This document outlines performance objectives for interpersonal communication training. It covers topics such as identifying effective communication styles, understanding barriers to communication, dealing with difficult people, active listening techniques, and remaining professional under pressure. The primary goals are to understand interpersonal communication, develop strategies for handling challenging situations, and maintain composure.
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1. Performance Objectives
Identify the elements of effective
interpersonal communication.
Define Communication.
Understand your Communication style.
Identify Barriers to effective
communication.
Identify negative examples of non-verbal
communication.
2. Identify Strategies for dealing with difficult
people.
Identify examples of difficult people.
Identify difficult coworkers. How poor
communication contributes to a negative
workplace.
Identify techniques to de-escalate a verbal
confrontation while remaining
professional.
Identify the importance of self-evaluation
Tactical thinking when dealing with
difficult people.
Define Active listening.
3. Identify factors that develop a negative
public response.
Identify effective ways to comfort an
emotionally upset individual.
Identify how gender issues contribute to
perceptions of the others behavior.
Identify techniques to handle generational
issues.
Identify how personal motivation affects
human behavior.
Officer communication skills. Questioning
and listening techniques
5. Robert Bolton
Eighty percent of people who fail at
work do so for one reason.
They do not relate (communicate)
well with others.
6. Communication Defined
The exchange of: ___________ ,
____________, or _______________;
By _________, ________, ________, or by
___________
Interpersonal Rapport
thoughts
messages information
speech signals writing
behavior
7. What is your Communication Style?
Communication Style Self-Assessment
It is important to be aware of your
communication style and also the
communication style of those that you
are speaking to.
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8. Roadblocks What Gets in the Way
Roadblocks can become strengths if we
increase our awareness of our own tendencies,
and acknowledge their impact on all our
interactions
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The primary responsibility of
effective interpersonal
communication lies with:
_______________________
The Communicator/ Sender
10. Group Resume
To lead a group of people from many
different countries and cultures
from around the world, into
unchartered territory in the
wilderness to see if it is habitable for
humans.
20. Body Language & Officer Safety
Head angle indicates fight or flight
Dropped or raise chin fight
Confirming gesture of fight fixed stare
Watch area around neck (muscle tightening)
possible attack
Happy Feet
Short, choppy gestures/verbal threat is real
21. Palms out, can indicate emotion
Watch out for deadly hands
Multiple gestures and deadly gaze
Knuckle-popping, flexing means trouble
Red face
Raised eyebrows
Setting of hands
Hands on hips
22. Fixed dilated stare
Watch the one not talking
Flared nostrils, setting of jaw
Mouth tense, lips down at corners
Eyes wider during periods of intense
emotions
24. Difficult People
Who are they?
The most difficult person you have to
contend with is ______________
Why are people difficult?
_________________________________
yourself
angry, upset, having a bad day
26. 5 Ways to Deal with Difficult
Co-Workers
1. Be prepared for conflict
2. Do not fuel the fire
3. Lend a helping hand
4. Get a third party involved
5. Move on
27. Managed Conflict
Strengthens relationships
and builds teamwork
Encourages open
communication and
cooperative problem solving
Quickly resolves
disagreements and increases
productivity
Deals with real issues &
concentrates on win-win
resolution
Unmanaged Conflict
Damages relationships and
discourages cooperation
Results in defensiveness
and hidden agendas
Wastes time, money and
human resources
Focuses on blaming and
fault finding
28. Managed Conflict
Makes allies and defuses
anger
Airs all sides of an issue
in positive supportive
environment
Is orderly, calm and
focused
Unmanaged Conflict
Creates enemies and
hard feelings
Is frustrating, stress-
producing and
energy-draining
Is often loud, hostile and
out of control
29. Peace is not found avoiding conflict
Peace is attained by learning to live with
and successfully manage conflict
30. Advantages of Conflict
Conflict presents many positive aspects.
