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The document discusses the pervasive nature of anxiety in a world filled with negative events, highlighting the author's personal experiences and the impact of a global pandemic on mental health. It presents various coping strategies from different authors, emphasizing reframing anxiety as a potential asset, normalizing it, and actively taking steps to manage it. Ultimately, it suggests that channeling anxiety effectively can lead to resilience and positive action during uncertain times.
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focusing on the physical (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch) rather than the psychological
to see what works for you. Or try tracking your negative thoughts to learn when and why
they occur and how to recast them in a more positive light.
Ethan Kross, the psychologist, neuroscientist, and professor who runs the University of
Michigans Emotion & Self Control Lab, offers an equally instructive guide to both
normalizing anxiety and distancing ourselves from it in his new book, Chatter: The Voice
in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. He writes that everyone faces grief,
relationship turbulence, professional setbacks, [or] parenting struggles at one point or
another. But he urges us to avoid co-rumination with othersspinning tales of bad-
things-about-to-happen with like-minded people. Instead, he says, we need to get
perspective from people who arent going through such things, who approach our anxious
moments with intellect and active listening, not emotion, and who help us move toward
behavioral change and solutions rather than spiraling.
Even in the absence of these Spock-like characters, he says, we can create a mental
separation on our own with distanced self-talkthat is, referring to ourselves in the third
person. Here we go, Gretchen. You can do this is a pep talk I use for mundane
situations (such as forcing myself to stop doomscrolling on Twitter and instead open up
the long-form article I need to edit) as well as high-anxiety ones (say, prepping for an
executive committee presentation). Kross notes that finding small moments of awe in
nature can also help. (I agree: One of my best days of 2020albeit a low barwas when
a hawk landed on a tree outside my kitchen window.)
The youre-not-broken-but-need-better-strategies theme also carries through in Anxiety at
Work: 8 Strategies to Help Teams Build Resilience, Handle Uncertainty, and Get Stuff
Done, by the consultants Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton (with Anthony Gostick). From
the get-go the authors acknowledge the huge range of anxieties that many of us routinely
(and rightly) experience: from concern about fitting into our organizations to panic over
the (true) fact that our world is subject to destabilizing, long-lasting threats, which may
arise seemingly out of nowhere and disrupt not only companies but the whole economy.
They insist, however, that we cant succumb to paralysis. Any action is better than none,
so even if youre not 100% certain about a move, make it anyway, celebrate the small
wins, and learn from the losses. Im reminded of Rebecca Solnits 2016 essay on hope in
dark times: Hope locates itself in the premises that we dont know what will happen and
that in the spaciousness of uncertainty is room to act.
Alice Boyes, the author of the terrific 2015 book The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-
Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points, hammers on this idea.
Successfully navigating anxiety involves learning how to accept, like, and work with [it],
she writes. That means recognizing that a possible negative outcome isnt necessarily a
reason not to do something and adopting a bias toward action, even when it feels
difficult. Here we can come back to Kross. He says that when we know whats required
and haveor can marshalthe resources to cope with it, scary things become
challenges rather than threats.](https://image.slidesharecdn.com/hbr-250124145137-c8d7703b/85/hbr-org-Anxiety-When-Theres-a-Lot-to-Be-Anxious-About-pdf-2-320.jpg)
hbr.org-Anxiety When Theres a Lot to Be Anxious About.pdf
- 1. 1/3 Gretchen Gavett Anxiety When Theres a Lot to Be Anxious About hbr.org/2021/05/anxiety-when-theres-a-lot-to-be-anxious-about Amrita Marino I am a world-class catastrophizer. Everything, according to my brain, is about to go wrong. The other shoe is ready to drop. Get ready for the worst! Usually Im wrong. Most planes and cars do not crash. I have yet to be targeted by a serial killer. I was not having a heart attack at age 12. (It was chronic heartburn due to stress-eating barbecue potato chips, a story for another time.) But this past year was different. A lot of really bad things happened (and continue to happen) on a global scale. My worldview, shaped by my lifelong anxiety disorder, felt confirmed in the most horrible of ways. See! Id say to anyone whod listen (usually my husband). I told you something bad was about to happen. Just look at this! Id continue, gesturing madly at reports of wildfires, melting polar ice caps, the global pandemic, massive job losses, and attacks on democracy. I didnt revel in my anxious clairvoyance. Far from it. But my hoarding of toilet paper in early March 2020 did feel prescient. Aha! my brain observed. You were right! Keep indulging in such behavior! So, what happens to your anxiety when big, bad stuff is occurringand getting worse? Which