____ _____) Great Leaders are Great Communicators Great Communicators are Great Listeners concern empathetic caring attitude Leave Ego Out
  • 45. Active Listening vs. Listening ________ __________ = understanding or comprehending the intended message. Speaker feels respected. ___________ = hearing not necessarily understanding or communicating the intended message. Active Listening Listening
  • 46. Active Listening Gives them what they need and calms them down because it makes them feel ___________ It also empties their angry cup Active listening is ______ ______ You learn a lot By listening you __________ them to listen respected Hard Work motivate
  • 47. People speak 100-175 words per minute We listen at about 300400 words per minute Here is how your message is received: What: ____% verbal (words you use) How:_____% is your voice (tone, intonation) Seen:_____% is body language 7 38 55
  • 48. Active Listening Three responsibilities for the listener: ___________ __________ ___________ (non-verbal) (verbal) (feedback) (confirming) Attending Following Reflecting
  • 49. Listening with Purpose (Mental Discipline) Listen to more than words how does the person feel Listen with your eyes What are they saying and how is it said Law of Reciprocity Physical Discipline Deep Listening
  • 50. Speaking: Projecting Professionalism What we say vs. How we say it Audience will only get ___% from ______ 38% by your _____ ___ ______ 55% is what they pick up _________ Only ___% is delivered by words you use. _____% by how you say what you say. 7 verbal tone of voice visually 7 93
  • 51. 3/6/2023 51 Factors That Develop a Negative Public Response Condescending Dishonest/ deceptive Manipulative Threatening/ confrontational Inattentive Insincerity Lack of follow-through Lack of preparation Assumptions, bias, prejudice
  • 52. How to Deal with Insults, Challenges & Verbal Hostility Remain professional in how you project yourself Remain professional while taking verbal flak Maintain your self control (Do not allow anyone to push your buttons)
  • 53. Be a _____________ not a thermometer _______ _____ ______ ______ thermostat Never play their game
  • 54. Six Steps to Manage Verbal Hostility 1. Use _________ _____ ______ 2. Ignore, deflect insults 3. Use a process comment 4. Use active listening 5. Make an agreement comment 6. State what you need. Positive self talk
  • 55. Upset, Difficult, Dangerous ______ ____________: projects an example of what you want to accomplish. Presenting yourself in a calm, professional, peaceful image does not add to the tension Seek cooperation Role Modeling
  • 56. 7 Steps in Gaining Cooperation 1. Use __________ ______-_______ 2. Project _________________ 3. ____ - for what you want 4. __________ 5. ___________ (good vs. bad) 6. Clarify cooperation vs. resistance 7. Time to repeat and reinforce the negotiation points or escalate to force Positive Self Talk Professionalism Ask Explain Negotiate
  • 57. Practical Solutions to Real Problems 1. Provide clear information 2. It is OK to tell the person you are sorry for their pain 3. If experiencing confusing emotions, explain that it is normal 4. Avoid interrupting
  • 58. 5. Help people focus on short-term goals 6. Be willing to accept people for who they are 7. Be tolerant 8. Do not be afraid to say I do not know
  • 59. Emotionally/Mentally Disturbed People 1. Size can be deceiving 2. Perceptions may differ considerably 3. Pace the contact 4. Patience can be priceless 5. Maintain tactical vigilance 6. Get as much information as possible prior to contact
  • 60. Police and ASD 1. Autistic Disorder 2. Aspergers Disorder 3. Retts Syndrome 4. Childhood Disintegrative Disorder 5. Pervasive Developmental Disorder
  • 61. 28 Principles to Guide You When Dealing with ASD 1. First be safe 2. Persons with ASD are diverse 3. Manage your back-up 4. Do not interfere with self-stimming 5. Move 6. Allow for acclimation 7. Do not expect eye contact
  • 62. 8. Do not equate inability to speak with deafness or illiteracy 9. Do not read meaning into words alone 10.Use a normal volume of voice 11.Keep your tone of voice soft 12.Use an economy of words 13.Give them extra time to answer (11 sec) 14.Dispel their fear 15.Say good job: to kids and adults 16.Use unthreatening body language
  • 63. 17. Model the behaviors you want to see 18. Personal space is relative 19. Look for a cause 20. Striking out is communication 21.Tell them the rules 22.Quiet hands and feet 23.Biting is a common defensive behavior
  • 64. Gender Issues Men final solution oriented Use fewer words to express themselves Go straight to the bottom line and back fill only if necessary Tend to finish one topic before going to another topic Does not nod head unless agreeing during conversation Women Talk all points of the issue Use more words to make a point Want to discuss the issue or problem to come up with a solution Often change topic in middle of conversation Nods head as a person speaks (not agreement)
  • 65. Generational Possibilities Veteran BB GenX GenY 1925-1945 1946-1964 1965-1979 1980-2000 Outlook Practical Optimistic Skeptical Optimistic Work Ethic Dedicated Driven Balanced Need Guidance View of Authority Respectful Love/Hate Un- impressed Un- impressed Leadership by Hierarchy Consensus Competence Flexibility Relation- ships Personal sacrifice Personal gratification Reluctant to commit Personal gratification Perspective Civic Team Self Self
  • 66. 5-Star Treatment You must give before you get respect ___-_____ _____________ cost you nothing but it pays big dividends. 5 Star Treatment
  • 67. How to Maintain Self Control Energy, effort and self-discipline Strengthen your self-confidence and self- discipline
  • 68. Turn Weakness into Strength Plato had a speech impediment so he put pebbles in his mouth and practiced trying to speak clearly. Wilma Rudolph was in leg braces at age 11 due to polio. At 16, she won a silver medal for sprinting at the Olympics. At age 20, she won 4 gold medals at the Olympics.
