Maturity in relationships
- 3. Accept Dont let your expectations of life come in the way of your life
- 4. Accept Rowing with oar in boat in ocean vs Rowing in ocean
- 5. Accept Accepting is not agreeing, condoning, capitulating it is just calling off our war with reality
- 6. Accept What frustrates us most is not the reality but the distance between our expectation and the reality
- 7. Accept Dhritarashtra never accepted that he couldnt be the king was lifelong fighting a battle he had already lost
- 8. Ascertain Value-judgments about others cloud our inner vision Eg. Hands in front of our eyes
- 9. Ascertain To know peoples background means to know whats on their back and whats under their ground
- 10. Ascertain Judging without understanding Vali-Sugriva Best friends becomes worst enemies
- 11. Whats under their ground What has shaped their conceptions about themselves, others and the world
- 12. Ascertain Everyone needs to be understood as much as they need oxygen Hearing without evaluating gives them psychological oxygen
- 13. Appreciate Begin with the 1% commonality, not the 99% difference Eg. Gita 18.20 vs 18.21
- 14. Appreciate Focus on common values, not on differing methods Eg. Gita 05.02
- 15. Appreciate Others are dancing to a different tune, not out of tune
- 17. Appreciate I wish I could walk as fast as you Look for blessings, not for problems
- 18. Appreciate I can live for two months on a good compliment We never know the worth of water til the well runs dry.
- 19. Act Maturity means that no one is obliged to fulfill our needs
- 20. Act Dont depress yourself or others depress your expectations of yourself and others
- 21. Act The heaviest thing to hold is a grudge experience the freedom of letting go
- 22. Act In the war of egos, the winner is the bigger loser Let go
- 23. Act Speak to give peace of mind, not a piece of your mind eg. Gita 17.15
- 25. Act Krishna is our ultimate shelter Let he be our anchor amidst emotional and relational storms
- 26. Act See every relationship as an impetus for connecting with Krishna some positive, some negative
- 27. Act Dont see through others; See others through