coping tactics can you turn to when your usual ones (list making, journaling, meditation, medication) no longer seem to work? And how can you do that in a world where everyone seems more anxious? According to a February American Psychological Association survey, almost half of Americans reported feeling anxiety over the prior two weeks. Several recently released books offer some guidance. Only some of them discuss the pandemic; nevertheless, they present an opportunity to rethink the problem of anxiety and test new strategies for damping it down or, even better, putting it to more-productive use. First, the reframing. In Trust Yourself: Stop Overthinking and Channel Your Emotions for Success at Work, the executive coach Melody Wilding describes Sensitive Strivers as high achievers who are also more attuned to their emotions, the world, and the behavior of those around them, which struck a chord with me (by which I mean that I ticked nearly every box on a diagnostic quiz). If your anxiety, like mine, stems from acutely experiencing and sensing emotions, causing you to seek approval from others and put their needs first, remember that those traits have some positive aspects, too. (The HBR network podcast host Morra Aarons-Mele uses a different termanxious achieverfor the same idea.) Thats an important mindset shift, Wilding writes, but it must be accompanied by work that protects our mental health. She suggests a series of exercises to help us understand and process our emotions, build boundaries, and create better worlds for ourselves. For example, experiment with various grounding techniques
- 2. 2/3 focusing on the physical (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch) rather than the psychological to see what works for you. Or try tracking your negative thoughts to learn when and why they occur and how to recast them in a more positive light. Ethan Kross, the psychologist, neuroscientist, and professor who runs the University of Michigans Emotion & Self Control Lab, offers an equally instructive guide to both normalizing anxiety and distancing ourselves from it in his new book, Chatter: The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It. He writes that everyone faces grief, relationship turbulence, professional setbacks, [or] parenting struggles at one point or another. But he urges us to avoid co-rumination with othersspinning tales of bad- things-about-to-happen with like-minded people. Instead, he says, we need to get perspective from people who arent going through such things, who approach our anxious moments with intellect and active listening, not emotion, and who help us move toward behavioral change and solutions rather than spiraling. Even in the absence of these Spock-like characters, he says, we can create a mental separation on our own with distanced self-talkthat is, referring to ourselves in the third person. Here we go, Gretchen. You can do this is a pep talk I use for mundane situations (such as forcing myself to stop doomscrolling on Twitter and instead open up the long-form article I need to edit) as well as high-anxiety ones (say, prepping for an executive committee presentation). Kross notes that finding small moments of awe in nature can also help. (I agree: One of my best days of 2020albeit a low barwas when a hawk landed on a tree outside my kitchen window.) The youre-not-broken-but-need-better-strategies theme also carries through in Anxiety at Work: 8 Strategies to Help Teams Build Resilience, Handle Uncertainty, and Get Stuff Done, by the consultants Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton (with Anthony Gostick). From the get-go the authors acknowledge the huge range of anxieties that many of us routinely (and rightly) experience: from concern about fitting into our organizations to panic over the (true) fact that our world is subject to destabilizing, long-lasting threats, which may arise seemingly out of nowhere and disrupt not only companies but the whole economy. They insist, however, that we cant succumb to paralysis. Any action is better than none, so even if youre not 100% certain about a move, make it anyway, celebrate the small wins, and learn from the losses. Im reminded of Rebecca Solnits 2016 essay on hope in dark times: Hope locates itself in the premises that we dont know what will happen and that in the spaciousness of uncertainty is room to act. Alice Boyes, the author of the terrific 2015 book The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine- Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points, hammers on this idea. Successfully navigating anxiety involves learning how to accept, like, and work with [it], she writes. That means recognizing that a possible negative outcome isnt necessarily a reason not to do something and adopting a bias toward action, even when it feels difficult. Here we can come back to Kross. He says that when we know whats required and haveor can marshalthe resources to cope with it, scary things become challenges rather than threats.
- 3. 3/3 After all, we need actionat the individual and the collective levelnow more than ever. The pandemic is killing people. Millions are without jobs. Extreme weather is more likely. Democracy is eroding around the world. Really bad stuff is happening and will continue. But co-ruminating wont get us where we need to be. Anxiety, channeled smartly, can help. As Gostick and Elton write, We find society functions because of the worrywarts in it, not despite them.