Byron's Best - My Deployment Journal
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This guide provides information and activities for children ages 8-10 who have a parent deployed in the military. It discusses how deployment can be difficult but also an adventure. It offers ways for children to understand deployment, cope with separation from their parent, and prepare for their parent's return, such as keeping a journal, asking questions, spending time with their parent before they leave, and staying in touch through letters, care packages, and other creative ideas. The guide aims to help children feel informed and supported during their parent's deployment.
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- 1. 油 油 油 A Discovery About Deployment A Deployment Guide For Children Ages 8 10
- 2. About This Book This ideas and activities guide is written for young people with parents in the Army or Air National Guard. It can be exciting to have the military as a part of your life, but being separated from your parent because of their military duties can be difficult. In this guide you will find ways you can create a journal to help you through this deployment. You will find ways deployment can affect kids your age. It includes ways to handle separation, ideas on ways to stay in touch with your parent during the separation, ways to cope while your parent is away, and how to prepare for their return. This guide can help you learn about how to turn the frightening idea of deployment into an adventure of discovery. 油 油 油 油 油 油 油 油 油
- 3. 油 油 油 Deployment is when one or both of your parents have military duties and have to leave their families. This can be either for a special training or when their unit is called to serve in a military crisis. Sometimes you know several weeks in advance and sometimes you find out just before he or she leaves. Find Out All You Can Ask your parents questions about this separation. Sometimes parents on military duty cant tell you much about where they are going or why. Youll still feel a lot better knowing as much as you can. Ask a lot of W questions. What油is油this油deployment油 all油about?油 油 Why油are油you油going?油 油 When油are油you油leaving?油 油 油油油油Where油are油you油going?油 油 油油油油油油What油is油it油like油there?油 油 油油油油油油油油Will油you油be油safe?油 油油油油油Will油you油be油gone油long?油 油
- 4. You may want to find out how this separation will change your daily life. Many Families find Family meetings a helpful way to get information. You might want to use the following questions to help you get a talk started with your parents. Will Family rules change? _______________ What is expected of me during this deployment? ________________________ Can we write each other? _____________ Who will take care of me if Mom or Dad has to go away, too? ________________ Other things I want to know. __________
- 5. What do you want What do you want to do for your to do for your parent before he parent before he or she leaves? or she leaves? Spend as much time as possible with your parent before he or she leaves. Take plenty of pictures and videos of your parent. Make a special package to send with your parent. Some kids get together special items for their parents to take with them. Here are some suggested items you may want to consider. Pictures you have drawn Photographs of you and your parent together Chewing gum Their favorite candy Writing paper and pens Self-addressed envelopes and stamps Needle and thread and safety pins Handkerchiefs A special letter telling your parent how proud you are of them
- 6. It is hard to say goodbye. It is one of the worst things about having parents in the military. When you say goodbye you will have all kinds of mixed up feelings. So, when you say Goodbye, remember: Its okay to cry. Saying goodbye wont be easy. Saying goodbye hurts. Its okay to laugh and giggle.油
- 7. Deployment can cause you to have many different feelings. You may get: SCARED your deployed parent will get hurt, or ANGRY that they have gone away. At the same time you may feel EXCITED because this is a new experience, GREAT because there is one less person to hassle you, THRILLED because, I can do what I want. Youre like a yo yo. Dont Keep It Bottled Up! What are some of the feelings you have about being separated from your parent?
- 8. Deployments are hard. It really helps to talk with someone that you trust. Youll find out that you are normal and that these feelings are okay. Youll feel better about yourself. BROTHERS AND SISTERS COUNSELORS AND COACHES MOM AND DAD BEST FRIENDS
- 9. Picking Fights Suddenly not doing well in school Disobeying Parents, Teachers or Rules Not Wanting to Eat Nightmares or Trouble Sleeping Feeling Confused Feel Like You Dont Want To Do Anything Feel Like No One Cares About You
- 10. Connect with others Be a volunteer Fix, grow, or build something with a friend Listen to music with a friend Play video games with a friend Invite your best friend to do something fun Help Mom or Dad around the house Get up and move Go jogging Take a hike Go swimming Go skateboarding Ride a bike Try bowling Play tennis Get Your Mind Going Watch a funny movie Share a joke book with a friend Daydream Draw or paint a picture Go to a movie Read a book Play a board game Be good to yourself. Remember to do something you enjoy. Find a way to pack your troubles away. JUST DO IT!
