What Is Domestic Violence?
- 1. Domestic ViolenceTim Marcy, MABC, LPC Intern
- 2. What is Domestic Violence?What are some examples of each? http://www.whbw.org/what-is-domestic-violence?/
- 3. IntimidationMaking her afraid by using looks, actions and gesturesSmashing thingsDestroying her propertyAbusing petsDisplaying weapons
- 4. Emotional AbusePutting her downMaking her feel bad about herselfCalling her namesMaking her think shes crazyPlaying mind gamesHumiliating herMaking her feel guilty
- 5. IsolationControlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads and where she goesLimiting her outside involvementUsing jealousy to justify actions
- 6. Minimizing, Denying & BlamingMaking light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriouslySaying the abuse didnt happenShifting responsibility for abusive behaviorSaying she caused itMDB: TOP 3 OBSTICLES TO ACCOUNTABILITY
- 7. Using ChildrenMaking her feel guilty about the childrenUsing the children to relay messagesUsing visitation to harass herThreatening to take the children away
- 8. Economic AbusePreventing her from getting or keeping a jobMaking her ask for moneyGiving her an allowanceTaking her moneyNot letting her know about or have access to family income
- 9. Male PrivilegeTreating her like a servantMaking all the big decisionsActing like the master of the castleBeing the one to define mens and womens roles
- 10. Coercion and ThreatsMaking and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt herThreatening to leave her, to commit suicide or to report her to welfareMaking her drop chargesMaking her do illegal things
- 11. So, What is Domestic Violence?In short, Domestic Violence (DV) is any use of the above-mentioned tactics/abuses in an attempt to gain Power and Control over ones intimate partner, be they a girlfriend or boyfriend, wife, husband or fianc辿.And though physicalviolence is a part of the definition of DV, DVis not limited to physical violence!!!
- 12. WHY DO PEOPLE USE DV?TOP 3 REASONS:CHOICE!!!IT WORKS!LOW CONSEQUENCES
- 13. The Impact of DVHow does DV impact Society?How does DV impact your state?How does DV impact your city?How does DV impact your school?How does DV impact you?What do you think?Any guesses?
- 14. Children and Teens Living in Violent HomesFocusing on Families and YOU: DVs Tragic ImpactRunawaysViolence on Our StreetsFood AddictionsSexual AssaultsDate RapeSexual HarassmentUse of PornographyTeen PregnancyViolence at SchoolTruancyNew Generations of Violent Families
- 15. If you love me, why do you:make fun of me?threaten me?hit me?try to control me?Ask yourself:How well do I know the person I like, the person I would like to date, the person Im dating? Are they a violent person? Will they use violence against me? Are they already using violence against me? Am I allowing myself to see it for what it is, DV? What will happen if we break up? What will he do to me then? Im scared.
- 16. SIGNS THAT YOURE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP:http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
- 17. Your Inner Thoughts and FeelingsDo you:feel afraid of your partner much of the time? avoid certain topics out of fear of angering your partner? feel that you cant do anything right for your partner? believe that you deserve to be hurt or mistreated? wonder if youre the one who is crazy? feel emotionally numb or helpless?油
- 18. Your Partners Belittling BehaviorDoes your partner:humiliate or yell at you? criticize you and put you down?treat you so badly that youre embarrassed for your friends or family to see?ignore or put down your opinions or accomplishments? blame you for his own abusive behavior? see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
- 19. Your Partners Violent Behavior or ThreatsDoes your partner:have a bad and unpredictable temper? hurt you, or threaten to hurt or kill you?油 threaten to take your children away or harm them? threaten to commit suicide if you leave? force you to have sex? destroy your belongings?
- 20. Your Partners Controlling BehaviorDoes your partner:act excessively jealous and possessive? control where you go or what you do? keep you from seeing your friends or family? limit your access to money, the phone, or the car?constantly check up on you?
- 21. National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 | 1-866-331-8453 TTYhttp://www.LoveIsRespect.org/
- 22. Healthy Relationships: A Snapshothttp://pathwayscourses.samhsa.gov/vawc/vawc_4_pg7.htm
- 24. ReferencesHopes Door Battering Intervention and Prevention Program:www.hopesdoorinc.orgDomestic Abuse Intervention Project:http://www.theduluthmodel.org/Women Helping Battered Women:http://www.whbw.org/what-is-domestic-violence?/HELPGUIDE.ORG:http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htmCSAPs Prevention Pathways:http://pathwayscourses.samhsa.gov/vawc/vawc_4_pg7.htmPneuma Life Foundation:http://pneumalifefoundation.org/?page_id=18