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Why Nice Guys Get Friendzoned

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More free content: https://www.lovelifesolved.com/ Why do some men get friend-zoned all the time while others never struggle with ending up as 'just' a friend? In this presentation, dating coach Kristina Krilova shares her insights on what causes men to get friendzoned and what to do about it.

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Why Do Nice Guys Get Friend-Zoned? by Lovelifesolved.com
Hey there!
Nice to meet you, Im Kristina Kirilova.
This week, I want to explain why some men get friend-zoned all the time while others never even come close to it.
To understand why guys get friend zoned, we need to look at female attraction and how many men believe it works.
Lets take a friend-zone related example to illustrate it.
Many guys think that actively doing nice stuff for her, like helping her move, will eventually make her like them more.
This is their logic: Im nice to her > She likes me > She sees how great I am > She falls in love
But this is what actually happens: Youre nice to her > She likes you > She sees how great you are > She is glad to have found such an awesome FRIEND
Think about it: Have you ever felt the butter fl ies in your stomach just because someone did something nice for you? My bet is only if you found that person attractive in the fi rst place.
L E S S O N # 1 Falling in love is an emotional process, not a logical one. More nice does not equal more desirable.
Here is a fun catch, though.
Most women, like most men, enjoy being around people who are nice to them.
And a smart, funny guy who cares about her and is around whenever she needs him is a perfect companion.
So while she believes to have found a friend, he believes shell eventually fall for him if he only sticks around long enough and proves that hes worthy of her.
Finally I found a guy who wants to be just friends! Shes so damn hot!!!
L E S S O N # 2 If you present yourself as a friend, she will perceive you as one.
And this is exactly where many nice guys go wrong.
They stay in a pretend-friendship where they are unable to state their true intentions.
But human attraction happens on an emotional level.
Thats why its hard to become emotionally attracted to someone whos never directly shown how he feels about you.
When he never shows his intentions he provokes neither positive nor negative emotions in her.
And without emotion nothing you do (not even presents and romantic gestures) will ever lead to her seeing you as a sexual option.
If you spark emotion in a woman she will at least consider you as a sexual option.
Period.
And she will either be attracted to you or not.
But shell make it pretty clear which way she leans.
But if you dont spark emotion, she wont ever consider you as more than a good friend.
And youll be automatically put in the friend-zone where there is no sex, or kissing, or hand-holding.
Actually there might be hand holding.
After all this you gotta spark emotion talk you probably wonder how one does just that.
One of the best ways to trigger emotion is through being polarising.
MARK MANSON You cannot be an attractive and life-changing presence to some women without being a joke or an embarrassment to others. You simply cant. You have to be controversial. You have to polarize. Its the name of the game.
Fortunately, being polarizing is super easy.
For starters, go through life without trying to hide anything.
A few examples:
Speak your mind and, e.g., be honest about the fact that you cant swim.
Stop wearing shoes with extra high heels that mask your inferiority complex and OWN IT.
Tell her that you fi nd her attractive and think that she might be a woman you want to get involved with.
Some people are going to adore you, others will hate your guts; but youll never end up in the friend-zone again, thats for sure.
I know that some of the advice I just gave you can seem impossibly hard to implement.
But simply being aware of where where many men go wrong is already a big first step.
Before we finish this presentation, I have one last advice you should keep close to your heart.
L E S S O N # 3 Hiding your attraction is preventing you from attracting women.
Live by this advice and youll do great things.

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Why Nice Guys Get Friendzoned

  • 1. Why Do Nice Guys Get Friend-Zoned? by Lovelifesolved.com
  • 3. Nice to meet you, Im Kristina Kirilova.
  • 4. This week, I want to explain why some men get friend-zoned all the time while others never even come close to it.
  • 5. To understand why guys get friend zoned, we need to look at female attraction and how many men believe it works.
  • 6. Lets take a friend-zone related example to illustrate it.
  • 7. Many guys think that actively doing nice stuff for her, like helping her move, will eventually make her like them more.
  • 8. This is their logic: Im nice to her > She likes me > She sees how great I am > She falls in love
  • 9. But this is what actually happens: Youre nice to her > She likes you > She sees how great you are > She is glad to have found such an awesome FRIEND
  • 10. Think about it: Have you ever felt the butter fl ies in your stomach just because someone did something nice for you? My bet is only if you found that person attractive in the fi rst place.
  • 11. L E S S O N # 1 Falling in love is an emotional process, not a logical one. More nice does not equal more desirable.
  • 12. Here is a fun catch, though.
  • 13. Most women, like most men, enjoy being around people who are nice to them.
  • 14. And a smart, funny guy who cares about her and is around whenever she needs him is a perfect companion.
  • 15. So while she believes to have found a friend, he believes shell eventually fall for him if he only sticks around long enough and proves that hes worthy of her.
  • 16. Finally I found a guy who wants to be just friends! Shes so damn hot!!!
  • 17. L E S S O N # 2 If you present yourself as a friend, she will perceive you as one.
  • 18. And this is exactly where many nice guys go wrong.
  • 19. They stay in a pretend-friendship where they are unable to state their true intentions.
  • 20. But human attraction happens on an emotional level.
  • 21. Thats why its hard to become emotionally attracted to someone whos never directly shown how he feels about you.
  • 22. When he never shows his intentions he provokes neither positive nor negative emotions in her.
  • 23. And without emotion nothing you do (not even presents and romantic gestures) will ever lead to her seeing you as a sexual option.
  • 24. If you spark emotion in a woman she will at least consider you as a sexual option.
  • 26. And she will either be attracted to you or not.
  • 27. But shell make it pretty clear which way she leans.
  • 28. But if you dont spark emotion, she wont ever consider you as more than a good friend.
  • 29. And youll be automatically put in the friend-zone where there is no sex, or kissing, or hand-holding.
  • 30. Actually there might be hand holding.
  • 31. After all this you gotta spark emotion talk you probably wonder how one does just that.
  • 32. One of the best ways to trigger emotion is through being polarising.
  • 33. MARK MANSON You cannot be an attractive and life-changing presence to some women without being a joke or an embarrassment to others. You simply cant. You have to be controversial. You have to polarize. Its the name of the game.
  • 35. For starters, go through life without trying to hide anything.
  • 37. Speak your mind and, e.g., be honest about the fact that you cant swim.
  • 38. Stop wearing shoes with extra high heels that mask your inferiority complex and OWN IT.
  • 39. Tell her that you fi nd her attractive and think that she might be a woman you want to get involved with.
  • 40. Some people are going to adore you, others will hate your guts; but youll never end up in the friend-zone again, thats for sure.
  • 41. I know that some of the advice I just gave you can seem impossibly hard to implement.
  • 42. But simply being aware of where where many men go wrong is already a big first step.
  • 43. Before we finish this presentation, I have one last advice you should keep close to your heart.
  • 44. L E S S O N # 3 Hiding your attraction is preventing you from attracting women.
  • 45. Live by this advice and youll do great things.