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The Art + Science of the Rethink:
             7 Steps to
     Expand Your Possibilities +
Succeed at Your Pursuit of Happiness

    Tara-Nicholle Nelson, M.A., Esq.
Timeline




The Art + Science of the Rethink
Theres no there there.
                                     Gertrude Stein




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Fast forward to
                  happy.

The Art + Science of the Rethink
 Being rich doesnt make you happy.
     Finding the one doesnt make you happy.
     Being normal like everyone else doesnt
      make you happy:

          54% of US adults are "moderately mentally
                 healthy yet not flourishing


The Art + Science of the Rethink
How can we fast forward to happy?




The Art + Science of the Rethink
How to fast forward to happy:

     Move past perfect.
     Stop fighting what is  respect whats real
      right now.
     Lean into the fear, anxiety and grief of painful
      circumstances.
     Rethink failure as fodder.



The Art + Science of the Rethink
What is happiness?


The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Philosophers

            Aristotle: Happiness = Virtuous Activity

                            eudemonia
              eu = well; daimon = divinity, spirit




The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Philosophers

        Oprah: Happiness = living your best life now

                  The Power of Evolution + Intuition




The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Self-Experimenters

                  Benjamin Franklin: 13 Virtues
                Henry David Thoreau: Walden Pond
                    Liz Gilbert: Eat, Pray, Love




The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Academics

      Sonya Lubomirsky, Ph.D.: Happiness = Formula

                              50% genetic
                              10% life circumstances
                            + 40% intentional activities
                                  Your Happiness


The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Academics

          Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi: Happiness = Flow

      . . .being completely involved in an activity for
      its own sake.. . . Your whole being is involved,
         and youre using your skills to the utmost.




The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Academics

    Martin Seligman, Ph.D.: Happiness = Flow ++++

                            P  positive emotion
                            E  engagement {flow}
                            R  positive relationships
                            M  meaning
                            A  accomplishment

The Art + Science of the Rethink
Tara on Happiness
     Seligman left something out
     Circumstances  cant make us happy, but can
      make us very unhappy
     Happiness = PERMA + The Rethink
          Flexibility around circumstances
          Resilience
          Ability to reinvent, transform on desire or on
           demand
          Mindset management


The Art + Science of the Rethink
The Art + Science
          of the Rethink
              7 Steps
                 Belief . Language . Action
The Art + Science of the Rethink
Why do we need The Rethink?
     Eckhart Tolle  3 Options: Leave, Change
      or Accept situations  anything else is
      suffering.
     We want to, but cant or dont make
      situational or mindset changes we want.
     Rethink is the mise en place that
      optimizes our ability to make these
      changes.

The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step One:

                       Diagnostics
             Identifying whats not working.



The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step Two:

                     Stabilization
                 Managing chaos and energy
                    Certainty anchors
                    Capture + complete
                    Decathexis
The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step Three:

        Getting Unstuck +
             Urgent
                   Momentum building
             Cultivating traits of the unstuck

The Art + Science of the Rethink
Steps Four + Five:

        Belief Remodeling
                       Unlearning
               Creating new belief systems



The Art + Science of the Rethink
If I feel myself to be wronged, a loser or a
       victim, I will tell myself that some assumption
       I have made is the source of my difficulty.
                                        Benjamin Zander




The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step Six:

              Future Framing
                       Generative Language
                          Speech Acts



The Art + Science of the Rethink
Step Seven:

                         Prosperity
                          Practices
         Practice makes perfect permanent.
                    Skill-building
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My house




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Ready to Rethink?
    Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn: @taranicholle

    email: Tara@REThinkRealEstate.com




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  • 1. The Art + Science of the Rethink: 7 Steps to Expand Your Possibilities + Succeed at Your Pursuit of Happiness Tara-Nicholle Nelson, M.A., Esq.
  • 2. Timeline The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 3. Theres no there there. Gertrude Stein The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 4. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 5. Fast forward to happy. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 6. Being rich doesnt make you happy. Finding the one doesnt make you happy. Being normal like everyone else doesnt make you happy: 54% of US adults are "moderately mentally healthy yet not flourishing The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 7. How can we fast forward to happy? The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 8. How to fast forward to happy: Move past perfect. Stop fighting what is respect whats real right now. Lean into the fear, anxiety and grief of painful circumstances. Rethink failure as fodder. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 9. What is happiness? The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 10. The Philosophers Aristotle: Happiness = Virtuous Activity eudemonia eu = well; daimon = divinity, spirit The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 11. The Philosophers Oprah: Happiness = living your best life now The Power of Evolution + Intuition The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 12. The Self-Experimenters Benjamin Franklin: 13 Virtues Henry David Thoreau: Walden Pond Liz Gilbert: Eat, Pray, Love The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 13. The Academics Sonya Lubomirsky, Ph.D.: Happiness = Formula 50% genetic 10% life circumstances + 40% intentional activities Your Happiness The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 14. The Academics Mikhail Csikszentmihalyi: Happiness = Flow . . .being completely involved in an activity for its own sake.. . . Your whole being is involved, and youre using your skills to the utmost. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 15. The Academics Martin Seligman, Ph.D.: Happiness = Flow ++++ P positive emotion E engagement {flow} R positive relationships M meaning A accomplishment The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 16. Tara on Happiness Seligman left something out Circumstances cant make us happy, but can make us very unhappy Happiness = PERMA + The Rethink Flexibility around circumstances Resilience Ability to reinvent, transform on desire or on demand Mindset management The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 17. The Art + Science of the Rethink 7 Steps Belief . Language . Action The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 18. Why do we need The Rethink? Eckhart Tolle 3 Options: Leave, Change or Accept situations anything else is suffering. We want to, but cant or dont make situational or mindset changes we want. Rethink is the mise en place that optimizes our ability to make these changes. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 19. Step One: Diagnostics Identifying whats not working. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 20. Step Two: Stabilization Managing chaos and energy Certainty anchors Capture + complete Decathexis The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 21. Step Three: Getting Unstuck + Urgent Momentum building Cultivating traits of the unstuck The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 22. Steps Four + Five: Belief Remodeling Unlearning Creating new belief systems The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 23. If I feel myself to be wronged, a loser or a victim, I will tell myself that some assumption I have made is the source of my difficulty. Benjamin Zander The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 24. Step Six: Future Framing Generative Language Speech Acts The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 25. Step Seven: Prosperity Practices Practice makes perfect permanent. Skill-building The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 26. My house The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 27. The Art + Science of the Rethink
  • 28. The Art + Science of the Rethink
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  • 32. Ready to Rethink? Facebook/Twitter/LinkedIn: @taranicholle email: Tara@REThinkRealEstate.com The Art + Science of the Rethink