Is christopher's father a good father
- 1. Is Christopher?s father a good father? Diane Guo What makes a good father? Not abandon the child, just simply provide them food? Those are the basic things a parent should do, and being a good parent should do way more than that. In the novel ?The curious incident of the dog in the night- time? by Mark Haddon, main character Christopher was a kid with aspergers. He could not communicate with the society as well as other people, which made him very different and hard to took care than others. Christopher?s father is a competent father, especially with a child that has aspergers. All the things he had done, such as being patient to Christopher, showed that he has the quality of being a good father. Christopher was a very unique child, always got in trouble, his father was very patient about that. At the beginning of the novel, Christopher went in to the police station because he hit a policeman. His father wasn?t very mad at him as other kids? father would do; he explained to Christopher clearly that don?t get in to other people?s business and trusted Christopher didn?t do it on purpose. Usually a parent knows that his/her child had gone to the police station, he/she will get really pissed off by the child, then they would yell and blame at the kid. However, Christopher?s father did not yell or blame at Christopher, because he knew that yelling will just make things worse. He had to be more patient than other parents, and talk about the problem with Christopher. Being nice and patient with a good attitude to the child makes him a good father. A good father will never abandon his child, that seems pretty obvious, but in this situation it is not always that easy to achieve. Christopher has a condition of aspergers, it was hard to always feel pleasant while with him. In fact, Christopher?s mother left Christopher because she could not stand him being unreasonable and embarrase her in public. Although his father lied to him that his mother had died from a heard attack, but all he was trying to do was to protect Christopher from being too depressed. After his mother left, Christopher was still as unreasonable as before, pissing off his father quite recently, but his father did not leave him. He taught Christopher how to be good nicely and said he will love him forever. He did whatever he could do to take care of Christopher, tried to educate him better and gave him tons of love, that makes him better than other regular father. To be sure, no matter how noisy, unreasonable Christopher was, his father never gave up on him. Christopher was more dif?cult to take care than other kids, but also much more clever. He was extremely good at physics and
- 2. maths, he was a genius in some ways. Christopher?s father noticed that, and communicated to Christopher?s teacher, to let Christopher take a test and go to A level maths. He doesn?t look Christopher as a ?sick? person, he did not give up on Christopher like most of the parents with kids with aspergers would do. He still thinks that Christopher can be a successful person, he is not that different than normal kids. In this way, while Christopher was growing up, he felt that he was not special, he was the same as the other kids. His father made him felt more con?dent with himself, and the way he supported Christopher got him closer to the image of a being a competent father. Being responsible as a parent is very important, if not than it will be hard to take good care of your child. Christopher?s father cared about Christopher?s school work, everyday he would ask Christopher how was school, and what has he done in school. He even went to Christopher?s school and asked the teacher to arrange a test for Christopher on his A level maths and physics. He once hit Christopher because he was so angry at him, but the next day he apologized to Christopher and took him to the zoo. He showed Christopher he did not hit him on purpose and wanted Christopher to forgive him. He was responsible for his actions, and he explained to Christopher why he did it, so Christopher could understand. If he did not explain, than Christopher might leave “shadow” in his mind, especially he has a condition of aspergers. His father did not want him to leave any “shadow” in his mind, and that makes him a good father. Indeed, Christopher?s father was not a perfect father, or the best father in the world, but he tried his best to be one. He was patient, always looking forward, and responsible, that shows he has the quality and the potential to become a good father.