  • 69. Spud Webb N.C. Hornets NBA slam dunk champ. He is 59 Demsey, NFL football place kicker only has 遜 a foot
  • 70. All four of these people: Took __________ _________________ for their short comings Had or ___________ a __________ _________ in themselves Developed a high frustration tolerance (_____-____________) Developed and maintained tremendous self-control. Personal Responsibility developed positive attitude Self Discipline
  • 71. Officer Communication Interview Skills Information Questions How, Who, What, Where, When, Why Precision Questions What exactly? When exactly? Who exactly? How Much? Powerful Questions What is stopping you? What are you afraid might happen if you.? Reflective Questions So you are saying that..
  • 72. Probing Questions Clarifying Are you saying that ? Understanding Could you explain further? Offering Ideas/Insights Have you thought of.? Digging Deeper What else happened? Unpeeling Layers And then what happened?
  • 73. Use Open-Ended Questions Make no suggestions Invite witnesses or victims to talk in their own words Act as a memory prompt Get people talking Encourage full answers Help to get accurate information
  • 74. Examples What can I do to help? (open-ended) Can I help you? (closed- ended) Can you explain to me how you feel?(open) Are you upset? (closed)
  • 75. Avoid Closed-End Questions Courts may consider them as leading Do not suggest an idea to the witness or victim Do not lead the witness or victim to repeat what YOU said Avoid one word answer questions. Example: Does the suspect have a beard?
  • 76. How To Get Information Let the witness or victim talk 80% of the time Use their words when you ask subsequent questions Do not interrupt a statement Ask victim to confirm points
  • 77. Examples of Powerful Questions What can I do for you? What do you think the problem is? What is your role in this situation? What is preventing you from.? Tell me more about that? Explain to me how you are feeling?
  • 78. Emergency/Death Message _____ ____ ______ _____ Be sure of your victims ID and status Choose location Keep objectivity Keep information release minimal Discreet radio traffic Bring support Be prepared for different reactions Leave contact information Be kind, considerate and professional Follow Your Agency Policy
  • 79. Media Know your agency policy What can happen if released improperly If you have to give out information Keep it to a minimum Never say No Comment Refer them to person who can assist or give a time when information can be released
  • 80. The media are paid to get the story, do not let it be _____ who gave them the information that compromises an investigation, embarrasses the department or who is charged with a policy or law violation. you
  • 81. How to Meet and Greet Professionally 1. Set the tone 2. I.D. yourself and your organization 3. State the reason for the contact 4. Their reason for behavior 5. Make request 6. Inform them of your actions 7. Professional close
  • 82. P = ____________ belief in yourself R = _______________ for who you are O= _______ to the reality of life F = _____ for life: mentally, emotionally, E = ___________: concern for others S = _______________: build high tolerance S = __________________ I = ______________: maintain expertise O= __________: Good time management N = ________: high moral character A = ___________: take control L = _______: yourself, others, your work Positive Responsible Open Fit Empathy Self Discipline Self Confidence Intelligence On Time Noble Assertive Love

Editor's Notes

  • #5: PO#6 Objective - Identify the elements of effective interpersonal communication. True / False Body language is the first message you put out when people see you?
