The document discusses understanding one's strengths and talents. It notes that talents fall into mental, physical, and social categories and are natural gifts. It advises focusing on strengths rather than weaknesses when giving feedback or evaluating others. It recommends asking about strengths and successes first when discussing performance, like asking about a good grade before a poor one, and finding ways to build on strengths. The purpose is to foster high self-esteem and help others reach their potential by concentrating on talents rather than failures or shortcomings.
5. Your Talents are Your Natural Gifts
Strength is the quality or state of being strong, in particular
Mental Talents
Talents that involve thinking and creativity.
Physical Talents
Talents that involve using your body.
Social Talents
Talents that involve getting along with
other people.
7. Little Johnny comes home one day, looks down at his feet, and gives you his
report card. You smile at him as you open it up and look inside. Then your smile
disappears when you see the F in math. You also see an A (English) and two Bs
(history and science). You look down at little Johnny and ask, What happened
in math, Johnny? Why did you get this F?
8. But thats a mistake. The wrong focus. If you dwell on
Johnnys failure, on his weakness, youll be setting him
up for a life of struggle and low self-esteem while
reducing his chances of reaching his full potential.
9. 20 Years Later
Youve worked hard this year John. Your client orientation is superb.
Youve met your sales goals and youre a solid team player. But you
have an area that needs development, specifically, your detail
orientation. The spreadsheets we get from you are a mess. Lets talk
about how you can get better in that.
11. Next time little Johnny hands you his report card with an F in math and an A in English,
keep smiling and resist the temptation to ask about the F. Instead, ask about the A first.
What happened in English? you should say to Johnny, Why did you get this A? Then
let him tell you about how and why he succeeds. What is it about the work that excites
him? What about the teacher? How did he study?
And then, if you want to teach him to harness his particular path to success, make
sure to get him an English tutor too.
15. Who you are?
What do you do? (what is one thing that you feel you are
supremely qualified to teach other people?)
Who you do it for?
What do those people want or need?
How do they change or transform as a result
of what you give them?