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- 1. Easy Tips To Have Happy Relationships Have you ever dreamed of having magic to make your love last longer? If there is magic, love will be all around, no more sorrow. Or maybe its just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships. Dates: Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre. Space: Give each other some space. Either you trust or you dont. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space. Forget: No need to always remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively forget sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it! Fun: Couples tend to have fun on dates, then get married and be too serious. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off http://Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of cards or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games. Disagree: Agree that its okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You dont have to agree on everything. And you wont. And thats okay. Refresh: Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!) Memories: Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. Next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on them, playing cards, toss pillowsover time it becomes a theme. Start now with these simple ideas to keep your relationship with your special person longer. Most important of all, couples can happily stay together as they understand and complete each other https://www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/devender1967/
- 2. The Powerful Secret To A Loving Relationship There are many factors that go into creating a loving relationship. Certainly it helps if two people have some things in common regarding how they like to spend their time. It also helps if they have common values around religion or spirituality, around politics, the environment, abortion, and personal growth. It helps if they both eat junk food or both eat organic food. It makes things easier if both are neat or both are messy, if both are on time people or both are late people. Physical attraction is also quite important. Its great if they have common values around money and spending. Yet a couple can have all of these and still not have a loving relationship if one element is missing. Without this essential ingredient, all the other wonderful attributes will not be enough to make the relationship work. This essential ingredient is about intention. At any given moment, each of us is devoted to only one of two different intentions: to control or to learn. When our intention is to control, our deepest motivation is to have control over getting love, avoiding pain, and feeling safe. When our intention is to learn, our deepest motivation is to learn about being loving to ourselves and others. The motivation to get love rather than be loving can create havoc within a relationship. Lets look at a typical relationship issue and see what happens regarding the two different intentions. Jason and Samantha are feeling emotionally distant from each other, and they havent made love in a month. The problem started when Samantha stated that she wanted to take an expensive vacation and Jason objected. Samantha got angry, Jason gave in, and they have been distant ever since. Samanthas intention was to have control over getting what she wanted. She equates an expensive vacation with love if Jason does this for her, then he proves his love for her. She used her anger as a way to have control over getting what she wants. She wants control over feeling special to Jason. Jasons intention is to avoid pain. He gave himself up to have control over Samantha not being angry with him. He hopes that by giving Samantha what she wants, she will see him as a good and loving husband.
- 3. https://www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/devender1967/ However, because both Jason and Samantha were trying to control each other rather than be loving to themselves and each other, their interaction created emotional distance. What would this have looked like if their intention had been to learn? If Samanthas intent had been to learn, she would not have become angry. Instead, she would have wanted to understand Jasons objections. If Jasons intention had been to learn, he would not have given himself up. Instead he would have wanted to understand why this particular vacation was so important to Samantha. Both Samantha and Jason would have been caring about themselves and each other, rather than wanting to get love or avoid pain. In their mutual exploration about why they each felt the way they did, they would have learned what they needed to learn about themselves and each other to reach a win-win resolution. Instead of Samantha ostensibly winning and Jason losing, they would have come up with something both of them could live with. With some exploration of his financial fears, Jason might have decided that the vacation Samantha wanted would be fine. With understanding of Jasons financial concerns, Samantha might have decided on a less expensive vacation. In either case, both of them would have felt fine about the outcome. No matter how much Jason and Samantha have in common or are attracted to each other, their love will diminish when their intent is to control rather than learn. Its amazing how quickly love vanishes when one or both partners have the intent to control. Its equally amazing how fast it comes back when both partners have the intent to learn. Have you ever dreamed of having magic to make your love last longer? If there is magic, love will be all around, no more sorrow. Or maybe its just that some people learn secrets of success from their grandparents or other relatives or friends. And since the latter is probably more accurate, here are some tried and true tips from people who have enjoyed long, happy relationships. Dates: Keep dating each other. Even if life seems too busy, meet at the end of the evening for something light and easy, like viewing your favorite sitcom (record it if necessary) together or playing a game of Euchre. Space: Give each other some space. Either you trust or you dont. Get on with life, though. People need time alone and time with their mates and other friends. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space. Forget: No need to always remember the bad things that happened during an argument. Actively forget sometimes. Be the first to apologize and make up. Go for it!
- 4. Fun: Couples tend to have fun on dates, then get married and become too serious. Lighten up. Head to Yahoo Games (off http://Yahoo.com main site) and join in any number of cards or other games. Or head to a local rental shop and rent an Xbox or other game player and some games. Disagree: Agree that its okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. No need to create a new religion or political movement just to appease both of you. You dont have to agree on everything. And you wont. And thats okay. Refresh: Take time to look back, refresh your memories and share what brought you together. Especially when times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them (not literally, of course!) Memories: Make some together. Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. No need to be elaborate. For example, maybe you enjoyed watching a hot air balloon race one spring day. Next year, you might schedule time to watch it again. Make it an annual event. Collect postcards with balloons on them, playing cards, toss pillowsover time it becomes a theme. Start now with these simple ideas to keep your relationship with your special person longer. Most important of all, couples can happily stay together as they understand and complete each other. https://www.digistore24.com/redir/302188/devender1967/