- 11. When everything seems awful to you, this is called negative self-talk. Negative self-talk just makes you feel more down. It is important to think of your troubles with positive statements. Which roadway will you choose? You have what it takes to handle being separated from your parent and other daily challenges. Dont forget to take time every day to feel good about your successes.
- 12. Letters are a good way to stay in touch. They are cheap and can be reread. Remember that they will take a week or more to reach your parent. Here are some ideas to guide you. Use the correct mailing address. If you do not use the correct address, your mail will probably be delayed and may not arrive at all. Your parent can give this address to you. Number your letters so that if more than one letter arrives at the same time, your parent will know which one to read first. Tell news of the neighborhood, friends and relatives. Clip out newspaper articles your parent might enjoy reading. When you write, put your parents picture in front of you so you can feel like you are talking together. Write often or send cards. Answer all questions. Remember, it is important to write I love you. Mailing Address
- 13. The good thing about deployment is the fun ways you can stay in touch with each other. If writing letters is too much like schoolwork for you, here are some other creative ideas. Youll be entertaining your parent, and also giving yourself something fun to do. Family Newspaper Keep your deployed parent up to date on local and family news by being the family reporter. You can make up a newspaper or tape interviews and stories by family members. Interview family members and family friends. Write short articles about events happening at home. Write about local news, like about your soccer game. Tell ordinary things like shopping for school clothes. Include family pictures. Write some funny stories. Create your own comic strip. Care Packages Care packages are always welcome. You can have your deployed parent give you suggestions before they leave. You can also include other surprises they would enjoy.
- 15. A Movie Review Movie Title: __________________________________________________ Actors: ______________________________________________________ Plot: ________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ Rating: (circle one) excellent good fair skip Recommendation: (check one) See as soon as you can! Go if there is nothing else to do. Dont bother! This movie shouldnt have been made! A Book Review Book title: ___________________________________________________ Main characters: ______________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ Plot: ________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________ Recommendation: (check one) what a waste of a tree! Read as soon as possible! no rush to read. Read if you want.
- 16. When deployment ends, take time to think about all you have accomplished during this time. Go back through your journal and find out what you have learned and how you have changed. You will discover that you have met some challenges, mastered some difficulties, and done a good job. What Ive Learned During This Deployment In your journal, write down some of the things you have learned during this deployment.
- 17. Its Time to Celebrate! Its nice to have some special things prepared to celebrate your parents return. You can make a banner You can create coupons for your parent to use. Good Helping for Hand 20 Hugs Good for Getting My Help With Anything You Choose油
- 18. Cut out and put over a doorknob Do Not Disturb GOOD FOR USE ONE TIME EACH DAY FOR UP TO 20 MINUTES油
- 19. Like deployment, you can learn about a Reunion happening several weeks in advance and sometimes it happens suddenly. Here are some things to help you know more about what to expect. Youll probably recognize some of the same things you went through during the deployment. You need time to readjust to each other. Everyone has changed. It takes time to get used to each other again. Reunions can be stressful but you have learned how to tell if you are stressed and what you can do. You might experience strong feelings. These feelings can be positive, negative or mixed up. You may feel happy to see your parent or worried about how they have changed. You may feel uneasy, and that can be upsetting. Its normal to feel this way and, in time, it will pass. Reunions can bring misunderstandings. It may take you awhile to feel comfortable with your returning parent again. You will have to share your parent with others. Remember that each family member wants time with the parent or parents who have been away. Your deployed parent will need time alone. Be prepared to give your parents time out.