It can be an opportunity for __________
_________
personal
growth
31. In a Conflict Situation
Before you attempt to control others,
you must first maintain control of
yourself (mentally, emotionally, and
physically)
Losing control of self can result in:
Over-reaction, loss of situational awareness,
escalation of violence, lawsuits and
personnel complaints.
You must remain:
Professional Under Pressure
32. Elements of Public Safety
Professionalism
Peace Officers enjoy ________________
_________
________ is never out for a
________________
Required to adhere to a set of policies
and procedures, a _______ ___ ________
True professionals honor this
responsibility and do not misuse their
______________
celebrity
status
School
professional
Code of Ethics
authority
33. Remaining Professional Under
Pressure
1. Personalize your service
2. Be a L.E.O. (__________________)
3. Treat people with dignity and respect
4. See the other persons point-of-view
Leave Ego Out
34. 5. Use active listening
6. Stretch your flash point
7. Give people a way out that looks good
to them
8. Agree, then turn it around
9. Focus on your professional objective;
sidestep insults
10. Role model what you want
35. 11. Give before you get
12. Use positive self talk
13. Life is a marathon, not a 100-yard
dash
14. Project professionalism. Use
professional voice and body language
to strengthen credibility
15. Be reasonable and rational
36. What Are Your Tools?
You can gain or lose control by your:
_________________
_______ _____________
Confrontation vs. cooperation decide
what you want.
Remember, _____ of law enforcement is
done by verbalization.
verbalization
body language
98%
37. Tactical Thinking
Gaining and maintaining control of
situations means control of people.
Controlling yourself comes first
Controlling your thought process, how
you talk to yourself, is the key to
______________
Self Control
38. Problems that Inhibit
Professionalism
Negative mind set = a bad attitude
Negative self-talk
Lacking a positive belief of self
Failure to take responsibility
Lack of self-discipline
Performing less than our best
39. No goals
Failure to be open to learn
Only seeing our own view
Being dishonest
Avoiding Conflict
Lacking self-confidence
Lacking self-respect
Treating others disrespectfully
40. If under duress, you cannot
perform well
Performance
100%
0% 100%
Tension / Stress
Professional
Zone
42. How to Stop the Cycle
_____ _____
Challenge long-standing limiting beliefs
Improve from your past
Practice, study, learn
Positive self-talk can break the cycle of
unproductive behavior
Self Talk
44. General Mind Set
To successfully and effectively
communicate, have honest ____________,
and an _____________, __________
_________
Be a L.E.O. (________ _____ _____)
Great Leaders are Great Communicators
Great Communicators are Great Listeners
concern
empathetic caring
attitude
Leave Ego Out
45. Active Listening vs. Listening
________ __________ = understanding
or comprehending the intended message.
Speaker feels respected.
___________ = hearing not necessarily
understanding or communicating the
intended message.
Active Listening
Listening
46. Active Listening
Gives them what they need and calms
them down because it makes them
feel ___________
It also empties their angry cup
Active listening is ______ ______
You learn a lot
By listening you __________ them to
listen
respected
Hard Work
motivate
47. People speak 100-175 words per minute
We listen at about 300400 words per
minute
Here is how your message is received:
What: ____% verbal (words you use)
How:_____% is your voice (tone, intonation)
Seen:_____% is body language
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48. Active Listening
Three responsibilities for the listener:
___________ __________ ___________
(non-verbal) (verbal) (feedback)
(confirming)
Attending Following Reflecting
49. Listening with Purpose
(Mental Discipline)
Listen to more than words how does
the person feel
Listen with your eyes
What are they saying and how is it said
Law of Reciprocity
Physical Discipline
Deep Listening
50. Speaking:
Projecting Professionalism
What we say vs. How we say it
Audience will only get ___% from ______
38% by your _____ ___ ______
55% is what they pick up _________
Only ___% is delivered by words you use.