  • #7: PO#4 Objective - Define Communication. True / False Behavior is part of communication
  • #8: Objective - Understand your Communication style. True / False Understanding individual personality types will enable one to better deal with individuals in a positive way.
  • #9: PO#5 Objective -Identify Barriers to effective communication.
  • #12: PO#8 Objective - Identify negative examples of non-verbal communication. Identify the non-verbal communication signs Crossed arms Looking at your watch Tapping your foot All of the above
  • #13: Professionalism:
  • #19: Chin down confrontational Looking over or down the bridge of the nose - condescending
  • #25: PO#15 Objective -Identify examples of difficult people. List three examples of people you may have difficulty with ______,_______,________. Examples: victims of crimes, Suspects of crimes, domestic incidents, death notifications, ect
  • #26: PO#12 Objective - Identify difficult coworkers. How poor communication contributes to a negative workplace. List ways to deal with difficult co-workers: Be prepared for conflict Do not fuel the fire Lend a helping hand Get a third party involved Move on
  • #27: Tired of bullying in the office? We all have at least one: the coworker, client, or boss you just can't stand. They make life difficult, and they may even make you question your sense of self-worth. Unfortunately, the chances of them going away are next to nil. If the person is just generally annoying and doesn't have a direct bearing on your work, you may be able to ignore them. But if they bully you and you have to work with them on a daily basis, it's time to take action. 1. Know how to spot the problem people in your organization. They show a variety of symptoms: Some are serial chatters and won't let you get a word in edgewise. Others dodge blame. Some fail to turn in work on time, no matter how much leeway you give them, forcing you to pick up the slack. Some may gossip about others behind their backs. And then there's the toxic coworker who just never has anything nice to say about your work. Toxic coworkers can take many forms, and your first line of defense is to identify them. 2. Whether you like it or not, your manager is in charge. If your boss is easygoing and a joy to work for, that shouldn't be a problem. Unfortunately, there are far too many people out there who are not easy to work for and are demanding, arrogant, moody, or just plain mean. Sometimes confronting a difficult boss can put your position in jeopardy. But if confrontation is necessary, try not to make the bad boss feel defensive. 3. Your first reaction may be shock at the way you're being treated. At work, you expect others to act professionally -- not an unreasonable request -- and it can be difficult to discover coworkers or clients who behave in a childish or hostile way. Take time to let the shock wear off, then try to evaluate what's going on. 4. If you're dealing with a problem person at work -- especially one who bullies or undermines you personally -- you probably need to take action. If you don't, there's a good chance the situation will deteriorate even more, not to mention that the stress of dealing with a bully could take its toll on you and your work. You need to let the offending coworker know you're aware of their behavior and are willing to take it to someone higher in the chain of command if needed. 5. Whatever you decide to do, don't let it wait. The longer you deal with the toxic situation, the angrier you'll become. When you finally do take action, you might behave in a way youll regret later. It's better to handle the problem before it really sours, while you're still emotionally in control.
  • #28: PO#16 Objective - Identify Strategies for dealing with difficult people. Unmanaged conflict _________: Quickly resolves disagreements and increases productivity Encourages open communication and cooperative problem solving Wastes time, money and human resources Strengthens relationships and builds teamwork
  • #34: PO#9 Objective - Identify techniques to de-escalate a verbal confrontation while remaining professional. True / False Professionalism is not necessary when trying to de-escalate a situation
  • #38: PO#1 Objective - Identify the importance of self-evaluation Tactical thinking when dealing with difficult people. True / False Self Evaluation helps you control your though process and thus helps control the situation you are involved in
  • #46: PO#10 Objective - Define Active listening True / False Active listening just does not involve just listening to the words being said, but how they are said
  • #52: PO#7 Objective - Identify factors that develop a negative public response. What is not a Negative public response factors: Condescending Inattentive Understanding Manipulative
  • #53: PO#3 Objective - Identify effective ways to comfort an emotionally upset individual. True / False Remaining professional allows you to deal with threats and hostility
  • #61: ASD - Autism Spectrum Disorder
  • #65: PO#13 Objective - Identify how gender issues contribute to perceptions of the others behavior True / False Men are better are solving problems than women
  • #66: PO#14 Objective - Identify techniques to handle generational issues. True / False Gen X and Gen Y have an unimpressed view of authority
  • #67: PO#2 Objective - Identify how personal motivation affects human behavior.
  • #72: PO#11 Objective - Officer communication skills. Questioning and listening techniques Who, What When Where, Why and How are _________ questions? Information Precision Powerful Reflective