_____% by how you say what you say.
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tone of voice
visually
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51. 3/6/2023 51
Factors That Develop a Negative
Public Response
Condescending
Dishonest/ deceptive
Manipulative
Threatening/ confrontational
Inattentive
Insincerity
Lack of follow-through
Lack of preparation
Assumptions, bias, prejudice
52. How to Deal with Insults,
Challenges & Verbal Hostility
Remain professional in how you project
yourself
Remain professional while taking verbal
flak
Maintain your self control (Do not allow
anyone to push your buttons)
53. Be a _____________ not a thermometer
_______ _____ ______ ______
thermostat
Never play their game
54. Six Steps to Manage Verbal
Hostility
1. Use _________ _____ ______
2. Ignore, deflect insults
3. Use a process comment
4. Use active listening
5. Make an agreement comment
6. State what you need.
Positive self talk
55. Upset, Difficult, Dangerous
______ ____________: projects an
example of what you want to accomplish.
Presenting yourself in a calm, professional,
peaceful image does not add to the tension
Seek cooperation
Role Modeling
56. 7 Steps in Gaining Cooperation
1. Use __________ ______-_______
2. Project _________________
3. ____ - for what you want
4. __________
5. ___________ (good vs. bad)
6. Clarify cooperation vs. resistance
7. Time to repeat and reinforce the
negotiation points or escalate to force
Positive Self Talk
Professionalism
Ask
Explain
Negotiate
57. Practical Solutions to Real
Problems
1. Provide clear information
2. It is OK to tell the person you are sorry
for their pain
3. If experiencing confusing emotions,
explain that it is normal
4. Avoid interrupting
58. 5. Help people focus on short-term goals
6. Be willing to accept people for who they
are
7. Be tolerant
8. Do not be afraid to say I do not know
59. Emotionally/Mentally
Disturbed People
1. Size can be deceiving
2. Perceptions may differ considerably
3. Pace the contact
4. Patience can be priceless
5. Maintain tactical vigilance
6. Get as much information as possible
prior to contact
61. 28 Principles to Guide You
When Dealing with ASD
1. First be safe
2. Persons with ASD are diverse
3. Manage your back-up
4. Do not interfere with self-stimming
5. Move
6. Allow for acclimation
7. Do not expect eye contact
62. 8. Do not equate inability to speak with
deafness or illiteracy
9. Do not read meaning into words alone
10.Use a normal volume of voice
11.Keep your tone of voice soft
12.Use an economy of words
13.Give them extra time to answer (11 sec)
14.Dispel their fear
15.Say good job: to kids and adults
16.Use unthreatening body language
63. 17. Model the behaviors you want to see
18. Personal space is relative
19. Look for a cause
20. Striking out is communication
21.Tell them the rules
22.Quiet hands and feet
23.Biting is a common defensive behavior
64. Gender Issues
Men final solution oriented
Use fewer words to express themselves
Go straight to the bottom line and back fill only if
necessary
Tend to finish one topic before going to another topic
Does not nod head unless agreeing during conversation
Women Talk all points of the issue
Use more words to make a point
Want to discuss the issue or problem to come up with
a solution
Often change topic in middle of conversation
Nods head as a person speaks (not agreement)
65. Generational Possibilities
Veteran BB GenX GenY
1925-1945 1946-1964 1965-1979 1980-2000
Outlook Practical Optimistic Skeptical Optimistic
Work Ethic Dedicated Driven Balanced Need
Guidance
View of
Authority
Respectful Love/Hate Un-
impressed
Un-
impressed
Leadership
by
Hierarchy Consensus Competence Flexibility
Relation-
ships
Personal
sacrifice
Personal
gratification
Reluctant to
commit
Personal
gratification
Perspective Civic Team Self Self
66. 5-Star Treatment
You must give before you get respect
___-_____ _____________ cost you
nothing but it pays big dividends.
5 Star Treatment
67. How to Maintain Self Control
Energy, effort and self-discipline
Strengthen your self-confidence and self-
discipline
68. Turn Weakness into Strength
Plato had a speech impediment so he put
pebbles in his mouth and practiced trying
to speak clearly.
Wilma Rudolph was in leg braces at age
11 due to polio. At 16, she won a silver
medal for sprinting at the Olympics. At
age 20, she won 4 gold medals at the
Olympics.
69. Spud Webb N.C. Hornets NBA slam
dunk champ. He is 59
Demsey, NFL football place kicker only
has 遜 a foot
70. All four of these people:
Took __________ _________________
for their short comings
Had or ___________ a __________
_________ in themselves
Developed a high frustration tolerance
(_____-____________)
Developed and maintained tremendous
self-control.
Personal Responsibility
developed positive
attitude
Self Discipline
71. Officer Communication
Interview Skills
Information Questions
How, Who, What, Where, When, Why
Precision Questions
What exactly? When exactly? Who exactly?
How Much?
Powerful Questions
What is stopping you? What are you afraid
might happen if you.?
Reflective Questions
So you are saying that..
72. Probing Questions
Clarifying Are you saying that ?
Understanding Could you explain
further?
Offering Ideas/Insights Have you
thought of.?
Digging Deeper What else happened?
Unpeeling Layers And then what
happened?
73. Use Open-Ended Questions
Make no suggestions
Invite witnesses or victims to talk in
their own words
Act as a memory prompt
Get people talking
Encourage full answers
Help to get accurate information
74. Examples
What can I do to help? (open-ended)
Can I help you? (closed- ended)
Can you explain to me how you feel?(open)
Are you upset? (closed)
75. Avoid Closed-End Questions
Courts may consider them as leading
Do not suggest an idea to the witness or
victim
Do not lead the witness or victim to
repeat what YOU said
Avoid one word answer questions.
Example: Does the suspect have a beard?
76. How To Get Information
Let the witness or victim talk 80% of the
time
Use their words when you ask subsequent
questions
Do not interrupt a statement
Ask victim to confirm points
77. Examples of Powerful
Questions
What can I do for you?
What do you think the problem is?
What is your role in this situation?
What is preventing you from.?
Tell me more about that?
Explain to me how you are feeling?
78. Emergency/Death Message
_____ ____ ______ _____
Be sure of your victims ID and status
Choose location
Keep objectivity
Keep information release minimal
Discreet radio traffic
Bring support
Be prepared for different reactions
Leave contact information
Be kind, considerate and professional
Follow Your Agency Policy
79. Media
Know your agency policy
What can happen if released improperly
If you have to give out information
Keep it to a minimum
Never say No Comment
Refer them to person who can assist or give
a time when information can be released
80. The media are paid to get the story, do
not let it be _____ who gave them the
information that compromises an
investigation, embarrasses the
department or who is charged with a
policy or law violation.
you
81. How to Meet and Greet
Professionally
1. Set the tone
2. I.D. yourself and your organization
3. State the reason for the contact
4. Their reason for behavior
5. Make request
6. Inform them of your actions
7. Professional close
82. P = ____________ belief in yourself
R = _______________ for who you are
O= _______ to the reality of life
F = _____ for life: mentally, emotionally,
E = ___________: concern for others
S = _______________: build high tolerance
S = __________________
I = ______________: maintain expertise
O= __________: Good time management
N = ________: high moral character
A = ___________: take control
L = _______: yourself, others, your work
Positive
Responsible
Open
Fit
Empathy
Self Discipline
Self Confidence
Intelligence
On Time
Noble
Assertive
Love
#5: PO#6 Objective - Identify the elements of effective interpersonal communication.
True / False Body language is the first message you put out when people see you?
#7: PO#4 Objective - Define Communication.
True / False Behavior is part of communication
#8: Objective - Understand your Communication style.
True / False Understanding individual personality types will enable one to
better deal with individuals in a positive way.
#9: PO#5 Objective -Identify Barriers to effective communication.
#12: PO#8 Objective - Identify negative examples of non-verbal communication.
Identify the non-verbal communication signs
Crossed arms
Looking at your watch
Tapping your foot
All of the above
#19: Chin down confrontational
Looking over or down the bridge of the nose - condescending
#25: PO#15 Objective -Identify examples of difficult people.
List three examples of people you may have difficulty with ______,_______,________.
Examples: victims of crimes, Suspects of crimes, domestic incidents, death notifications, ect
#26: PO#12
Objective - Identify difficult coworkers. How poor communication contributes to a negative workplace.
List ways to deal with difficult co-workers:
Be prepared for conflict
Do not fuel the fire
Lend a helping hand
Get a third party involved
Move on
#27:
Tired of bullying in the office?
We all have at least one: the coworker, client, or boss you just can't stand. They make life difficult, and they may even make you question your sense of self-worth.
Unfortunately, the chances of them going away are next to nil. If the person is just generally annoying and doesn't have a direct bearing on your work, you may be able to ignore them. But if they bully you and you have to work with them on a daily basis, it's time to take action.
1. Know how to spot the problem people in your organization. They show a variety of symptoms: Some are serial chatters and won't let you get a word in edgewise. Others dodge blame. Some fail to turn in work on time, no matter how much leeway you give them, forcing you to pick up the slack. Some may gossip about others behind their backs. And then there's the toxic coworker who just never has anything nice to say about your work. Toxic coworkers can take many forms, and your first line of defense is to identify them.
2. Whether you like it or not, your manager is in charge. If your boss is easygoing and a joy to work for, that shouldn't be a problem. Unfortunately, there are far too many people out there who are not easy to work for and are demanding, arrogant, moody, or just plain mean. Sometimes confronting a difficult boss can put your position in jeopardy. But if confrontation is necessary, try not to make the bad boss feel defensive.
3. Your first reaction may be shock at the way you're being treated. At work, you expect others to act professionally -- not an unreasonable request -- and it can be difficult to discover coworkers or clients who behave in a childish or hostile way. Take time to let the shock wear off, then try to evaluate what's going on.
4. If you're dealing with a problem person at work -- especially one who bullies or undermines you personally -- you probably need to take action. If you don't, there's a good chance the situation will deteriorate even more, not to mention that the stress of dealing with a bully could take its toll on you and your work. You need to let the offending coworker know you're aware of their behavior and are willing to take it to someone higher in the chain of command if needed.
5. Whatever you decide to do, don't let it wait. The longer you deal with the toxic situation, the angrier you'll become. When you finally do take action, you might behave in a way youll regret later. It's better to handle the problem before it really sours, while you're still emotionally in control.
#28: PO#16 Objective - Identify Strategies for dealing with difficult people.
Unmanaged conflict _________:
Quickly resolves disagreements and increases productivity
Encourages open communication and cooperative problem solving
Wastes time, money and human resources
Strengthens relationships and builds teamwork
#34: PO#9 Objective - Identify techniques to de-escalate a verbal confrontation while remaining professional.
True / False Professionalism is not necessary when trying to de-escalate a situation
#38: PO#1 Objective - Identify the importance of self-evaluation Tactical thinking when dealing with difficult people.
True / False Self Evaluation helps you control your though process and thus helps control the situation you are involved in
#46: PO#10 Objective - Define Active listening
True / False Active listening just does not involve just listening to the words being said, but how they are said
#52: PO#7 Objective - Identify factors that develop a negative public response.
What is not a Negative public response factors:
Condescending
Inattentive
Understanding
Manipulative
#53: PO#3 Objective - Identify effective ways to comfort an emotionally upset individual.
True / False Remaining professional allows you to deal with threats and hostility
#65: PO#13 Objective - Identify how gender issues contribute to perceptions of the others behavior
True / False Men are better are solving problems than women
#66: PO#14 Objective - Identify techniques to handle generational issues.
True / False Gen X and Gen Y have an unimpressed view of authority
#67: PO#2 Objective - Identify how personal motivation affects human behavior.
#72: PO#11 Objective - Officer communication skills. Questioning and listening techniques
Who, What When Where, Why and How are _________ questions?
Information
Precision
Powerful
Reflective